I think before immediately jumping to the conclusion that Delta9 is a hysterical feminist going nuclear for no reason, and writing her off, it might make sense to pay attention to what she is saying. Just on the off chance that she might actually have a point.
The OP was about finding a handgun for his GF. So far as I know, Delta9 is the only actual female who has replied, and she noticed a certain tone in the discussion highlighted by the repeated use of the word "let."
Maybe none of the guys really meant it that way. Maybe not a single guy who replied has ever in his entire life been patronizing to a woman regarding guns.
Even so, there might be a useful lesson here. Seems to me, women do often feel patronized by guys when they are getting involved in "guy things." We have had a number of threads here about women being patronized by gun shop employees. I have seen gun shop employees treat my own wife like an idiot, even after she totally out-shot all the guys on the store's indoor range, they still treated her like someone's half-wit stepchild.
If women are frequently getting this vibe from men when they foray into the world of guns ans shooting, it is definitely in our interest to be aware of this and avoid it at all costs. Just generally not wanting to drive women away from shooting (I'd rather have another NRA member than another Million Mom) - but even moreso, not wanting to drive our own wives/girlfriends/daughters away from shooting.
Words do matter. If one woman reads a thread where all the guys are talking about what they're going to "let" their womenfolk do, and finds it patronizing, that is useful information. Even if one doesn't mean to be patronizing, the simple fact of knowing that a woman might interpret that as patronizing might be useful information - something to avoid.
I guess for those guys on the forum who totally understand women and never unintentionally give off the wrong impression, lucky for you.
For the rest of us, who can use a helpful tip from time to time, thanks Delta9.