Shocked, when I was made by a new girl I'm dating

[ShooterMcGavin]

Sometimes, you never know that you got made!!

I have had some poor experiences this summer, concerning dating new girls and discovering their opinions on guns. I'd say that only 1 in 10 is "gun friendly", and the large majority would have likely demanded that I immediately let them out of the car if they knew I was carrying. Eh, it's their loss. On to my most recent experience....

I had been dating this new girl for only a couple weeks. We had not talked about guns at all, and I was selective on where I would carry with her, to avoid bringing the topic up too soon or letting her discover it at the wrong time. I was carrying on our trip to the supermarket one day, and I was a little nervous that she would start to question the hard thing that she keeps bumping on my waist. On that trip, I told her that I wanted to bring her to the range to go shooting. She said, "Sure". I said "you aren't afraid of guns, are you?", and she replied "No". My first thought was "nice" However, that does not mean that she can handle a guy who carries a gun with him every day. Some girls have told me they are fine with guns, until I mention carrying one around. The reactions to that idea have been "why? " (of course), "it's not loaded, right?", "I can't be around a deadly weapon", and other insinuations that I might be crazy. So, I didn't tell her that I carry....

I was putting everything on the next day, before we went out. She was standing right there and I couldn't get her to leave the closet as I was going to put my holster/gun on. So, I just asked her if she would be comfortable seeing my gun. I expected the usual fearful reaction, but instead she answered, "I have already seen your gun". I immediately said "What?!?! Where did you see my gun?!?! How? When?". I was completely shocked!!! My concern was that, maybe, I had flashed everyone in public She said, "when you were putting groceries in the car, I felt something hard on your belt and lifted your shirt up". I said, "but you didn't say anything". Her attitude was that it's not a big deal. Wow! I said, "you are pretty cool". This is just one reason why this girl might be a keeper!

I know these girls exist out there, but it seems like such a rare attitude around here. I don't really have a point - I just had to share this.

 

[kwelz]

Keeper? No I disagree. Get rig of her as soon as possible. In fact, You can send her my way.

 

[Snake Eyes]

I had been dating this new girl for only a couple weeks....I was putting everything on the next day.....I couldn't get her to leave the closet

Reading between those lines, I hope you had a good protective "sock" for your gun. After only a couple weeks, no less, you bad boy. What would your mother say?

she answered, "I have already seen your gun".

I'm going to leave the obvious "Full Metal Jacket" quote for the next smart a--.

 

[sel366]

I've got one of those ladies as well (wife of 13 years). She is not much into shooting but she likes knowing that if a situation comes up I will be better prepared to handle said situation. I had a gun room before she even came into the picture so she knew what she was getting herself into. I have carried for 15 years now and when we get ready to go out she will ask which one are you bringing? You got to love a woman who ain't skeered of guns( if she was, I would have moved on long ago).

 

[doorman]

I have a gungirl in training. I have 17 year old twins (boy/girl). I make it a point to take them individully to the range so that I can give them all of my attention. This started last March. Interesting that my son can take it or leave it. My daughter absolutly loves it. We have been going almost every weekend since. Her favorite gun right now is a beretta .40 which is not to heavy but has enough snap to make her grin.

I will admit that my wife was not to happy with this but (and she agrees) that any activity with these kids at this age can't be all bad.

RU

 

[Ghost Tracker]

We all like to believe that we've NEVER been made...but we can ALWAYS spot the CCW packers. Your story reminds us that reality really doesn't care about what "we all like to believe". Thanks for the reminder!

 

[Funderb]

I dated a girl who was afraid of guns.
Notice the past tense.

If the girl doesn't like the smell of cordite,
she's not worth it.

 

[larry_minn]

While I ofteh (Think) I have spotted someone who (might) be carrying. It is seldom I KNOW unless I actually see it.
As far as someone KNOWING I am carrying. Very few times it would be possible they could even suspect.

 

[Citroen]

Could Lead to Wonderful Times!

My wife knew I was into guns when we first began to date - she was pretty neutral; went to the range with me a time or two but the noise bothered her. She had two children (in their teens) who had not been around guns but took to them immediately and really pestered me to take them to the range both before and after we had married.

After many happy years of no real problems concerning my being a gun person (she checks my clothing for printing everyday) I got a surprise a few weeks ago. She has a recliner that she sits in often - one arm has a pocket that is exposed when the arm is lifted. While we were taking a rare break and watching a television program, she piped up with this: "You've got several guns; if one of them will fit here in my chair I would feel much more comfortable when you are not home". She already has her own gun but she likes to keep that one in the bedroom - now she has two!

John
Charlotte, NC

 

[snorko]

I told my girlfriend I thought I needed a new safe, as mine is quite full. She got kind of a scolding look and said that having two safes was silly. I was about to get defensive when she said I should just build a gun room!

 

[biscuitninja]

he he my experience is a little different. I was dating this girl named nikki a few years ago.... She goes tothe bathroom and hands me her purse. I'm WTH, this things weighs a TON....

