First off, let me say I did read a couple pages of this thread:
http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=423557&highlight=girlfriend+wife+shoot
but that was really asking a different question than I have so here goes...
I need some advice regarding my girlfriend's attitude toward guns. She very much believes they are dangerous and would probably go so far as to call them "evil." Yeah, I know... However, she is open minded to the point that, despite her views, she has no problem with me owning, keeping, and shooting them, and has NEVER given me grief for it. If she had, we would not be together. She even grudgingly tolerates the fact that I keep a loaded SxS 12ga. and a loaded .22 autoloader (15 LR rounds in mag, chamber empty, safety on) in the closet right by my side of the bed (we have no kids, and an empty gun is basically an expensive club). We have been together for over 7 years, lived together for over 5, and we love each other so please don't bother with the "just dump her" comments. She's really a wonderful person in so many other ways, and nobody's perfect.
Anyway, we live on a farm on a pretty well-traveled highway, and over the years COUNTLESS people have stumbled up to the door in the middle of the night (my grandparents lived here for 50 years and I all but grew up in the place so I know the history). Most just have car trouble of some kind (lots of accidents), but more than a few have been genuine wackos or belligerent drunks/drug abusers. One guy stumbled into my shop late one night when I was puttering around with something. He was shirtless and covered with blood. I casually but firmly picked up a crowbar when I saw him boldly stumble right in the open door. He was also absolutely cranked out of his mind, and thought our place was a truckstop because of our barn light apparently. It's an interesting story, but for other time... My point is, it's reassuring to know that I have something more convincing than 911 out here.
My problem with my girlfriend is twofold. One, I would feel much better if she knew how to competently use a firearm in the interest of her self-defense for times when I'm not home. Two, I just think that if we're going to have firearms in the house (particularly loaded), she ought to at least have a basic understanding of how they work, how to handle them, how to make them safe, etc... She absolutely won't touch them, but in all practicality, the time might come some day when I'm not there and she would have to move them, unload them, put them up when her niece visits, etc..., and I would NOT be comfortable with her touching a loaded gun since she hasn't got the first clue about guns or gun handling. Plus, I hate to imagine what might happen if she ever had to try to use one in self defense.
My question to you all is, what would you do to improve the situation? Has anybody had a similar experience? I have tried everything I can think of to get her interested in shooting, or at least to sit down and let me show her how to safely check, handle, and unload the weapons, but she absolutely will have none of it. She's just scared to death of guns, and is remaining willfully ignorant of anything having to do with them (she is irrationally scared of a surprising number of things- one of her less appealing qualities...). No matter how I approach the subject, she gets irritated, angry, and will get screaming pi**** and upset if I push the matter. I did ONCE talk her into shooting the .22 thinking that if I could just show her what it was to shoot, she might get a kick out of it (.22 rifle- the "gateway gun" ). She fired exactly one round (and by-God, knocked over the can she was aiming at too ), and then vowed on principle never to do it again. :banghead::banghead::banghead: Really, I shouldn't have even let her do that since she simply would not stand for any real instruction on safe gun handling beforehand, but like I said, I was hoping to just get the da**** door open a bit.
Any advice? Am I overreacting in my assertion that she should have a working understanding of the guns I keep loaded (she says I'm being ridiculous and that she will never have a reason to touch one). It's a mighty frustrating situation in an otherwise great relationship. Any and all advice/suggestions would be appreciated.
http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=423557&highlight=girlfriend+wife+shoot
but that was really asking a different question than I have so here goes...
I need some advice regarding my girlfriend's attitude toward guns. She very much believes they are dangerous and would probably go so far as to call them "evil." Yeah, I know... However, she is open minded to the point that, despite her views, she has no problem with me owning, keeping, and shooting them, and has NEVER given me grief for it. If she had, we would not be together. She even grudgingly tolerates the fact that I keep a loaded SxS 12ga. and a loaded .22 autoloader (15 LR rounds in mag, chamber empty, safety on) in the closet right by my side of the bed (we have no kids, and an empty gun is basically an expensive club). We have been together for over 7 years, lived together for over 5, and we love each other so please don't bother with the "just dump her" comments. She's really a wonderful person in so many other ways, and nobody's perfect.
Anyway, we live on a farm on a pretty well-traveled highway, and over the years COUNTLESS people have stumbled up to the door in the middle of the night (my grandparents lived here for 50 years and I all but grew up in the place so I know the history). Most just have car trouble of some kind (lots of accidents), but more than a few have been genuine wackos or belligerent drunks/drug abusers. One guy stumbled into my shop late one night when I was puttering around with something. He was shirtless and covered with blood. I casually but firmly picked up a crowbar when I saw him boldly stumble right in the open door. He was also absolutely cranked out of his mind, and thought our place was a truckstop because of our barn light apparently. It's an interesting story, but for other time... My point is, it's reassuring to know that I have something more convincing than 911 out here.
My problem with my girlfriend is twofold. One, I would feel much better if she knew how to competently use a firearm in the interest of her self-defense for times when I'm not home. Two, I just think that if we're going to have firearms in the house (particularly loaded), she ought to at least have a basic understanding of how they work, how to handle them, how to make them safe, etc... She absolutely won't touch them, but in all practicality, the time might come some day when I'm not there and she would have to move them, unload them, put them up when her niece visits, etc..., and I would NOT be comfortable with her touching a loaded gun since she hasn't got the first clue about guns or gun handling. Plus, I hate to imagine what might happen if she ever had to try to use one in self defense.
My question to you all is, what would you do to improve the situation? Has anybody had a similar experience? I have tried everything I can think of to get her interested in shooting, or at least to sit down and let me show her how to safely check, handle, and unload the weapons, but she absolutely will have none of it. She's just scared to death of guns, and is remaining willfully ignorant of anything having to do with them (she is irrationally scared of a surprising number of things- one of her less appealing qualities...). No matter how I approach the subject, she gets irritated, angry, and will get screaming pi**** and upset if I push the matter. I did ONCE talk her into shooting the .22 thinking that if I could just show her what it was to shoot, she might get a kick out of it (.22 rifle- the "gateway gun" ). She fired exactly one round (and by-God, knocked over the can she was aiming at too ), and then vowed on principle never to do it again. :banghead::banghead::banghead: Really, I shouldn't have even let her do that since she simply would not stand for any real instruction on safe gun handling beforehand, but like I said, I was hoping to just get the da**** door open a bit.
Any advice? Am I overreacting in my assertion that she should have a working understanding of the guns I keep loaded (she says I'm being ridiculous and that she will never have a reason to touch one). It's a mighty frustrating situation in an otherwise great relationship. Any and all advice/suggestions would be appreciated.
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