One of my ex-girlfriend's hated guns immensely, and was not open minded at all towards them. I never even considered getting rid of any of them for the slightest second. I found it ironic how a year prior to dating her she was mugged and felt "extremely helpless", yet she doesn't see any utility or defense from firearms. I would hope the person you choose to be with can respect your interests, and you do the same for her.
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gregthehand
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Girlfriends are easily replaced. If she's giving you life changing ultimatums now when you get serious she'll be your Drill Instructor barking orders. Once again girlfriends are easily replaced.
Neo-Luddite
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Take her clay shooting. I 'fixed' one girlfiend that way. Once SHE had the gun, and clay #1 went bust, well, then it was OK.
Of course, I married and procreated with the one whose Daddy was a gun nut and NRA lifer. While my wife is by no means a big shooter, she's a NRA lifer and has personal weapons she is proficient with.
So, find a daughter of a gun nut who idolizes her Dad. You also might get a Father in Law like no other in the bargain. Make life easy.
Of course, I married and procreated with the one whose Daddy was a gun nut and NRA lifer. While my wife is by no means a big shooter, she's a NRA lifer and has personal weapons she is proficient with.
So, find a daughter of a gun nut who idolizes her Dad. You also might get a Father in Law like no other in the bargain. Make life easy.
glockamolee
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Keep em. Let her shoot a pellet or bb gun in the basement. Once she has fun doing that, let her shoot a .22 at an outside range during off hours (less noise).
After that, she should be sold.
After that, she should be sold.
ArfinGreebly
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Sold?
Well, okay.
Just make sure you get a good price.
Really?
Well, okay.
Just make sure you get a good price.
MikePGS
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I think you should listen to her and give me the guns.
In all seriousness, my girlfriend wasn't too thrilled about the idea of guns to begin with. Now she's... not as opposed to them. We talked about it a bit, and i explained about how i think a gun is just a tool that can be used for bad or good, and offered to take her shooting. We went to the range and after discovering she was a natural shot, she isn't as opposed to the idea anymore. As a matter of fact, she now says that she's more comfortable with a gun in the house than not having one in the house (our neighborhood might have something to do with the choice) and she seems to respect the fact that I'm into guns, even though she gets annoyed sometimes that i'm constantly looking at them and this forum (she calls me a nerd and... she's right (just don't tell her i said that)) but aside from that it isn't really that much of an issue.
In all seriousness, my girlfriend wasn't too thrilled about the idea of guns to begin with. Now she's... not as opposed to them. We talked about it a bit, and i explained about how i think a gun is just a tool that can be used for bad or good, and offered to take her shooting. We went to the range and after discovering she was a natural shot, she isn't as opposed to the idea anymore. As a matter of fact, she now says that she's more comfortable with a gun in the house than not having one in the house (our neighborhood might have something to do with the choice) and she seems to respect the fact that I'm into guns, even though she gets annoyed sometimes that i'm constantly looking at them and this forum (she calls me a nerd and... she's right (just don't tell her i said that)) but aside from that it isn't really that much of an issue.
American_Pit_Bull
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So are wives... If my wife decided one day that it was her or the firearms; she would be down the road...
That is an irreconcilable difference if I have ever heard one!
TimboKhan
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Tell her to hit the road. If she loves you, she loves you for who you are. Guns are a material object and don't define a person, but the love of guns runs past the mere material object. Aside from the fact that being "deathly afraid of guns" is kind of dumb, it's ridiculous to me that she is trying to change you to begin with. Tell her that you love her, but this is something that isn't going to change. She either needs to face her fear or hit the bricks, in my opinion.
The-Fly
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Either she converts to the dark side (ours 
), or she gets deported to the nearest People's Republik.
Seriously, some people insist on being ignorant sheep, and aren't worth the time.
), or she gets deported to the nearest People's Republik. Seriously, some people insist on being ignorant sheep, and aren't worth the time.
Aguila Blanca
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You're right -- she's getting serious. She is beginning to assert control over YOUR life.
Is she the last woman on Earth? Didn't think so. Move on.
04SilverSCFX4
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Keep the guns, you can Bang them every day and you don't even have to say a word....
My wife was petrified of guns. She just now told me, "I never would have asked you to get rid of your guns. It was a package deal." On the other hand, I keep them put away and safe, and she trusts me.
She is no longer petrified of guns, but she is still very cautious and "gun shy"... and a staunch 2A supporter.
She has a handgun licence, but has never shot her gun, nor does she carry.
Time will tell, but she says she will probably evetually learn how to shoot, it's just that now she's busy being "mother bear."
1. morals/ethics/religion
2. money
3. commitment
4. mutual respect
Everthing else is negotiable.
She is no longer petrified of guns, but she is still very cautious and "gun shy"... and a staunch 2A supporter.
She has a handgun licence, but has never shot her gun, nor does she carry.
Time will tell, but she says she will probably evetually learn how to shoot, it's just that now she's busy being "mother bear."
1. morals/ethics/religion
2. money
3. commitment
4. mutual respect
Everthing else is negotiable.
Jamie C.
