My 6 year old neice was recently attacked , requiring 18 stitches on her arm.
I had to find out from a 3rd party...not a family member...many days after the incident. Quite traumatic , and the dog is in quarantine for 2 wks , to see if rabid and the series of shots needs to be given.
I had to tell Mom about her granddaughter...that went over well...
You see I bought and paid for fees, license, training and the monies to allow her daddy to get his CCW. I even found him one hell of a deal on a firearm.
He took the class, yes his A/C went out and had that expense at home, but remember I had everything paid for. He just didn't "want to". So this taking "personal responsibility" and all that goes with it has ostrasized Me from the rest of the family. Except Mom.
So only once in a blue moon do I see the niece or other family for that matter. Neice wants to see me, "I'm pretty cool and neat"...but "this" Uncle "might" ...well hell who knows what "ideas" she might get in her head.
I was only given a few details 3rd party, when her daddy was asked about a firearm.( by 3rd party) ..the .357 was unloaded, locked up in a gun vault, locked in another metal safe...Mix of Cringe, guilt, don't want to talk about...
So Grandma is just going to "show up" since neice is recovering at home and one parent needs to be home with her for a few days still. Parents are taking turns...Grandma is "sure hoping" her daddy is home when she takes some fun food that only a Grandma and Grandaughter can share.
Oh I could go by ...instead I will send her a package that is special b/t her and I...that stuff she and I have 'established'.
Real damn tempted to get a youth model NEF in 20 ga... and have it "delivered" to and for my neice...if I'm gonna set the last "brick in the wall "....the "wall the family has chosen to "hide behind". and keeps me out...might as well really leave something to remember me by.
Give the neice some time...my money says she won't be like her parents, got some of that "rebel gene" this Uncle has...thank goodness.
Not to say the firearm would, or should have been used...the principle that ticks me off is " the tools of mindset, and option of such tools like a firearm" were not even in the toolbox.