Update on BluesBear
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bigmtnman
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Lady45 and BluesBear,
Hang in there, be tough, tou can overcome this.
Six years ago I had my spinal cord crushed and was paralyzed from my armpits down. Thank God I had a surgeon who was one hell of a carpenter and was able to put this Humpty back together again. I now have my 3rd through 7th cervical vertebrae fused, screwed and plated with titanium. They gave me a 2% chance of walking again. I, too, had to spend time in a nursing home; four months. True, it's hot in nursing homes since most are filled with old folks whose circulation isn't that good. They'll be wearing sweaters and wool socks when it's 95 in the shade!
I did physical therapy 3 hours a day for four months. The hardest thing I've ever done. Be determined and work your a$$ off - it's for you after all.
I can now walk with the help of a support cane, not great distances, but I can do normal errands and go shooting as often as possible. I still have a little paralysis in my left arm and leg. I'll take it and be thankful, it sure beats the alternative! I can't hike or climb like I used to but I found other interests that I can enjoy in my semi-sedentary state.
Everything appears dark and dismal to you now. You ask, 'why me', but you're alive, your brain still functions and you've got a lot of life to look forward to. Granted your way of life may never be the same, but it's a wonderful life anyway. Work hard and maintain a positive attitude. I still rather miss having my butt wiped by a cute little CNA!
Hang in there, be tough, tou can overcome this.
Six years ago I had my spinal cord crushed and was paralyzed from my armpits down. Thank God I had a surgeon who was one hell of a carpenter and was able to put this Humpty back together again. I now have my 3rd through 7th cervical vertebrae fused, screwed and plated with titanium. They gave me a 2% chance of walking again. I, too, had to spend time in a nursing home; four months. True, it's hot in nursing homes since most are filled with old folks whose circulation isn't that good. They'll be wearing sweaters and wool socks when it's 95 in the shade!
I did physical therapy 3 hours a day for four months. The hardest thing I've ever done. Be determined and work your a$$ off - it's for you after all.
I can now walk with the help of a support cane, not great distances, but I can do normal errands and go shooting as often as possible. I still have a little paralysis in my left arm and leg. I'll take it and be thankful, it sure beats the alternative! I can't hike or climb like I used to but I found other interests that I can enjoy in my semi-sedentary state.
Everything appears dark and dismal to you now. You ask, 'why me', but you're alive, your brain still functions and you've got a lot of life to look forward to. Granted your way of life may never be the same, but it's a wonderful life anyway. Work hard and maintain a positive attitude. I still rather miss having my butt wiped by a cute little CNA!
P95Carry
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As Bear will hopefully attest - he has had a goodly measure of help from me.
HABU
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I'm in for a donation. 'Cmon guys, get off your wallets and pony up a little.
Hang in there BB!
Hang in there BB!
There's nothing quite like the experience of going from healthy and full of piss and vinegar to being dependent on someone else to ....well... for everything. What's more amazing is how quickly a person can put it in the past. Thanks for reminding me...really.
Persnickety
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PayPal being goofy?
Ho-kay, what is this? I sent, but will BluesBear receive? & if he doesn't, where does my money go?
Can anyone translate this:
"Money Sent Secure Transaction
You have sent cash! An email has been sent to the recipient.
Note: Your payment was funded with a credit card. The ability to accept credit card funded payments is reserved for Premier and Business accounts. Since the recipient of your payment has a Personal account, he will be asked to upgrade to a Premier Account in order to accept your payment. "
Ho-kay, what is this? I sent, but will BluesBear receive? & if he doesn't, where does my money go?
Can anyone translate this:
"Money Sent Secure Transaction
You have sent cash! An email has been sent to the recipient.
Note: Your payment was funded with a credit card. The ability to accept credit card funded payments is reserved for Premier and Business accounts. Since the recipient of your payment has a Personal account, he will be asked to upgrade to a Premier Account in order to accept your payment. "
repsychler
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The account upgrade is free, but as I recall you have to verify a bank account with them (I think) and they start charging you 2.9% + .30 for each payment you receive.
If he doesn't want to do the account change, he can hit a refund link and you'll get the money back.
