Bandit01:
Well, here's one old farts opinion..
First, my little bride and I have been married coming up 40 years now. She knew I liked, and owned guns from day one so I was never in the quandry you find yourself in.
But I honestly believe that IF I had been, I would have told the little honey that either she could accept the fact that firearms would be a part of our lives, or she had the wrong guy.
I know that sounds harsh, but buddy you WILL NOT be able to change her on this issue AFTER a wedding, so if you can't work it out now, BEFORE a wedding you will be one miserable soul...
Additionally, if your wife can dictate to you on this issue, what might be the next issue?
I would try to negotiate this issue with her in one way, and one way only. I would assure her that I was as concerned about firearm safety as much as she was, and would do everything in my power to insure that every measure of caution would be used, but I WOULD have my firearms, period, end of discussion.
This could very well be more an issue of control and her having her way than it is about firearms... The good Lord gave you two gonads, and he didn't give her any. (hopefully).. If you want to hand her your two, that's your business, but it won't make you happy in the long run.
All of the crap about 50/50 equaity in a relationship is IMO sheer BS. A woman wants a man to make the hard calls when they are necessary.. A woman by nature does NOT want to wear the pants in the family, but if the man is willing to hand them over she WILL put them on. And you will forevermore "kitty whipped".
I do NOT mean a man "rules the roost", as I think a marriage based on mutual respect and concern for the other spouses feelings is the only way for a happy marriage to survive. I don't care if you call it 51/49, whatever, sooner or later somebody has to make the hard decisions, and most men have enough self respect they don't want the wife doing it.
I don't mind one bit taking all the crap anybody taking exception to my opinion choses to offer.. I believe what I'm saying, I've got almost 4 decades of reasonably blissful marriage in the books, and my wife and I love each other, and will do so until one of us is "room temperature and toes up".. And at that time the other will wish it were him/her in the box, because we won't be able to bear seeing the other gone....
Be the MAN, love and respect your wife, but keep your nuts in YOUR britches.
Just an old farts opinion.. YMMV
P.S.
I just ordered her a personalized Seecamp LWS32.. She wanted mine, but that wasn't happening....