Shoot the biggest round you can shoot effectively.
This was a sentiment with a lot of popularity around the internet and real-life shooting communities when I joined this board. Based on this thread it looks like it's still a popular notion here, but that's changed elsewhere on the internet and in real life where the FBI's swap to 9mm has resulted in a growing number of LE agencies following.
Popularity, as we all know, doesn't equate to being correct. And sensitivity around the question is just an overlay of emotion as others have said, so let me try to make some points absent of ego.
Point 1: The common service calibers, given modern premium SD loads, tend to have negligible differences in performance as best we can measure with gel testing. If you buy this, the quoted sentiment above might start to unravel a bit.
Point 2: Given the same shooter and Newtonian physics, 9mm can be fired as accurately, faster, than .45ACP. Grant that there may be a learning curve if one has spent their entirely life with the latter, but it should be short and overcome with an afternoon at the range for most.
Point 3: Given a similar platform, a 9mm will have greater capacity.
Point 4: Greater capacity means (1) the ability to stay in the fight longer; (2) more chances for a stop; (3) delivered more quickly; and (4) as accurately as the .45, given practice/overcoming the short learning curve mentioned above.
Near as I can tell, these are conclusions indicated by the preponderance of evidence, and go beyond opinions.
That said, it can be easy for any of us to confuse opinions with facts, and a couple standout ideas around the topic warrant a closer look.
I prefer the .45 ACP's "push" of a recoil more than the "snap" of a 9mm. Preference for one over the other does not actually change the physics involved; 9mm recoils less, and if one is "effective" (however we define that) with a .45, they have the potentia to be moreso with a 9mm.
I like the feel and trigger of a 1911. I do too. Wouldn't give up my 1911s for anything. Also, realizing that I can get double the capacity with less weight in something roughly the same size, many rational shooters would say that justifies an effort to give other platforms an honest go, and to recognize the difference between "I can't shoot anything else as well as a 1911," and "I won't actually try to shoot anything else as well as a 1911." There's nothing wrong with favoring a 1911, but again to favor a platform is not the same thing as to have it be objectively superior.