orionengnr
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someone (maybe more than one someone) needs to understand the concept of boundaries
In order:
--If someone were to ask you, in public, when you stopped beating your wife...would that be rude?
--If someone asked you, why is your sister dating an "n-word", would that be rude?
Of course, you don't need to answer either, but either would be considered provocative...as would any number of other similar questions.
In order:
Anything? Really? I take it that your life experience is somewhat limited.It's not rude because the other person doesn't have to answer.
And:
I really don't think it's rude to ask anything.
--If someone were to ask you, in public, when you stopped beating your wife...would that be rude?
--If someone asked you, why is your sister dating an "n-word", would that be rude?
Of course, you don't need to answer either, but either would be considered provocative...as would any number of other similar questions.
That is exactly the thing that entered my mind while reading this thread. Utterly inappropriate.Actually, I think asking me if I am carrying is more personal than asking if I am wearing boxers or briefs.
Anyone with a degree of decorum understands this theory. Unfortunately, given our Country's state of decline, many will not grasp this concept.It IS rude to persist in asking after you've asked once and have been deflected or otherwise been given notice that a straight answer will not be forthcoming.
His dad "got it"...barely. That kid's invitation to play with the adults is hereby revoked. If his dad had not dealt with it, ditto for dad's invitation.I had to deal with this while on a golf course last weekend. I was playing with a couple of friends and one guy's adult son. The son had a notion to ask me, knowing that I'm a firearms enthusiast. I evaded the question by turning the conversation back to golf. He persisted. One of those guys who doesn't know when to quit. After I stopped and stared at him for a few seconds, his father finally chimed in with a "Quit already" comment.
Now we're getting somewhere. My initial thought was something along the lines of "It's okay, if you are carrying and don't wish to expose that...no problem." Tact and good will goes a long way in salesmanship.He could word the question, "So when you carry, what position do you holster?" Not flat out ask someone if they are carrying.
Ermmm...YMMV. I take my carry gun with me, unload it, and present it at the door. They inspect and zip-tie it. I return it to its (concealed) spot until I leave. Then i ask them to cut the zip-tie, I walk out to my vehicle, re-load and I'm on my way. We're all happy--I did not carry loaded in their gun show, and i did not leave my gun in my vehicle for someone to steal.I haven't been to a gun show yet that didn't have a rule against carrying.