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I'm with the people who said that, at least you know he passed a background check and was squeaky-clean.:)
 
If he's an idiot, I have a problem with him because he's an idiot dating my daughter. Not because he's (legally) armed. I would be the same with respect to a girl dating my son.
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My thoughts exactly...

I do not have a daughter, nor do I want one(too much stress when she starts dating), but if/when I do have one, once she is 45 and is allowed to start dating:)D) I won't go as far as to say he has to have a CCW, but it definately would not bother me one bit. After our "looooong" talk and I see that he is fit for my daughter, it would be a plus that he has a CCW.
 
My Son in-law of 11 months was raised sans father figure and says he had once at the age of 9 shot a single shot .22rf rifle. I have had him to the range 3-4 times I'm working on it and he is getting the hang of it but:eek:.

The thought of him packing sends a cold shiver down the spine.
 
When the guy comes over for a visit, just make sure you happen to be cleaning a couple of pistol's when he arrives
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+1000

i had this happen to me in highschool. picked the girl up on our first date and her dad was sitting at the kitchen table cleaning a couple of shotguns. i will be doing the exact same thing when my daughters start dating
 
I really hate to respond to a thread like this because I have two daughters and they are both married, but I will anyway.

If a guy told me or my daughter on the first date that he had a CCL, I'd think that he was insecure and in need of verification/adulation. That revalation has no business in first date discussion, IMHO. I also wouldn't want to know that, should it be revealed to my daughter by the guy.

I'd prefer to make my own judgement as to his maturity and trustworthyness. The State, County, or local governments' findings of his ability to carry a firearm is of no consequence to me. I'm more concerned about his demonstrated good demeanor, his politeness, his reputation among his peers, his apparent upbringing.

No, his having a CCL has no bearing on my opinion of him, unless he wears it on his sleeve and announces it as a virtue, when it's got nothing to do with his being the right person to date my daughter. It's generally a negative, in my book.

In any case, I'd be cleaning my shotgun when he showed up!!!

Picher
 
Here is my theory - if my daughter is old enough to be dating a "boy" that is old enough to be able to even get a carry permit, I would probably be fine with it. Unless he was some obvious piece of slime, I would encourage them to go shooting together. What a great way to bring people together. Afterall, why would he be any different than most of us that carry? We all had to take the class, pass the background checks etc....
 
My daughter recently got an apartment with her fiance in not the best (or worst) part of the college town they both go to.

I took him shooting at the range about a month ago and he had fun and has done a ton of reading on firearms. He's invited me to the local gun show in their area in Nov.

He isn't the biggest dude in the world (but he treats my girl great) and he is walking with my girl, so heck yeah, legal concealed carry would be fine with me!
 
I didn't read the entire thread so I hope I'm not repeating anything that was already said.

But if I don't think a boy isn't mature enough to carry a handgun, he's not mature enough to date my daughter.

(P.S. I don't actually have any kids yet.)
 
If he met my Daughter's standards and I found him to be a responsible individual with whom I would trust my National Treasure, his having the wisdom to carry and the competence to do so in a responsible manner would make me feel more comfortable. Beyond that, it's his tough luck if they quit seeing one another because he becomes frustrated when She consistently outshoots him with a variety of firearms . . . including Her carry piece of choice, a venerable 1911-A1. As for "intimidating dates," it's an art form . . .
 
If a guy told me or my daughter on the first date that he had a CCL, I'd think that he was insecure and in need of verification/adulation. That revalation has no business in first date discussion, IMHO. I also wouldn't want to know that, should it be revealed to my daughter by the guy.
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Ok, here's my question: don't you think it's fairly reasonable to inform a date that you're carrying? A) Because if she has a problem with it, it would weed her out of the "long term prospect" list, and B) So that it doesn't cause any awkwardness during moments of embrace.

E.G. Greeting a lady at the start of a date with a hug - and tending toward being taller than females, her arms/hands go around the back, usually toward the waist... right where Mr. Carl Walther likes to chill during evenings out.

"Ummm... what's that?"

"Oh, hi! I failed to mention that I'm carrying a loaded weapon. Don't worry, I've got a permit!"

as opposed to:

"Oh, yeah, just FYI, I have a CCW permit and enjoy exercising the right. I just wanted to let you know so that there wouldn't be any surprises."

That seems a bit more reasonable.
 
Ok, I admit I can not resist, so if our fearless, honest and trustworthy Moderators feel the necessity to delete this, I will understand...
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Somehow, I get the feeling you're a trial lawyer, aren't you? :neener:

My daughter is eleven and the other day asked me, "how old do I have to be before you let me start dating someone?" My immediate deadpan answer was, "twenty seven."

"Ha. Ha, dad. That's not funny."

"I'm quite serious, sweetie."

Anyway, personally, I would in fact, feel better if a young man showed that he cared enough to go through the vetting process and obtain his CPL.

In my own case when I recently met my fiancee's father for the first time, I was able to demonstrate my knowledge and safety regarding firarms and the fact that I've had a CPL for fourteen years didn't hurt.

It didn't hurt that he has had HIS CPL for many years, either (though he did manage to muzzle me once over the kitchen table when the whole family was inspecting his pistols. Not too much fun, though I didn't kick up a big fuss about it at that time.)

