Ever see a relationship decline after talking about guns?

[Taurus 66]

Once in a relationship, CCW is not needed anymore in most public places. Now I know the reason behind why unarmed men open the door for women allowing them to enter an establishment first. Who says chivalry is dead?

 

[nelson133]

I dated a lady a few times without telling her I carried. We went to a less than safe area of Detroit and I told her when we got there that if anything happened, just be sure to get behind me. She asked me if I was carrying a gun and I said yes.
After our visit, we went back to her house and visited a while and then I went home. 3 days later she called and said that she was having nightmares about being around a gun and didn't want me to have a gun around her. I explained that the gun was something I would always have with me. She is now an ex-girl friend.

 

[TonyB]

I went out w/ a girl who was a "granola eater"....well the time comes when we're..how should I put this......bed room bound...upon entering my room,she sees my 2 shotguns and one rifle hanging on the wall...apparenly a mood killer.
she made me take them out of the room(which I did for the night(I'm no dummy)..well long story short,she's gone and my gun collection has grown since.Now I'm married to someone who not only supports me having guns,but once got pissed because we went out and I didn't carry......oh yeah,and she always tells her friends my favorite line.."all women need 2 things,a cell phone and a handgun."

 

[jlbraun]

Yes, I have.

Girlfriend of 3 years. I'm still sad about it six months later.

The current girl was informed of the guns the morning after date #3 by me handing her my CHL. She said "I'm not really a gun person, but thank you for telling me. I really respect that you did." I don't tell her when I carry, but she has a good idea of it when we go somewhere and I don't drink.

 

[Drifting Fate]

Oh, yes.

In this modern world, I can't imagine a guy who has dated at all to not have run into some anti-gun women.

But, I wouldn't call it a decline so much as a wake-up.

 

[Damien45]

I actually had the "gun conversation" with a girl I have been talking to today. We met 2 weeks ago, but due to my schedule have not been on a date yet. Well the gun conversation came up today. Had a good long debate (as she is of the mindset that guns are too dangerous and the police should protect the individual). She did say that she isn't going to change her mind in a day, but that I had very good arguements and she can see my point.

Oh, and we are having dinner on Tuesday.

 

[Wire]

Getting pulled over with a CCW can be interesting.

Oh, yeah, with or without passengers.
I got pulled over a few months ago with my mother in the car..."I have a permit...there is a pistol..."
Officer was unconcerned, as was my mother. She's got a permit, too, though wasn't armed at the time.

 

[10 Ring Tao]

Yeah, just last summer.

We'd been dating and having a pretty good time in public and behind closed doors, when I brought her home and wanted to show off some of my favorite toys.

Standing in front of the safe, she refused to even touch one, let alone hold one.

Needless to say I was sorely disappointed, as she had seen my carry gun sitting around and never said anything negative about it. Unfortunately, I wasn't surprised. She is an elementary school teacher, 100% emotion driven, and horribly timid.

 

[ShooterMcGavin]

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She told me that one of her friends was threatened recently, etc., etc.

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She gave the usual comments... "why did you have a gun with you?"

It's amazing how little communication there is between different parts of the brain...

That is so true with some people. I guess she figured that guns were unnecessary because her friend came out unharmed, in that one circumstance.

I was telling a friend the story of the date I had. When I mentioned the part where she said, "it's West Seattle, it's not that bad", my friend appropriately commented: "it's just the Tacoma Mall (shooting)". There I go again... preaching to the choir.

 

[Frog48]

I guess I've had good luck with women, in this regard.

One of my ex's, her dad is an FFL. Two other ex's have CHL's. And the majority of the girls I've dated have dads and/or brothers that are into hunting, a few of which own hunting arms themselves. Needless to say, very few of them had any problem with guns.

Even of the ones that were scared of guns, it was never a key factor in the relationship.

 

[Tried'nTrue]

...The other one was smart and sexy. One night I was having dinner with the sexy one, and she said, "if we should have children, I we won't have any guns in the house."

Meaning no undue slight to the smart'n'sexy ex, but that attitude, while commonplace, isn't terribly smart...

I guess I've had good luck with women, in this regard. One of my ex's, her dad is an FFL. Two other ex's have CHL's. And the majority of the girls I've dated have dads and/or brothers that are into hunting, a few of which own hunting arms themselves.

I notice that you're from Texas, Grant48. It makes me stop and consider how mere location can so radically dictate the beliefs of not only individuals, but an entire society. Compare the casual and, I might add, realistic perspective of many Texans to the fear-bubble mentality of so many people in Massachusetts. See what I mean?

Perhaps all of us single men should move to Texas... we could give those lucky fellows a run for their money (and women)

 

[TexasRifleman]

Perhaps all of us single men should move to Texas...