If he doesn't want to do the account change, he can hit a refund link and you'll get the money back.
BHPshooter
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BluesBear,
I sicerely hope you have a complete and speedy recovery.
I regret to say that I have no way to help other than through moral support. I am in between jobs right now (how's that for an overly-optimistic phrase?) and don't have a red cent left to my name.
Depression sucks, I know... very hard to deal with, as depression effectively blocks the view to the way out of it.
I just finished a book with a very good moral. It's called "Shopgirl" by Steve Martin (yes, that Steve Martin). Let me unlawfully replicate a small segment of it:
Sad, but profound: Pain changes our lives. I speak as a veteran of pain.
Right now you're going through some tough times... but your life will change because of it, and one day this will all turn into war stories to tell over a beer.
We're pulling for you -- don't ever forget that.
Wes
I sicerely hope you have a complete and speedy recovery.
I regret to say that I have no way to help other than through moral support. I am in between jobs right now (how's that for an overly-optimistic phrase?) and don't have a red cent left to my name.
Depression sucks, I know... very hard to deal with, as depression effectively blocks the view to the way out of it.
I just finished a book with a very good moral. It's called "Shopgirl" by Steve Martin (yes, that Steve Martin). Let me unlawfully replicate a small segment of it:
Sad, but profound: Pain changes our lives. I speak as a veteran of pain.
Right now you're going through some tough times... but your life will change because of it, and one day this will all turn into war stories to tell over a beer.
We're pulling for you -- don't ever forget that.
Wes
Persnickety
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thanks, Repsychler. Now I know. 
Hate to give anybody in his shape more forms to fill out.
Hate to give anybody in his shape more forms to fill out.Third_Rail
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Where can I send a check? I'm not comfortable with PayPal.
I get paid Friday this week, and I don't personally need the money.
I know where it's going.
I get paid Friday this week, and I don't personally need the money.
I know where it's going.
MissileCop
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Third_Rail,
You can send it directly to BluesBear, at the address below.
Gary Drury - Room 216
First Hill Care Center
1334 Terry Avenue
Seattle, Washington 98101
For all that have offered either emotional or monetary support, I thank you.
Anyone else that can offer monetary assistance, please do. Let's get him out of that sauna box, so that he can get on the fast track to recuperation. Put yourself in his spot for a moment, and think about how you'd feel, being that damn uncomfortable.
C'mon, I know you got some change in the console from when you stopped at the drive thru the other day. C'mon........a couple of bucks can go a long ways if we all chip in.
No? All right, check under the couch cushions. I know some money fell out of your pocket when you ordered that pizza the other night.
What's a box of WWB at Wally-World, compared to helping someone in need to get back on his feet?
Yeah, that's right, folks. I feel his pain, even if I'm not there myself. If you can't give out of the goodness of your own heart, allow me to take the opportunity to guilt you into it!
If that damn place is gonna make him uncomfortable, I want them to feel uncomfortable lugging all the damn mail that we send to his room!! Now hop to it! Lick, stick, and send!!
You can send it directly to BluesBear, at the address below.
Gary Drury - Room 216
First Hill Care Center
1334 Terry Avenue
Seattle, Washington 98101
For all that have offered either emotional or monetary support, I thank you.
Anyone else that can offer monetary assistance, please do. Let's get him out of that sauna box, so that he can get on the fast track to recuperation. Put yourself in his spot for a moment, and think about how you'd feel, being that damn uncomfortable.
C'mon, I know you got some change in the console from when you stopped at the drive thru the other day. C'mon........a couple of bucks can go a long ways if we all chip in.
No? All right, check under the couch cushions. I know some money fell out of your pocket when you ordered that pizza the other night. What's a box of WWB at Wally-World, compared to helping someone in need to get back on his feet?
Yeah, that's right, folks. I feel his pain, even if I'm not there myself. If you can't give out of the goodness of your own heart, allow me to take the opportunity to guilt you into it!
If that damn place is gonna make him uncomfortable, I want them to feel uncomfortable lugging all the damn mail that we send to his room!! Now hop to it! Lick, stick, and send!!
Third_Rail
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Come this Friday, he may be uncomfortable, but with a couple hundred dollars on the way!
