bersa also makes a full size 17 shot 9mm caled the thinder pro, it is usually in the 299 range, for the stainless it is 329. looks alot like a cz 75b crossd with a browning hipower.
the .380 is not a good choice for a "nightstand" gun. i mean it will not be carried, and you are stacking the deck in favor of a bad guy taking 2 indirect hits and pulling his piece out and murdering your wife in a home invasion.
i hope it never happens to you or your wife (home invasion) but sometimes one needs to be blunt to let others see the light., the gun at home with my wife (5'4" and 115lbs) while im at work, is a eaa witness steel frame setup for 10mm with buffalo bore 200 grain HP's they make just under 800 lbs of Muzzle energy, and the other gun at home with her is a ruger SR 40, and a mini-14
i love her to death and i make sure she has the caliber of guns that a good hit on the upper torso will knock a BG down for the count.
if you must have a .380 for her, in the 300 range, id say for sure, get her a bersa thinder "plus" it is the same style walther .380 bersa with a 15 shot mag. decock and all that and youd be suprised on how accurate and smoother the trigger is than most
now you could finda a sigma , or i have atl east for 200-215 used like new in box. the local gun store had 5 of them, 3 .40s and 2 9's the .40s were the 215 dollar ones and the 9's were 200
they say there is no better grip design for a woman than the cz guns, they have a .32 that holds 15, and nest would be the beretta 84's and the BDA'a.
and then there are the kel tec's the p-11 (10+1) and the p-9 (7 or 8 +1 depending onthe flush floor plate or finger rest floor plate)
also there is a company called i forget but they make a kel tec clone thing in 9mm
then the best bet would be to get her a millenium pro, or a taurus 709 slim
the mill pro can be had in .32, .380, 9mm, .40, .45acp. the .380 and 9mm millpro's (taurus) hold 12 and can take extended mags from the 24/7 line giving 17+1 and you can get the mag extension sleeve for them and it makes it a long legged full size grip like the 24/7 line, and then the 709 slim with its 9mm holding 7+1 this is also a taurus gun.
and one more thing, is a 1911 is built as a 9mm it will work just fine , as it was supposed to be a 9mm and is set up accordingly