Anti Significant Others....

[miket]

Another GREAT point, ArmedBear!

 

[BBQLS1]

 

[miket]

Nice eject picture.

 

[alfack]

You could always try witholding sex. That usually worked when used against me

 

[miket]

And she might just go get it somewhere else, too...because they can...

 

[Baba Louie]

Never had to deal with that fortunately, but... I'd offer an old fashioned opinion here in that part of your duty is to protect you and yours, because you love them. A good safe or RSC is a wise purchase. Shows intent to keep ALL of your collection secure from little hands, protecting them from themselves.

Pretty simple.

Later on I hope you find, like many others here, that teaching your child(ren) to safely shoot is a hoot. Maybe even have a firearm or two for them locked up in YOUR collection.

Well, it worked for me anyway. My kids mother (now my Ex but still a good friend) became and is an excellant shot w/ a 10/22, a MKII, an M1 Carb. and an AR15. While she was not against firearms initially, she warmed right up to some of them.

But, whaddaIknow? I'm still an old divorced guy.

 

[bigfatdave]

achttung, did you read the entire post?

 

[ms6852]

Try teaching her with a 22lr, if not , let her know she is endangering your life as well. Next time she hears a noise in the middle of the night ask her to investigate it instead of you.

 

[Patriotme]

I feel very sorry for you. It's hard arguing with someone else's total lack of logic.
You say your girlfriend has shot before so unfortunately educating her is not going to work.
This is my suggestion. Have her (or do it for her) do a computer search of all of the sex offenders in your zipcode. Pull up a map and show her how close they are to your home. Next, look up the average response time for law enforcement response for your area. Have her sit quietly while you show her how many times you can walk from the front/back door to your bedroom or your child's bedroom before the police would arrive. Swing by the kitchen and pick up a knife or two on one of your trips. Make sure that she sits quietly while observing this. Mindless babble makes the time pass quicker. Silence tends to make it drag.
If this doesn't work for you then it's a lost cause until she's stalked, mugged or someone actually does break in.

 

[ChefKristian]

I had a quite frank conversation with her yesterday and asked her why she is so irrational with me owning a handgun. She said that when she was a teenager, a friend of hers killed himself after breaking into his dad's gun safe. We talked for a little while about how, even though nothing terrible has happened yet, something bad COULD happen. We came to an agreement that just as long as long as she never sees the gun out and exposed, she won't say anything more about it. Since she is adamantly against using a firearm in the house or otherwise, I am going to get her less lethal options for the house when I am not home...

Thanks.

-K

 

[carbuncle]

Good on you for taking the initiative to sit down and discuss this with her, find out what the real issue is and then work to create a positive solution. A much better option than much of what has been suggested here...

 

[hardluk1]

Life to to darn short to deal with someone with a different outlook on life. If she won't come around keep an eye out for someone more compatable.You ain't going to change anymore than she is,right?? After the fisical part of a relationship some of the first questions on my list is to see what we have in common that we can do through the years. Hunting and guns is a major part. Been togther 33 years. Ever body i know has been married atleast 1 more time some 3 and 4 times. Not much in common except hummp'n , don't last.

 

[Deut6:5]

Good for you for discussing it.

Still, this needs to be said:
The divorce rate IS NOT 50%. It never has been and probably never will be. In fact, it peaked at around 41% in the 70s and has been going DOWN. It's an oft-quoted wrongness. (yes, that's a real word)

http://www.divorcereform.org/nyt05.html

 

[miket]

Lots of "saids" and "believes" in that article with NO links or ANY backup proof at all.

Yeah, I take Dan Hurley and the NYT as gospel...

 

[TheWarhammer]

OP:
My big advantage is that I own the house.

Armed Bear:
You won't if you get married. You REALLY won't if you get divorced.

I got news for you, ChefKristain. Since you live in Texas, if you've represented yourselves as being married, even just once, you may have much less "advantage" than you think you do.

Q: What makes a common law marriage?
A: Three elements must be present to form a common law marriage in Texas.

• First, you must have "agreed to be married." (Your word against hers. Guess who wins.)
• Second, you must have "held yourselves out" as husband and wife. You must have represented to others that you were married to each other. As an example of this, you may have introduced you partner socially as "my husband," or you may have filed a joint income tax return. (Bet you've done it at least once. Bet she remembers EXACTLY when and where it was.)
• Third, you must have lived together in this state as husband and wife. (From the thread opener: "... my long-time girlfriend (we are basically married) and I...")

Q: Do we have to hold ourselves out to the world consistently as husband and wife in order to be in a common law marriage?
A: No. Even one instance of publicly declaring yourself married can be sufficient to place you in such a marriage.

Q: How can I get out of a common law marriage?
A: Common law marriage may end in two ways. If there have been children or if property and debts remain undivided, you will want to seek a formal divorce. In a divorce, paternity, custody, support, and visitation can be determined, and debts and community property can be divided.
Under a new provision of the Family Code, either partner in a common law marriage has two years after you split up to file an action to prove that the marriage did exist. In order to fit into this provision, you must have separated after September 1, 1989.
Both partners in a common law marriage are responsible for debts and for care and support of children of the marriage. It is therefore urgent that you discuss the ending of this marriage with an attorney. You have a choice of methods, but they all require you to act within a certain length of time. However, even if the time has expired for you to obtain a divorce, other steps can be taken to get orders for payment of child support and visitation for children of the marriage.



My advice is to do everything you can to educate your gal and try to bring her around. There is plenty of data and anecdotal evidence available. Anybody who has the capability for rational thought and intellectual honesty will eventually come around. In the long run, even if you just throw out the implications on you child's future by having Mom and Dad go there separate ways; even if you think it would be easier to just pull the eject handle; even if you get to the point where your annoyance overrides your attraction to her... It'll be cheaper to keep her.