I have shorter fingers with med palms. Trigger reach is usually my issue more so than grip circumstance but circumference does play a part. DA triggers are always too much of a stretch. Based on my experience, the M&P compacts and Shields fit the above with thumb safety but no decocker. For me, the BHP is a good full size steel choice and I find it to be a lot better for my hand size than 1911s. Also, the M&P full size have the same grip size as the double stack compacts.