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Bumping this so everyone gets a chance to see it.
Many Thanks to All
Thanks for the Bump ....and to the many of you with private messages and calls and letters etc......we are making progress here.....and sooooooo much in your debt.....I can never put into words how much I appreciate it.
Being a man....Bear is upset with me for posting my request for your help here.....I copied all the responses and printed them out for him to read....and when he read what I had posted....he was less than happy with me......but he was overwhelmed and moved to tears with the responses.
I am sure as some of you have stated....this is a life-changing event for both Bear and I. It has brought us closer together in many ways and taken away some obstacles. Bear is a pretty independent man....and it has been hard for him to accept help from me (it is a man thing I think).
With all that said and done.....we will survive this and be better for it !
Thanks again for everything!
Lady45
Thanks for the Bump ....and to the many of you with private messages and calls and letters etc......we are making progress here.....and sooooooo much in your debt.....I can never put into words how much I appreciate it.
Being a man....Bear is upset with me for posting my request for your help here.....I copied all the responses and printed them out for him to read....and when he read what I had posted....he was less than happy with me......but he was overwhelmed and moved to tears with the responses.
I am sure as some of you have stated....this is a life-changing event for both Bear and I. It has brought us closer together in many ways and taken away some obstacles. Bear is a pretty independent man....and it has been hard for him to accept help from me (it is a man thing I think).
With all that said and done.....we will survive this and be better for it !
Thanks again for everything!
Lady45
Latest Update
Okay.....here is the scoop.....
As of today......the doctors/therapists at the nursing home have officially stated......"there is nothing more they can do for Bear at their facility that can't be done at home. The only reason he is still there is because he has nowhere else to go."
So.....I am beating the bushes anxiously trying to get the home front taken care of asap.
Just wanted to let you know and I will keep you all updated. As soon as he gets home.....I am sure he will be online.
Thanks so much for every well wish, prayer, contribution.....whatever ....
You will NEVER know how much it is appreciated.
Lady45
Okay.....here is the scoop.....
As of today......the doctors/therapists at the nursing home have officially stated......"there is nothing more they can do for Bear at their facility that can't be done at home. The only reason he is still there is because he has nowhere else to go."
So.....I am beating the bushes anxiously trying to get the home front taken care of asap.
Just wanted to let you know and I will keep you all updated. As soon as he gets home.....I am sure he will be online.
Thanks so much for every well wish, prayer, contribution.....whatever ....
You will NEVER know how much it is appreciated.
Lady45
Third_Rail
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I PMed you, just in case you didn't see it.
So where should I send the check this Friday?
Please keep us posted.
So where should I send the check this Friday?
Please keep us posted.
To Third_Rail
In response to your post....since I do not trust the nursing home to forward his mail....and not sure where and when he will be leaving....best to send it to my address....since I will at least have a forwarding if you send after we move.
Karen Fay
21521 73rd Place West. # 17
Edmonds, Washington 98026-7726
THanks so much
Lady45
In response to your post....since I do not trust the nursing home to forward his mail....and not sure where and when he will be leaving....best to send it to my address....since I will at least have a forwarding if you send after we move.
Karen Fay
21521 73rd Place West. # 17
Edmonds, Washington 98026-7726
THanks so much
Lady45
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OK. I'll be sending it out probably Friday, Saturday afternoon at the latest.
Wish him well for me.
Wish him well for me.
Leatherneck
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PM sent to Lady45.
TC
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Persnickety
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The PayPal was accepted, so I guess BluesBear or Lady45 upgraded the account. If you want to use PayPal, it seems you don't have to worry about dragging a man from his sickbed to fill out forms . . it's already been done!
wasn't quite what I had in mind . . .
Again, best wishes to Blues for a speedy and full recovery.
wasn't quite what I had in mind . . .
Again, best wishes to Blues for a speedy and full recovery.
Update on BB
It is me again.....just wanted to let you know that we found a place that will take BB and if we get enough money before the 14th of the month...we can move in. I had enough to pay part of the deposit, but it is pending paying the rest of it and the rent for the rest of the month. We are getting much closer, but not quite there yet.