On the other hand, if the guy that's dating (or wants to date) my daughter is an a**hole to her, then I don't care if he's a National Scholarship award winner and chief of the local police department with twelve medals of valor and a CPL. I'm kicking his f***ing a** just on principle.
 
Hopefully such young people will have thought about safe carry methods. With the somewhat random thrashing about that young people tend to do as they explore and get to know each other, it is very important to avoid getting a digit inside a trigger guard.
 
Indeed - that's why it's important to have a good retention holster - so that when drawing one gun, the other stays firmly and safely in place.
 
"I'm with the people who said that, at least you know he passed a background check and was squeaky-clean."

It could also mean that he just hasn't been caught at anything since turning 18 and entering the realm of the adult justice system. :eek:

Personally, I'd try not to let that sole factor (CCW) color my judgment of him too vividly. Just because *I* have a CCW, and feel that *I'm* a responsible, well-intended person, I don't think it wise to automatically project those qualities onto my daughter's suitor based solely on *his* having a CCW.

Once upon a time, hearing that someone was a Boy Scoutmaster or a priest meant that one might "safely" assume them to be of good character and high moral standards. Now, due to the actions of a minority of Scoutmasters and priests and the accompanying publicity, we know that such an assumption based solely on those professions/avocations would not be a prudent one.

Personally, I'd rather spend the time and energy with my daughter (stepdaughter in my case), helping reaffirm her sense of self-worth so that she's strong enough to make choices that are really right for her...then letting her make them.

I didn't much like her last serious boyfriend (she's now 26), but never told her that as I didn't think there was anything she'd gain from my opinion. There was nothing seriously wrong with the guy (else I'd have said something), he was just an aimless (though employed) schlub. The only way I'd feel it was my biz to say something to her is if the guy was bad to her or if I thought she had a seriously blind spot. YMMV.
 
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First thing I would do is inspect his weapon. The weapon a person carries can tell you a little about his personality. I would also take him to the range and make sure he can outshoot me,lol.

I see no negatives here though.
 
I'm a dad with two daughters.

My youngest daughter is not yet old enough to carry concealed, but I hope someday she does.

I know my oldest daughter has the legal ability to carry concealed. I assisted her with the application process and continue to help her with training and occasional advice. I do not know if she carries, although I hope she does. Concealed means concealed.

I know that my future son in law shoots, and has mature, safe attitudes concerning firearms. I have gone shooting with him. I do not know if he has a CCW permit, but I hope he does, and I hope he carries. Again, concealed means concealed. I know this young man is a mature individual, because I know this young man. I see how he deals with me, my family, and how he treats my daughter. I see how he carries himself, and how he strives towards success. The CCW permit would be an indicator of a decent man for my daughter, but not insurance thereof.

If I knew he had a CCW, my assessment of his maturity level would lessen, simply because I knew. He would have talked about his CCW to the wrong person if that tidbit of information came back to me. So, I guess if I knew my girl's boyfriend had a CCW, yes, I would be somewhat bothered. Not because he had the CCW permit though. I would be bothered because he lacked the maturity to keep his mouth shut about it.
 
It depends

I would want to look at the totality of the circumstances before I could say one way or another. Some say the fact that the license requires a background check makes it a positive thing. But I know a couple of license holders who are scary, even though they were never caught in a crime. For that matter, I have known a few LEOs that I didn't trust with a gun either. So, it depends on the young man's disposition, background, interests, etc. But since my daughters are agro, trained in martial arts, and firearms, I would like to think the boys would be the ones worrying. If he got out of line, he might never be able to reproduce again by the time she is done with him. :evil: Besides, I will be sure to take him hunting a few days before the date just to give him a little encouragement to do the right thing. :)

Shooter429
 
I already showed her current "boyfriend" a shotgun shell with his name on it...

Attaboy, Bogie . . . like I said, "Intimidating boyfriends is an art form" . . . and a Dad's duty. Early on in Her dating career, I had to "pick one butt-head up and place him firmly against the wall" (I'm 6'4" 235# and most things I grab hold of move . . . ). He peed his pants, She learned "what's hot & what's not", his father came over & promptly left (not sure if he peed, but he may have). The following advice is what I have provided to EVERY date I've met . . . "Take care of her like I would. Harm Her & I'll hurt you." Never have been one to mince words or actions regarding this matter . . .
 
Sage of Seattle said:
My daughter is eleven and the other day asked me, "how old do I have to be before you let me start dating someone?"
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Ha ha! I used to tell my daughters we were going to convert to Catholicism so they could all be nuns and they wouldn't have to worry about dating! :evil:

They did not believe me. :scrutiny:
 
No, I hope she dates (when old enough) ONLY men who have a CCW!!! She gets all of my firearms when she turns 18, and when she turns 21 she gets her MCPL. Even at only 13-years old, she is strongly pro-RKBA! I raised the girl right!!!

Funny thing happened this week. When she came home from her week long trip, I showed her my latest pistol, a Colt New Agent. She was all upset because,

...it's not a revolver. You could have at least bought a 9mm so I could shoot it, and what's up with that short barrel?!
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She has actually already stated explicitly that she,

won't marry someone who is anti-gun...
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Did I already say I raised the girl right???

:D
 
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