Gun laundering (not what you think)

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I envy those of you that have sympathetic wives. Mine is not. Love her to death but not a shooting enthusiast like I am.

I find myself ordering guns and having them shipped to my buddy's house. She's not against it because of a financial issue but she doesn't feel I need the firearms that I want.

Am I the only one?

My buddy and I joke and call it "gun laundering".
 
Sorry to say this, but I think you have to choose. Sneaking around behind her back is not part of a healthy relationship.

But of course I've never had a wife, so what would I know.
 
Our marriage is very healthy, no doubt. I've been married for 8 happy years.

Shooting is the only thing we don't have in common.
 
I'd strongly suggest that you work HARD at honesty in your relationship with your wife. If you have to lie about what you are doing you have a serious problem. You need to have a talk with her and come to some agreement about this.

Living a lie with your spouse is very bad juju and it will come back and bite you.

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I think you two could probably work out some kind of compromise. Is there something she wants that you don't approve of? kids?;)

I don't think she would be happy if at some point in the future she finds out you have been lying to her for years.

Have you told her how important this is to you? Be honest and tell her how it makes you feel. Sounds a little wimpy, but maybe it's worth a try.
 
I feel lucky that way... My wife is just as "crazy" as me... She really enjoy herself when she can fire a 44 mag or so... And with her black belt in Aikido..well, it can be unhealthy to argue with her lol;-) She is the Closest to Lara Croft as you can get.
 
Wow...I posted this expecting a light hearted "ha ha" type of response and instead get Dr. Phil-esque responses.

Threw me for a loop since this is a shooting forum.

Appreciate the concern, folks.
 
One of my local gun shops has a great system for your situation. You go in and buy a gun from them and give them your home number. They call your house at a time you specify when the missus will be home and you wont. They explain to her that you entered in a raffle for a gun and have won! You get home and the better half is thrilled to tell you the good news. Here's the disclaimer. Usually even women who are not into firearms are excited you won something. My buddy tried this little trick and came home to find his wife dressed with a big grin. She wanted to accompany him to the shop and see the gun he had won. Too bad for him the gun was in the trunk of the car already.:eek: Backfired is an understatement!:cuss:
 
I think you two could probably work out some kind of compromise. Is there something she wants that you don't approve of?
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I tried this with my girlfriend. I told her its really important to me that she at least TRY shooting; she might like it. She reluctantly agreed (hasn't happened yet) but I didn't want it to be a burden, so I told her for every time she comes to the range with me, I'll go shopping with her, and not complain the whole time. She came around after that.
 
Yeap get a .22 cal. Leave the paper targets at home. Get some reactive targets. water filled bottle, pop cans, a bag of onions, any thing that will move good once hit.

Tell her that you would realy like her to go out and try this one time and that if she doesn't have a little fun then she doesn't have to do it again and you won't ask.

Leave the big guns in the trunk unless she ask for them.

If she doesn't like it then just let her know that you appriciate her trying something that you really enjoy doing.

If she finds a little fun in it you might find yourself with a big ol' gun safe in short.

If your family ever moves how are you going to explain the extra boxes.

My wife has horses. Loves them. I think there money burners ATV's if you don't ridem' you don't feedem If an ATV bucks you of it's your own darn fault. She can have her horse.

I on the other hand like to Reload and reload a lot. But she like to shoot every once in a while. Big guns small guns she hunts. So I have the things I like and she has her's.

We have found over the years the thing that made our relationship go down hill was when we knew we should tell but didn't. Kinda funny (not) how things will find there way back.

If you think your wife is not going to like it. Tell her and hope she understand, Cause if somebody else does things are going to get ugly.

Secrets are present that should make them light up with joy when you give it to them.
 
deepfat said:
but she doesn't feel I need the firearms that I want.
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Can you explain that a bit more?

If she simply thinks you have too many, well... people naturally tend to accumulate stuff, be it clothes, shoes, DVDs or guns. As long as it's not putting any financial strain on your relationship and she's allowed to buy what she wants to, who cares?

If she's of the sort who feels the need to have practical justification for anything she buys, you may just need to explain that sometimes people buy stuff, tangible or otherwise, simply because it's fun. That is its entire purpose, no more, no less.

Don't turn it into a guilt trip or argue justification, but try to find something in her life that approximates your gun-buying habits and point out the similarities.
 
Be up front about it. It is your Hobby. Cheaper than a mistress (well a little cheaper:D)

Try to involve her. Share and do things she likes. We camp a lot, and I always take weapons along. She got started on a .22 BLR with a scope. She hit every target and really enjoyed shooting after that. She got an 4x4 whitetail this year with her own Remington 700bdl in .270. It was her 2nd year hunting, she never got a shot off the first year. I helped her understand the sport and now she is a companion of the first rank.
 
You've got to have something you're independant with. My fiance and I are upfront about stuff with each other, but we each have funds that we're not accountable to the other in the least for spending. Anything I want to buy with that money I buy. Anything she wants to buy, she buys.

It works out really well for us.
 
My wife feels them same way when I decide I need something new. She is very into guns and shooting, she just looks at it more level headed then I do. We usually come to a time line compromise, meaning, she knows I'm going to get it, but to appease her, I'll hold off until the right time.
 
I wish my buddy had FFL so I could have guns shipped to his house. Save some money and drive time.
 
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