Ever see a relationship decline after talking about guns?

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When the "why do you think you need that?" comes up I like to point out that the chance that they will be involved in a violent crime is only slightly lower than being involved in a serious car accident.... And they are required by law to wear a seatbelt. As far as a date going south 'cus of guns... If'n it happens that soon consider yourself lucky. I was in a relationship for a few years when the little lady decided there was a "reasonable " amount of firearms to own. Oh... NFA was "just out of the question". Now keep in mind we were not married... So I kept chugggin along on my 3ffl train. It was three more years :uhoh: before I could buy a rifle and not have to sneak it into the safe.....
 
I guess I'm getting too old and cranky. I no longer have the patience or inclination to explain my actions to other supposed adults. You either have a problem with my gun toting or you don't.
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Couldn't agree more. Not many people know I carry, and the ones who do aren't the sort to announce it. I have my reasons for carrying. They are based on real-world experience, careful thought and a great deal of training. I see it as a reasonable precaution against situations in which reason won't help. If it makes someone else uncomfortable, that's their problem, not mine.

Still, the whole anti thing is really a question of blindly accepting what you're told (which is usually propaganda) as opposed to thinking for yourself. I have no patience for people who live their lives that way, and if it turns out someone's like that, I see no point in pursuing a relationship.
 
I just took my girlfriend to the range for the first time last weekend. Needless to say, she thoroughly enjoyed it and has decided that she has to learn how to be a good shoot.

+1 to her and me.
 
I had to have a serious talk about guns with my current girlfriend, not so much about having guns, since she's for it as long as kids cant get into them, but how to raise kids around guns. she thought no kid should have anything even resembling a gun (toy guns, cap guns, etc) until they are at least 14. I had to straighten that out, im a firm beleiver that kids need to be started earlier than that.
 
she thought no kid should have anything even resembling a gun (toy guns, cap guns, etc) until they are at least 14. I had to straighten that out, im a firm beleiver that kids need to be started earlier than that.
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My father taught me how to drive a car the minute I could reach the pedals and see over the steering wheel at the same time. Just in case we were ever out fishing or camping and something bad happened.

Guns weren't much different. If I could reach the trigger, foregrip, and had the strength to hold the gun and pull the trigger I was taught how to use that gun.
 
Exactly how i feel majors. I had toy guns all the time growing up, had a bb gun at age 7 (under parental supervision of course) and went up from there. I feel its important for kids to start at a young age since it teaches them respect for all firearms.
 
There was a young lady I knew, who moved to Boston as a film student. She did a bunch of indie style documentaries, including one she named "Truck". We spent a lot of time on the phone back then, and were a hair's-breadth from being romantically involved.
She did a film on independent women, and was introduced to a large firearms collection owned by an older gal. She was amazed at the self-sufficient nature of this woman, and enjoyed shooting some of her firearms.
She'd moved to Frisco to continue her education, and by the time Columbine happened, she'd come to decide that gun owners should all be put to death. That's no hyperbole. She actually told me we should be trucked off to concentration camps as a danger to society, and that most of the film students/instructors at her school were of the same mind.
The last time we ever talked. I reminded her of Hitler's legacy, and that she seems to be proudly carrying it forward.

What a shame. An intelligent, creative, whimsical woman... destroyed by a political agenda, a victim of carefully cultured fear.
 
If it makes someone else uncomfortable, that's their problem, not mine.
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I understand what you mean. The problem is too many have this mentalityl and have not protected our rights in the past. I wasn't old enough to vote when a lot of the first anti-gun laws started. Now it is an up hill battle to keep the rights we do have. It is fine to follow this thinking when dealing with an idividual. When it comes to Bills and voting, it is problem for all of us.
 
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Abtomat:sorry you could not leave Mass. I did.i lived there all my life 70 yrs.best move I made.90 acres great deer got 4 last fall.I'm insc now.
 
Good for you...

I think you took the right direction there. Better to be open and honest about it. Also, if the relationship continues, it's best that she knows you're carrying... also what to do if you get into a "situation".

I just moved to Texas a year ago and got me CHL shortly thereafter. My wife, God bless her, doesn't want a gun, doesn't want to shoot a gun, but will take you on with a Louiseville Slugger any day of the week. When I told her I was getting a CHL she said, "Well, you better go buy a gun that you can carry concealed". I knew there was something special about her:)

She's perfectly ok with me carrying, and she's recently decided that it's a good idea if she carry's pepper spray. I am elated. We'll soon be moving to Dallas and chances are she'll be working downtown. I would prefer that she carry a gun, but the spray is at least something she can use to open a path for retreat. I told her that if she's with me I will not hesitate to use the gun if the situation dictates. Don't mind saying that won me a few points too:rolleyes:

Enough about how great my wife is... If the girl has the slightest tendancy to oppose you on this issue, get away. She could become a serious liability in a bad situation, not to mention get either of you hurt by a foolish move or statement. She doesn't have to necessarily want to be intimately involved with the whole CCW and shooting sport or SD premise, but opposition has the potential for far too many problems in my mind.
 
IME women are either really enthusiastic about guns and shooting and want to go to the range, or they say, "Guns are bad, they kill people".

11 months ago I met a girl, we went to the range on our 2nd date, and we got married this past January. Nuff said :).