Just avoid Dallas and Austin, the women spoken of in this thread all live in those 2 cities.

If you are not metrosexual with more hair and skin care products then these women, you stand no chance. (Not that you'd want one)

 

[Trebor]

My wife just took a rifle class with my on Saturday. So, naaaaahh!

 

[evilelvis]

I'll post mine, because I am relatively new to using guns so it was a big surprise to her that after going to the range a few times I was "sold".

Anyway, as I was babbling all about the pistol I bought (still don't have it yet - waiting for the background check to complete) my girlfriend decided to freak out and breakdown about a story of her abusive father (who is dead now) carrying her mother out in the street with his gun pointed at her head. That image is burned into her head.

That did not make for a pleasant evening but the next day she calmed down because there is a very important issue that she realized after freaking out:

I am not her dad

So anyway, everything went quickly downhill when I first started the process of this purchase but she did come around after she realized this was not an emotional issue. You can't get mad a shovel can you? She's coming to the range with me once I get it, and like I explained to her, everyone who has a fear of guns or is apprehensive needs to learn to use them and gain the respect and it will transform your view of them. Like I told her, shooting a real pistol is a lot different from what they have been portrayed as in the media. I really think she'll be excited after we go.

 

[TexasRifleman]

I am not her dad

Oh but trust me, everything bad that you do from now on will be compared to that, and you will be required to do some "child raising" to teach her things she should have learned as a child but didn't. Then she will resent you for treating her like a child.

In other words.

RUN

Been there, married and divorced that.

 

[Reddbecca]

Any woman that doesn't want to be with me, simply because I own and use guns and see nothing wrong with it, but a serious problem with NOT having one, simply isn't worth my time or the heartbreak that'll follow.

 

[dasmi]

The woman I'm seeing now has had zero exposure to guns. Well, until last week, when I took her to the range for the first time. She loved it. Early in our relationship, when we were just casually talking, I made sure to mention my firearms collection, and my shooting hobby. Figured I'd get it out of the way up front. Luckily, she's A-OK with it, and wants one of her own.

 

[Frog48]

Just avoid Dallas

Thats the truth. I lived in Fort Worth until about a year ago... Its amazing what a difference the 30 miles makes between FW and Dallas, they're worlds apart.

 

[Ohio Rifleman]

I haven't really "dated" yet per se...but I have had some run-ins with anti-gun girls whom I thought could've been friends. Sadly, I can't be friends with an anti. Life's too short. If they're neutral on guns, fine, if they're gun nuts, that's awesome! But, I just can't be with an anti.

 

[Tried'nTrue]

Just avoid Dallas and Austin, the women spoken of in this thread all live in those 2 cities.

Thanks for the tip. As Grant48 pointed, I've heard that Dallas and Ft. Worth are 30 miles and a world apart. For daily living, I'd greatly prefer Ft. Worth.

If you are not metrosexual with more hair and skin care products then these women, you stand no chance.

Ha! I suppose that's a game I've lost before I even tried, then! Oh well, in this regard, my loss is actually my gain

 

[nomadboi]

Met my wife in college, when owning a firearm wasn't really an option anyway. I will say that getting guns and dealing with all the related issues hasn't done wonders for my marriage...

 

[Warren]

"Nine millimeter!"
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"I'm leaving, cuase you are soooo clueless!"

 

[Cesiumsponge]

Gotta love the puget sound area...

Its okay to smoke pot (which I have no actual issue with), but if someone lights up a cigarette, buys a malt liquor, gets a lap dance, eats a hamburger, throws recylable bottle in the garbage, or carries a handgun, someone call the authorities!

I have no luck either. It doesn't help that most of the hangouts are Starbucks, wheat grass cafes, and campus bookstores littered with feminists that have a chip on their shoulder

Where are the anti-granola, anti-road bicyling, pro-gun hangouts?

 

[Aguila Blanca]

I had to have a serious talk about guns with my current girlfriend, not so much about having guns, since she's for it as long as kids cant get into them, but how to raise kids around guns. she thought no kid should have anything even resembling a gun (toy guns, cap guns, etc) until they are at least 14. I had to straighten that out, im a firm beleiver that kids need to be started earlier than that.

14?

Good Lord. By 14 I had been shooting for at least 7 or 8 years and had trophies (albeit very SMALL trophies) and awards (albeit rather insignificant awards) to show for it. If'n a kid doesn't know one end of a bbomstick from t'other by the age of 14, it's almost too late.

 

[Damien45]

Where are the anti-granola, anti-road bicyling, pro-gun hangouts?

At the gun ranges.