She comes back and i ask her what she has in their that weighs so much. She says its a little snub-nose .44 and a Walther PPK.... We go back and she shows me the collection of shotguns after that....
good luck
-bix

 

[Cougfan2]

I took my wife shooting on our first date. I figured I'd find out if it was worth cultivating the relationship from the get go. Happy to say, we've been married 28 years.

She was actually popping old paint cans from 50ft after just a little instruction.

 

[gunsmith]

I don't date much anymore

When I do I let them know before hand
That I am gun toting independent conservative opinionated
gunnie.
I don't date much anymore

 

[DFW1911]

I got very lucky with this. When my significant other and I started dating and she learned about my gun habit, her response was, well, kind of a non-response.

It seems she comes from a gun-friendly family, so not only did she grow up with firearms she's quite proficient with them as well. When she went away to undergrad she took her .38.

Pretty cool. Yes, we're now engaged.

Take care,
DFW1911

 

[RoadkingLarry]

I know these girls exist out there, but it seems like such a rare attitude around here.

Get the net man, get the net! She sounds like a keeper!

 

[BridgeWalker]

Be careful, or you'll end up like my husband. Poor man, I shoot all the ammo before he can get to it.

 

[jefnvk]

Umm, am I the only one noticing a VERY important point here?

SOMEONE LIFTED YOUR SHIRT, SEEN AND EXPOSED YOUR GUN, AND YOU DIDN'T NOTICE!

But, cool catch. Had one for a while that insisted that I have a gun by the bed, apparently she had an ex that just got out of jail, and it made her sleep better.

 

[jlpskydive]

NO NO NO!!!! This is BAD!!!!! You will marry her (I DID) and now I can't keep her out of the safe!!! Before we tied the knot she was perfectly happy with her Bersa for carry and her P94 for the range...... NOW she likes Sigs!!! Mine to be exact!!!! MY AR's!!!! SHE EVEN SAYS THE DE.44 is now Ours!!!!! Holy crap if you think this is expensive just getting the stuff you want wait till you collect for TWO!!! Seriously all that I said above is true and you'll love it keep her if the rest of your lives fit together as well.

 

[ArmedBear]

"I have already seen your gun"

That line definitely made me laugh.

 

[Waitone]

Umm, am I the only one noticing a VERY important point here?

SOMEONE LIFTED YOUR SHIRT, SEEN AND EXPOSED YOUR GUN, AND YOU DIDN'T NOTICE!

My thoughts exactly. Sorta makes me wonder about certain other skills she may have that you aren't anticipating.

 

[Officers'Wife]

Hi Shooter,

On our second date my (now) husband asked me where I wanted to go. I reminded him squirrel season just opened.

Selena

 

[hotwheelz]

Hey shooter,


I live here in WA. also where did you find her does she have any friends? Thanks

 

[ciajade]

I'm a girl who's totally fine with guns, but I can see where a girl would be uncomfortable. You may not wanna be carrying on the first date. I have always liked it when guys tell me about the fact that they carry before they actually do.

Several of my friends just needed a little "transition" period into accepting their boyfriends carrying a gun. Tact is important. Don't just tell a girl, "Hey I'm carrying a gun, does that bother you?" Of course it's going to in most cases. Just slowly drop it into conversation and most girls will warm up to it as the relationship progresses and trust has been established.

It wouldn't be very smart for a girl to automatically trust a guy with a gun after one date. Not everyone carries for solely the purpose of protection after all and how is a girl to judge until after she knows you.

 

[CountGlockula]

I can't believe no one said this....

"Is that a gun in your pocket, or are you REALLY glad to see me?"

 

[ShooterMcGavin]

Reading between those lines, I hope you had a good protective "sock" for your gun.

I hate to admit it in this thread but.... A while ago, I was dating a girl who knew that I had a gun. In bed, she asked if I had protection. I responded "yeah, there's a gun on the nightstand" She laughed!

She comes back and i ask her what she has in their that weighs so much. She says its a little snub-nose .44 and a Walther PPK.... We go back and she shows me the collection of shotguns after that....

Now THAT is a great date!!

Poor man, I shoot all the ammo before he can get to it.

Maybe I can get her really, really interested in shooting the .22... just maybe.

SOMEONE LIFTED YOUR SHIRT, SEEN AND EXPOSED YOUR GUN, AND YOU DIDN'T NOTICE!

While I do see your point... She had at least one hand on me for the past 15 minutes, so my situational-awareness-radar skipped over her as a possible threat. Also, it would have been kinda weird to wake up next to her and immediately establish a 20-foot security space between us

...You may not wanna be carrying on the first date. I have always liked it when guys tell me about the fact that they carry before they actually do...

Thanks, and good points ciajade. I agree. Unless I have a very good reason to believe "she" (any girl) will be comfortable around guns, I mostly do not carry on first dates.

Thanks for all the good responses and experiences! I am starting to think that this could be an expensive relationship, with neither of us performing the checks and balances for expenditures. At least her hobbies don't include motorcycles and expensive stereo equipment... yet