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Hi Camslam,

Since my daughter is two years old, if I found out she was dating at all someone would be in trouble plenty!

OK, seriously- it would depend on situation and terrain. If the guy was stable and showed the use of even minimal common sense it wouldn't bother me in the least. If he was a jerk... no way. In short, it would depend on the guy not what he possesses.

Selena
 
Wait, whats good for the goose isn't good for the younger goose, and whats good for the gander isn't good for the younger gander?

Quite the double standard.
 
What bothers me is that my son in law has no interest at ALL in guns, won't come shooting with us, and will act as the wettest blanket in the world even if I ever DO get my daughter to shoot with me :fire::fire::fire:

This is the man who, at my birthday dinner last year, finally woke up to the fact that I carry a gun. And said....

"Guess I better not ever make you mad. Heh heh heh."

(Too late, twit.)

Springmom
 
My girlfriends parents seem about 50/50 on it. Her dad thinks I'm a son to him while her mom thinks I'm blast shooter the Bambi murderer. I guess I corrupted her daughter by buying her a range membership, but it's only half my fault because her dad gave her her first pistol so it would match with his.
 
As the single guy in the dating scene, I carry, and I casually drop a reference on to that fact on the first date. The first date is a lot like an interview. The reaction to that casual reference tells you something about the girl. It often leads to at least a little more conversation on the subject and is useful to both of us.

But then again, I am still single...
 
How about a gun owners dating service section? Because all of us gunnies need to marry and reproduce so we don't die out. How bout it Oleg?:D
 
When the guy comes over for a visit, just make sure you happen to be cleaning a couple of pistol's when he arrives.:evil::D
 
Well, given that CCW holders have been background checked and are guaranteed to be neither a felon nor a domestic abuser, I would actually feel *better* about her dating a CCWer than just some guy off the street.

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As the father of 2 daughters I agree with jlbraun's answer:

"Well, given that CCW holders have been background checked and are guaranteed to be neither a felon nor a domestic abuser, and in my state are at least OK shots with a pistol and have taken a safety class, I would actually feel *better* about her dating a CCWer than just some guy who didn't have a CCW."
 
I'd be fine with it because my daughter would also have her CCW.
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If I wouldn't trust him with a gun, there's no way on God's green earth I would trust him with my daughter.
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BOTH these quotes are dead on the money and very close to what I was about to start typing.

Why do I take my three daughters to the pistol range even before they can date and drive cars? Because I want them able to protect themselves as they get older when their mother and I cannot, and be at complete ease about doing so. Here's the quote from the movie "9 to 5" that I've always remembered growing up and now even more so with my daughters,

Look, I've got a gun out there in my purse. Up until now I've been forgivin' and forgettin' because of the way I was brought up, but I'll tell you one thing. If you ever say another word about me or make another indecent proposal, I'm gonna get that gun of mine, and I'm gonna change you from a rooster to a hen with one shot! And don't think I can't do it.
 
It depends on what he carried. If he was intending to defend my dear daughter with an underpowered 9mm then we would have issues. If he had a 45 then they would have my blessing.
 
If the boy came up to me and told me that he was a CHL holder and was carrying at that moment...

I would ask to inspect the pistol.

If it were a Glock, I would ask him to leave. (JUST KIDDING!!! :neener: )


I honestly don't think I would have a problem with it...due to the fact if my daughter is of age then she will have a CHL as well along with a nice compact in her purse or holster.
 
When I think about the young couple in Knoxville TN who were carjacked, raped, tortured and murdered a few months ago.....

I think I'd give a lot of bonus points to a young man with a CCW who wanted to date my daughter.
 
A lot of posts so far refer to the fact that a permit shows that the boy was background checked and passed the standards so forth set by being able to obtain one, which is a strong plus in his favor.

OTOH whenever a subject comes up about background checks, there is an overwhelming negativity toward it because as we all know, self protection with a firearm is a "right" and should be open to all Americans if they so choose and background checks don't work or do any good anyhow because the bad guy is going to get a gun no matter what. Right???

Therefore, IMHO, it should make no difference whatsoever if he has a CCW based on the background checks he was forced to go through to exercise the fundamental right he had in the first place.

ERRR UMMM AHHH wait a minute here.:evil:
 
Look at it from the guy's point of view. When my wife was still my girlfriend, her mom once threatened to go get a shotgun. I started to tell her my gun was closer, but decided it would be wiser not to. Sometims the younger guys need a CCW to make sure y'all don't go getting all crazy, too!
 
Our second daughter has been seeing a guy with a CCW. When she called home to tell us about wanting to see him, one of her comments to me was, "He has even more guns that you do Daddy!". The next phone call was from the young man himself, asking my permission to see my daughter. Keep in mind, she is over 300 miles away in college, but they both thought enough of the whole thing to ask our permission!

During that conversation, he said she told him that I carried, and would have no trouble hunting him down if anything went badly. I gave my permission for them to date (with Mrs. Plinker's blessing on that of course!) and off they went. I am actually more comfortable knowing he has a gun with him and knows how to use it. If he was of bad character and had ill intent, he does not need a CC permit to do so, and I am not in a position to stop him until after the fact anyway.

He has done a couple of stupid things for which he needed a serious reaming out, but he is of good character and definitely has her best interests at heart. Not only that, we have been to the range together a few times, and he is impressed enough with my paltry accuracy that he knows. He knows...
 
If she was under 18, I wouldn't let my daughter date someone with a ccdw permit, because he'd be too old for her. If she was over 18, she'd be free to date whoever she pleased. Apart from that, I'd have to agree with what joe said, and with the background check, etc. being a plus.
 
Interesting question. She's quite a few years away from dating but I'll chime in.

To me safety trumps all else so a trip to the range would be a requirement. Not to see how well he shoots but to see how safely he handles a firearm. Hitting a quarter from a half a mile away wouldn't mean diddly if he had a habit of showing me the wrong end of the gun.

A background check doesn't mean very much to me as far as trusting him with a firearm goes. A clean record doesn't mean he can safely handle a firearm. All a background check means is that he's been a good boy up to that point in his life.

And unless things have changed passing the LTC course doesn't count for much in terms of safety either. When I took my course there was no live fire, no written test and no serious safe gun handling training. You sat down and listened to the instructor for an hour or two and he handed you your paperwork on the way out the door. :rolleyes:

When the time does come I'm confident that my daughter will have enough smarts about firearms to react accordingly to a guy with poor gun handling skills.
 
The question is backwards.

Unless the guy is a criminal or mentally incompetent, I don't have any problem with him owning or carrying a gun.

The gun is not the problem.

The problem is that I do not trust him with my daughter, under any circumstances whatsoever.
 
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