dk-corriveau
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Balletto,
This is a tough situation. My wife is not anti-gun, but she wants nothing to do with them all together. When I brought the first gun, an M1 Garand , into the house, she was clearly uncomfortable. This is something that I understand; she came from a liberal family where guns were very taboo. That being said she has come around.
First and foremost, she sees how much I enjoy my shooting, both on a physical level (going to the range and shooting) but also on an intellectual level (I’m always reading gun stuff and learning about gun/ammo design). Knowing how much I enjoy my sport, she has come around to support all of my gun habits/purchases/activities.
Furthermore, she has come to agree with my thinking on self-defense and the RKBA. That being said, I have not been able to get her out to the range to learn how to use on yet, but I am still working on it. I figure once I get my son shooting (he’s only 15 months old) that will be the time to get her involved too.
In fact, she will go the occasional gun show with me and at one recently I showed her a Springer XD-9 and when she saw the $450 price tag, she said, “You want one, that is about half the cost of your other guns.” I should have snapped it up, but I was just window shopping.
I general approach would be to continue your research into the shooting sports and expand it slowly until she comes around to the idea that this isn’t some type of snap decision. Here is I did:
1. Get some shooting friends and shoot with them as often as possible. Perhaps seeing the enjoyment the sport gives you she will some around. Bring home your target to show her how good/poorly you shot and how you are improving.
2. Join the NRA. This may put her over the top, but it will demonstrate your support of your rights and will allow you to get American Rifleman once a month. Having reading material around may reinforce your commitment to shooting.
3. Go to gun shows. I know that this will be tough if your wife isn’t ready to let you bring something home, but you will enjoy yourself and she will get the idea that you are continuing your interest in this sport.
Regardless, this is a very touchy situation and you should take as much time as is necessary. I had been with my wife probably 7 years before I brought the M1 home and it took about 6 months of working on her before I thought she was comfortable enough with it for me to pull the trigger. It was quickly followed with my childhood .22 that I picked up form my parents. In the past two years, I have added three handguns to the home and I carry daily. Hopefully she will come around with a little guidance and understanding. It sounds like you are very respectful of her viewpoints and concerns and that makes me think that this can be done, it just might take a while.
I will warn you though, like tattoos, guns are addicting and you should be comfortable with buying multiple before you buy the first, because there is no turning back. My wife jokes about my obsession, but is happy that it makes me happy. Hopefully your wife will find that place as well.
This is a tough situation. My wife is not anti-gun, but she wants nothing to do with them all together. When I brought the first gun, an M1 Garand , into the house, she was clearly uncomfortable. This is something that I understand; she came from a liberal family where guns were very taboo. That being said she has come around.
First and foremost, she sees how much I enjoy my shooting, both on a physical level (going to the range and shooting) but also on an intellectual level (I’m always reading gun stuff and learning about gun/ammo design). Knowing how much I enjoy my sport, she has come around to support all of my gun habits/purchases/activities.
Furthermore, she has come to agree with my thinking on self-defense and the RKBA. That being said, I have not been able to get her out to the range to learn how to use on yet, but I am still working on it. I figure once I get my son shooting (he’s only 15 months old) that will be the time to get her involved too.
In fact, she will go the occasional gun show with me and at one recently I showed her a Springer XD-9 and when she saw the $450 price tag, she said, “You want one, that is about half the cost of your other guns.” I should have snapped it up, but I was just window shopping.
I general approach would be to continue your research into the shooting sports and expand it slowly until she comes around to the idea that this isn’t some type of snap decision. Here is I did:
1. Get some shooting friends and shoot with them as often as possible. Perhaps seeing the enjoyment the sport gives you she will some around. Bring home your target to show her how good/poorly you shot and how you are improving.
2. Join the NRA. This may put her over the top, but it will demonstrate your support of your rights and will allow you to get American Rifleman once a month. Having reading material around may reinforce your commitment to shooting.
3. Go to gun shows. I know that this will be tough if your wife isn’t ready to let you bring something home, but you will enjoy yourself and she will get the idea that you are continuing your interest in this sport.
Regardless, this is a very touchy situation and you should take as much time as is necessary. I had been with my wife probably 7 years before I brought the M1 home and it took about 6 months of working on her before I thought she was comfortable enough with it for me to pull the trigger. It was quickly followed with my childhood .22 that I picked up form my parents. In the past two years, I have added three handguns to the home and I carry daily. Hopefully she will come around with a little guidance and understanding. It sounds like you are very respectful of her viewpoints and concerns and that makes me think that this can be done, it just might take a while.
I will warn you though, like tattoos, guns are addicting and you should be comfortable with buying multiple before you buy the first, because there is no turning back. My wife jokes about my obsession, but is happy that it makes me happy. Hopefully your wife will find that place as well.