wacki
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Long story short my girlfriend has an extremely controlling and abusive ex-boyfriend that won't let her go and it's been carrying on for over a year despite the fact that he dumped her long before she met me and he currently lives/works in Puerto Rico for a fortune 500 company. Puerto Rico is a long ways away from Indiana but that doesn't stop him from leaving 15 messages on her voice mail in a single day telling her how worthless she is and how great he is. He's had her in a tough spot as they co-bought a house and she desperately wants to avoid a legal battle. Needless to say he's a control freak and has been using this against her to the maximum extent. It took a while to raise the funds to buy him out but the paper work is currently being processed and should be finalized in 6 weeks. However, today we had an unexpected visit from Puerto Rico. He called her while she was at work to tell her he was going through all of her (and it appears my) stuff and basically cuss her out. He also threatened to put me in the hospital if he ever met me in person. When we got home the first thing we saw was a disembodied head of a stuffed Koala on the floor. Getting the police involved is something she wants to avoid until the paperwork is finalized due to possible legal battles.
If you want some more details about this psycho you can read this thread which was closed due to possible relationship advice.... which I don't want because we treat each other very well. I'm only worried about psycho and I'm desperately trying to avoid a situation where anyone will discharge a gun.
At this point I'm thinking the best thing for her to do is when he threatens to "put me in the hospital" is for her to tell him "if you do attack him then things are very likely to spiral out of control and bad things are likely to happen to everyone involved". Right now she simply remains silent.
That phrase plays on his fears of a lack of control without bruising his ego or posing a challenge that he feels he has to step to. My goal is to disarm the situation with neutral language.... if that's at all possible. I'm going to look into Indiana wire-tap laws as well and have my girlfriend record their conversations.
Any advice you can give will be appreciated.
If you want some more details about this psycho you can read this thread which was closed due to possible relationship advice.... which I don't want because we treat each other very well. I'm only worried about psycho and I'm desperately trying to avoid a situation where anyone will discharge a gun.
At this point I'm thinking the best thing for her to do is when he threatens to "put me in the hospital" is for her to tell him "if you do attack him then things are very likely to spiral out of control and bad things are likely to happen to everyone involved". Right now she simply remains silent.
That phrase plays on his fears of a lack of control without bruising his ego or posing a challenge that he feels he has to step to. My goal is to disarm the situation with neutral language.... if that's at all possible. I'm going to look into Indiana wire-tap laws as well and have my girlfriend record their conversations.
Any advice you can give will be appreciated.