altitude_19
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I'll try to make this short. I'm in a dispute with a neighbor (2 houses down) over a dog fight. Our animals got into it, his was more seriously injured than mine, and we're trying to work out exactly how much I should pay in the way of restitution. The man is an absolute emotional time-bomb. We have never spoken for more than 10 minutes without him shouting, cursing, and generally acting like a child. The first time he approached me, I had to concoct a ruse to go back into my house and call the police to mediate. The second time (a few days ago) he only lasted about 5 minutes before he got so mad he stormed back to his house. His wife was with him this time and stayed to talk and I like to think we actually made headway towards finally settling this. I'm hoping to deal with her exclusively from now on, due to her clearly being the cooler head in the marriage.
1.) TACTICS CHECK: I don't think the husband is in any state of mind to participate in any kind of a productive discussion. If he comes back, I intend to assertively instruct him to step off the porch and around the railing (physical barrier) before going outside myself. I intend to have a handgun (concealed) and pepperspray on my person. I will tell him I don't feel comfortable speaking with him and can't afford trouble, and he is prohibited from coming to my door again. I haven't told him I was armed during our other exchanges and I intend to keep it under wraps.
2.) The knowledge battle: I've already tried to find out what I can about this couple. I know who owns the house (she does for some wacky reason I can't figure out), when they were married, and that his daughter from a previous marriage visits often because she requires treatment at the local hospital for a chronic condition resulting from heavy drinking/drug use. Do you think a background check is in order on Mr. Temper-tantrum? How does one go about accomplishing such a check? I would be interested in any prior convictions and may even want to run a check on his son to see if he constitutes a likely threat. Any thoughts are appreciated.
1.) TACTICS CHECK: I don't think the husband is in any state of mind to participate in any kind of a productive discussion. If he comes back, I intend to assertively instruct him to step off the porch and around the railing (physical barrier) before going outside myself. I intend to have a handgun (concealed) and pepperspray on my person. I will tell him I don't feel comfortable speaking with him and can't afford trouble, and he is prohibited from coming to my door again. I haven't told him I was armed during our other exchanges and I intend to keep it under wraps.
2.) The knowledge battle: I've already tried to find out what I can about this couple. I know who owns the house (she does for some wacky reason I can't figure out), when they were married, and that his daughter from a previous marriage visits often because she requires treatment at the local hospital for a chronic condition resulting from heavy drinking/drug use. Do you think a background check is in order on Mr. Temper-tantrum? How does one go about accomplishing such a check? I would be interested in any prior convictions and may even want to run a check on his son to see if he constitutes a likely threat. Any thoughts are appreciated.