Just my .02,
LeonCarr
 
couples too

Since I've always been married, I don't have any lost girlfriend stories to tell however, I do remember the time a couple came to my house for dinner for the first (and only) time.

I worked with the man and we all had been to a few work picnics and such, anyhow to make a boring story a little shorter, this couple was from Canada.

When we welcomed them into our house the wife noticed a Pennsylvania long rifle that I had hanging as a decoration and turned to me with a serious look on her face, "are there firearms in this house?". I just smiled a little bit and said "several".:rolleyes:

Shortly after that they left and it was quite clear there was no need for any more invites. Actually to me it was no great loss.
 
Some time back I was casually dating two different women. We hadn't gotten serious yet, so it was alright to do this. I took both of them to the range and they weren't particularly anti. The one was very kind and sensitive. The other one was smart and sexy.

One night I was having dinner with the sexy one, and she said, "if we should have children, I we won't have any guns in the house." I went on to marry the other girl and have had no regrets. We hope to have many well armed children in the future.
Mauserguy
 
One night I was having dinner with the sexy one, and she said, "if we should have children, I we won't have any guns in the house." I went on to marry the other girl and have had no regrets. We hope to have many well armed children in the future.
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Now that is how you narrow the field! :D
 
I have been married many years and when i was dateing my wife i tried to scare her by slaming the back patio door and then went to the front door thinking i was very funny well she met me at the door with her colt detective 38special and needless to say i learned my lesson, and i am very blessd to have a wife who encourges me to buy as many guns as i can afford:) :) :) :)

Spacecoastguy
 
Abtomat:sorry you could not leave Mass. I did.i lived there all my life 70 yrs.best move I made.90 acres great deer got 4 last fall.I'm insc now.
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When my tunnel to NH is complete I'm outta here. :) I'll never leave New England, but the flakey laws in MA have me heading for a neighboring state as soon as I have the means.

Moparguy's post reminded me of something. I was working a computer job a couple months ago at a familiy's house. All of the sudden the teenage daughter starts screaming "Mom! Mom! Billy's made a gun!" with about the same note of alarm you'd expect if a ninja had suddenly dropped through the skylight.

The mother ran into the room where Billy (about 6 years old) was and started angrily admonishing him about the evils of his ways. Saying over and over again "Do guns have any purpose? No!" and "What do guns do? They only hurt people!" and similar remarks. What had Billy done? He bent some kind of flexible structural toy in an "L" shape and was saying "bang bang" as young boys often do.

This scene sickened me to watch, but in the interests of getting paid for my rather lengthly repair I had to keep my mouth shut. A lot of people around here are similarly daffy. Such as workers at my church's rummage sale removing all "military" toys (for example, a plastic C-130 transport) because they didn't want to promote violence or war. I think I managed to correct that situation, but it's a good example of what the world's coming to.
 
It's funny. My gf has been shooting/hunting for a long time now and I just got my FOID. I'm glad shooting will be a fun activity that we can do together
 
I met a really nice looking girl while still in college and interest bloomed for both of us. Since I didn't have a car, we couldn't go out on dates much but I did borrow a car one day and took her shooting. She was not raised around guns and knew only that they could kill people. That afternoon she came to understand that the gun we were shooting was no more dangerous than the car we were riding in. It all depended on the person using the gun or car. She trusted me to operate both safely. We were married that summer and this year we will celebrate our 44th anniversary.

Good shooting and be safe.
LB
 
"if we should have children, I we won't have any guns in the house."

Every time I hear someone with this attitude I could just scream. Some with this attitude think it is perfectly ok for an LEO or Marine, Army, Military person to carry a firearm. Do they Really think 6week of basic or a year of military service will produce the kind of Rifleman that the country needs in a two way fireing range. Would they hire a Lawyer with 6 weeks of Law school?

My Friend, if she had to get off of the phone that quickly when things were not going her way, don't waste your time! Plenty opportunity to be had elsewhere. I strongly suggest dateing others and if she so happen to call you up and take you up on a range day, by all means go ahead. Until then I would drop it.
 
I went on to marry the other girl and have had no regrets. We hope to have many well armed children in the future.
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"May you live in health and have many well-armed children in the future!"

I'm gonna start using that all the time, now. :)

"if we should have children, I we won't have any guns in the house."
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Then there's that. I've heard this in several variations before. A couple of years ago, there was a guy in front of me at the supermarket, and a woman's young son pointed out his gun. The woman freaked and screamed, "how can you have that in here?!? There's CHILDREN here!"

Is there something wrong with me that I thought, "yeah...and they're better protected by this stranger than their own smothering narrowminded zealot of a mother?"

Whenever I hear the phrase "the children" in capital letters, I cringe.
 
I don't think I would talk about it that early in a relationship. Better to wait till she gets to know and trust you a little better. Trust is earned and it takes time. Many gun crimes are of a "domestic" nature. That is why many women are nervous about men with guns. Be patient and enlighten her slowly.
 
I don't think I would talk about it that early in a relationship. Better to wait till she gets to know and trust you a little better. Trust is earned and it takes time. Many gun crimes are of a "domestic" nature. That is why many women are nervous about men with guns. Be patient and enlighten her slowly.
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Yes, but once you do break it to her, after said amount of time, comes the "how can you betray me like that" line of bull. Either way, it's a hard conversation. I honestly think it is better to get it out of the way early, so that there is no "broken trust" possibilities.
 
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