Confused learner here...
I am new to the topic entirely and trying to learn, so excuse my ignorance please. I recently start shoting and been at a range few times (about 300 rounds so far). Today, I went to the range with my wife for her to try out few guns. Since I intend to purchase a .45, I wanted my wife to try it as well. The "cowboy" behind the counter grilled me for asking .45 rentals and lectured me about the calibers. He "allowed" me to try a 9mm. We both expanded a box and moved up to .45 using an HK compact and then HK Expert. I already knew I shot better with .45 (today I had five out of five rounds within less than 2" at 30' - group of three holes touching each other and the other two touching each other
which made the guy at the next booth to take a step back and checked me out, eyes wide open
) but turns out my wife - first timer - did better as well, relatively speaking.
My question is what is it with all different calibers, lengths, grains, necks, coppers, leads, hallows, etc? How do I learn which one is the right one for my gun, which one is the one right for the purpose it is intended for? Do I trust the Wallmart "team member", local supply store clerk/owner, forum advice, etc? I am rather confused. I've been to few "pro" shops and have already been told things not accurate that even I know about (i.e., date codes don't mean anything on HK guns, P7M8 is not available yet, etc...).
Whom do I trust considering I was already exposed to inconsistent advice/information already with my so very limited exposure in thes matters. I don't think I believe anything you may say neither...