In response to a previous post, yes I upgraded the paypal account so that it would accept credit cards. It appeared to me as though someone had requested it....hope I was not wrong and did not offend anyone.
Again, thanks for all you have done....it is getting closer to a reality....and Bear can be back harrassing you all again soon!!!
Take care and God Bless you all,
Lady45
It is me again.....just wanted to let you know that we found a place that will take BB and if we get enough money before the 14th of the month...we can move in. I had enough to pay part of the deposit, but it is pending paying the rest of it and the rent for the rest of the month. We are getting much closer, but not quite there yet.
In response to a previous post, yes I upgraded the paypal account so that it would accept credit cards. It appeared to me as though someone had requested it....hope I was not wrong and did not offend anyone.
Again, thanks for all you have done....it is getting closer to a reality....and Bear can be back harrassing you all again soon!!!
Take care and God Bless you all,
Lady45
The Latest on BB
Okay....I am giving my daily update.
We are about $500 short with what we have already received to accomplish the move. Thanks so much to all who have stepped up and helped out. Thanks can never describe our appreciation. Hopefully before the 15th the rest will float in and I will not be bugging you all on daily updates here. Just wanted you all to know the status....not trying to be aggravating.
Bless you all,
Lady45
Okay....I am giving my daily update.
We are about $500 short with what we have already received to accomplish the move. Thanks so much to all who have stepped up and helped out. Thanks can never describe our appreciation. Hopefully before the 15th the rest will float in and I will not be bugging you all on daily updates here. Just wanted you all to know the status....not trying to be aggravating.
Bless you all,
Lady45
Bart Noir
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My 2 centavos
I've never met the Bear, but it's starting to seem like I have. I've been calling him every few days to talk guns, politics, Tom Likus, whatever. I just want to say that this guy is being positive and optimistic to an extent that I admire. I have heard no whining or feelsorryforme words. If'n it were me all laid up with real medical and money problems, I am not sure I could do as well at looking ahead and being positive. He's an inspiration that I hope never to need to follow.
And while I say nice things on this forum, guess whose daughter just graduated high school with an International Baccalaureate (I.B.) diploma and now has a full-ride scholarship to the Kettering Institute? Oh, mustn't forget the internship with Toyota. Yup, Lady45, you have every right to be proud of her.
Bart Noir
I've never met the Bear, but it's starting to seem like I have. I've been calling him every few days to talk guns, politics, Tom Likus, whatever. I just want to say that this guy is being positive and optimistic to an extent that I admire. I have heard no whining or feelsorryforme words. If'n it were me all laid up with real medical and money problems, I am not sure I could do as well at looking ahead and being positive. He's an inspiration that I hope never to need to follow.
And while I say nice things on this forum, guess whose daughter just graduated high school with an International Baccalaureate (I.B.) diploma and now has a full-ride scholarship to the Kettering Institute? Oh, mustn't forget the internship with Toyota. Yup, Lady45, you have every right to be proud of her.
Bart Noir
Tooting My Horn Back at Bart Noir
You forgot to mention that she graduated 3rd in a class of almost 400 students and received the only "A" on the extended essay (sorta like a doctorial thesis that she spent almost a year working on as a requirement for the IB diploma) in not only the state of Washington, but the whole NW.
She is special to say the least. I just wish that my last month with her before she goes off to college was not in such a state and that I could spend more time with her.
Oh well, this is not a "gun" discussion so before they give me the boot...better stop tooting my horn. I just appreciate the bright spots more these days!
Lady45
You forgot to mention that she graduated 3rd in a class of almost 400 students and received the only "A" on the extended essay (sorta like a doctorial thesis that she spent almost a year working on as a requirement for the IB diploma) in not only the state of Washington, but the whole NW.
She is special to say the least. I just wish that my last month with her before she goes off to college was not in such a state and that I could spend more time with her.
Oh well, this is not a "gun" discussion so before they give me the boot...better stop tooting my horn. I just appreciate the bright spots more these days!
Lady45
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Okay! I got paid. Where do I send the check? I'd like to send it tomorrow morning.
If I don't get a response, I'll send it to the most recent address posted.
If I don't get a response, I'll send it to the most recent address posted.
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