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Bandit01, The following advice will serve you well in any and all relationships, but most especially those involving women:
Unless you're a psychologist or psychiatrist and getting paid to, never get involved with somebody else's psychosis.
So, send the ol' girl packing now, before she gets the chance to make you as crazy as she is.
J.C.
Unless you're a psychologist or psychiatrist and getting paid to, never get involved with somebody else's psychosis.
So, send the ol' girl packing now, before she gets the chance to make you as crazy as she is.
J.C.
Turkey Creek
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For her to lay down the law at this stage of your relationship should be a giant super nova to you- Some women just have to try to mold you into their image of what they think you should be- Don't bother with spending time trying to educate her- You'll teach pigs how to fly sooner-
Even if she magically sees the error of her ways after you explain that your firearms are non negotiable, it will only go on her back burner to be brought up later when she has the force of legality behind her in the form of a marriage contract- My guess is, that if you think about it minus the testostorone rush, this is not the first time she has dropped little hints about what she expects of you-
At the very least, delay any permanent commitment for a considerable length of time and start analyzing her with your brain in the clear light of day-
One of three things will happen-
One, she will realize that you are too set in your ways for her and it will be adios to find an easier target-
Two, she will be sly enough to back off now with the knowledge that once she becomes empowered with marriage and or kids, she will have the leverage she needs to get what she wants- With enough time for this scenario, she will become more and more pushy for your commitment along with making the occasional error that reveals she has changed not at all- Kind of a "give em enough rope and they will hang themselves" situation-
Three, she will realize that a strong willed mate is really what she wants and you will be ok-
The odds here are 45, 50, 5- Personally I'd opt for Vegas with those odds- At least there you'll get hosed but it only will last two or three days versus the rest of your life
Even if she magically sees the error of her ways after you explain that your firearms are non negotiable, it will only go on her back burner to be brought up later when she has the force of legality behind her in the form of a marriage contract- My guess is, that if you think about it minus the testostorone rush, this is not the first time she has dropped little hints about what she expects of you-
At the very least, delay any permanent commitment for a considerable length of time and start analyzing her with your brain in the clear light of day-
One of three things will happen-
One, she will realize that you are too set in your ways for her and it will be adios to find an easier target-
Two, she will be sly enough to back off now with the knowledge that once she becomes empowered with marriage and or kids, she will have the leverage she needs to get what she wants- With enough time for this scenario, she will become more and more pushy for your commitment along with making the occasional error that reveals she has changed not at all- Kind of a "give em enough rope and they will hang themselves" situation-
Three, she will realize that a strong willed mate is really what she wants and you will be ok-
The odds here are 45, 50, 5- Personally I'd opt for Vegas with those odds- At least there you'll get hosed but it only will last two or three days versus the rest of your life
this is the classic situation where a female sees an oportunity to get control over you and to get money from you. Youd have to sell your stuff to make her happy, and i bet she has seen an advertisement for some of your guns and reloading equipment...
as in "hmmm he has these models here, and this store advertised them at 500-800 each, that means i can make X amount of money to spend on me".
Its how they work, happened to me. First it was my having a cigar with my pals, then it was not being able to smoke my pipe the day she would come see me. As she came to see me everyday that meant giving up my pipe. But I stilled smoked it when and where i wanted. Then she decided to go work in a different state one summer, and for some reason I was the bad one for asking "why are you having so many private, candlelit dinners with all these males?"
so go get a new woman friend, youll be happier in the long run. Guns are important to you, and they have to be important to her, at least she has to be happy with them around even if she isnt a shooter.
as in "hmmm he has these models here, and this store advertised them at 500-800 each, that means i can make X amount of money to spend on me".
Its how they work, happened to me. First it was my having a cigar with my pals, then it was not being able to smoke my pipe the day she would come see me. As she came to see me everyday that meant giving up my pipe. But I stilled smoked it when and where i wanted. Then she decided to go work in a different state one summer, and for some reason I was the bad one for asking "why are you having so many private, candlelit dinners with all these males?"
so go get a new woman friend, youll be happier in the long run. Guns are important to you, and they have to be important to her, at least she has to be happy with them around even if she isnt a shooter.
03Shadowbob
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Life is too short to try and convince others to believe in your views especially guns, religion and Miracle whip vs. Mayo. My advice? Buh-Bye now.
TimboKhan
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You know, I think that we all have pretty much the same advice, and I think that most of us probably had to learn this lesson the hard way. Or, maybe I am the only one that was rolled by a "wife" and transformed into a broke, bitter, depressed wreck for the better part of 5 years...
jeff-10
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Gun
It isn't about the guns...
For example it would be the same thing if you told her that you have a serious issue with all her antique hairbrushes and that she needs to get rid of them if she wants to be with you.
Sounds more like a control thing to me.
For example it would be the same thing if you told her that you have a serious issue with all her antique hairbrushes and that she needs to get rid of them if she wants to be with you.
Sounds more like a control thing to me.
Richbaker
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I made that decision years ago....I still have my motorcycles and guns! No regrets, I've met several better women that like both, as well as me...
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