Folks,
Y'all will all have to make your own decisions in regard to if, and when, and how you will defend yourselves and your loved ones. That's a given.
None of us will very likely be there to help out any of the rest of us with their gunfights. Likewise, courtroom battles, if it comes to that. You're on your own, pretty much, you and yours; and your decisions and actions will decide the outcome of your particular situation.
But please understand this. There is absolutely nothing "more moral" about using a potentially less effective load in your HD shotgun. I don't care if Billy Graham himself tells you that's the case- it's flat wrong. You have no guarantees you will have a chance to fire more than one shot in your gunfight- you may receive a disabling wound, your firearm may be damaged by incoming fire- who knows what might happen. You have no guarantees that the hot burglars/home invaders/crazied junkies/whoever that crash into your house are going to make room in their plans for your moral superiority. But you can bet they didn't kick in your door to invite you to a picnic on your lawn. You have no way to be sure that they will follow your neatly scripted home defense scenario that starts with your throwing a handful of marshmallows at them from across the room and gradually increasing your level of lethality from there. And if you assume that they will, and make your plans accordingly, you are in my humble opinion acting in a genuinely foolish fashion. Life doesn't give a dead rat what your plans and expectations are, Murphy is a bastard and he's always hanging around looking for someone to put the dunce hat on. Whatever else you do, don't volunteer to be Murphy's stooge.
I hate to repeat myself, but I feel I have little choice here. Folks, you CANNOT shoot someone 'just a little bit." ANY TIME you fire a shotgun at someone, NO MATTER WHAT it's loaded with, you are exercising lethal force- and you had better be justified in using lethal force EVERY TIME you pull the trigger, because you can bet that someone is going to eventually evaluate every shot you fired as to its necessity. Do yourself a favor- picture yourself as the star attraction in a courtroom. Picture yourself explaining to judge and jury EVERY ACTION you took in defending yourself and your family, and picture yourself being gnawed on by a hostile attorney who inists that you explain every reason for every action you took. Ask yourself in your heart of hearts if you want to try to explain that, while you were in fact willing to shoot someone repeatedly with a shotgun (you had a PLAN to do that, right? You just said so...), that you didn't really want to kill them but were perfectly willing to settle for just maiming them for life. Do you think anyone is going to be grateful to you for not killing them, but only blowing away half their face? Really? I suggest you go back and re-read Skip Gochenour's material again, especially :
http://www.teddytactical.com/archive/MonthlyStudy/2006/02_StudyDay.htm
http://www.teddytactical.com/archive/Feature/2006/08_Feature.htm
http://www.teddytactical.com/archive/MonthlyStudy/2006/05_StudyDay.htm
Odds are that it won't ever come down to you actually having to use your shotgun in defense- relatively few people ever do. But in cases like this, it is not the ODDS that matter- it's the STAKES, and the stakes are your life and those of your loved ones. If you do need it, you are going to need it very badly. Loading it with anything less than the most effective ammunition you can manage is like refusing to call the fire department when your house catches on fire because you have your garden hose, and therefore don't need a 3" line with a Turbojet nozzle on it.
This stuff is not a game of Mother May I, anyone who is willing to violate your home and threaten your family with sufficient bodily harm to justify being shot at by you, has surrendered all rights to the expectation of any consideration from you. Your only concern should be making sure you and your family survive such an encounter without injury, and effectively stopping the person or persons who seek to cause injury to you and yours. Stopping them effectively might just mean they die. It DOES NOT mean you are trying to kill them, that you want to kill them, that you intend to kill them- just to stop them. My advice is that you try to stop them in the most effective manner possible, and I assure you that you will achieve no moral superiority by using less effective means in stopping an unprovoked assault once it comes to actually pulling the trigger. If anything, by using less effective means, you only pave the way for tragedy. And if your moral compunctions against killing someone in legitimate justified self defense are so strong that you aren't willing to risk it, then you have no business planning to shoot someone 'just a little bit' with a shotgun.
Get some training, people. Go out and put yourself into the hands of an instructor who has done his or her homework, and who is prepared to explain to you what you really do need to know about trying to save your life with a shotgun. The NRA classes are available all over, you don't have to necessarily spend three days in the sun with Louis Awerbuck, or elbow your way into the NTI. But whatever you do, get yourself beyond the myths, and the what-ifs, and the if-onlies. They'll get you in trouble.
I'm done with this thread now, I just hope this whole thing helps someone avoid making a bad mistake, or a series of them.
lpl/nc