Is Armed Your Default Setting?

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The Night Rider

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ETA the intent of this question is not whether or not you carry on posted property where it's not actually illegal.

The Genesis of this question was, in my mind, if the guy's wife would ask him if he's carrying a gun that would indicate to me that carrying a gun is kind of a hit or miss thing with that person. Whether or not I'm carrying it again is something my wife would never think to ask because it's common for me to be carrying a gun.

Before I ask my question I want to clarify that I understand that such a thing as an NPE or a Gun-Free Zone exists. I understand that not everybody can be armed at all times and in all situations. I'm asking in general.

I was reading a discussion on another forum tonight and one of the posters stated that if he was out in public with his wife and she wanted to know if he was armed she would ask him "Is everything okay?" and that was their code.

I find that to be a very odd question.

This August I will have been married to my wife for 25 years. We dated for a year and a half, really we dated for 6 months and we were engaged for a year, before we were married. I was carrying a gun on our first date and she knew it.

In all the time that we've been together it has never occurred in my wife to ask me if I was armed. It has never occurred to my wife to think that I wouldn't be armed.

She knows the rules. She knows that unless I'm going someplace where I can't even legally secure a gun in my car. I don't leave my house unarmed Period.

So the question is as the title says is being armed your default setting? Is it normal for you to be armed? or is it abnormal for you to he armed. Is it enough out of the ordinary for your wife or significant other to ask because they don't know whether or not your armed in public?
 
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I'm unarmed by default, and that's because I'm part of a lab team at a university. This lab has a ton of projects (so many that we're severely understaffed ) that are federally funded.

And because pretty much the entire EE floor is federal projects (except the IEEE Lounge ) it makes carrying not worth the risk.
 
There's a meme floating around out there somewhere. It shows a guy sitting on the exam table at the doctor's office and the doctor is filling out a form and asking him questions.

"Do you have a gun at home?"​

To which the guy replies:

"I have a gun in your office."​

I thought it sounded like...well, like something I would say. :D
 
Default settings:
My wife knows I'm armed, expects it, likes it. I like it.
If I'm wearing clothes I'm armed, including at home, and its at least a Sig 365 or Glock 26 minimum, even at the gym.
I am disinclined to go places where I can't be armed like ballgames, concerts or vacation outside the US. (see important clarifications below)



I live where I use to vacation, can walk down the street to the beach; leaving here to go someplace else is not something I want to do.
I don't give a crap about other countries culture, food, history.
I'm not going to board my dogs so if I went somewhere for vacation they go too.
The preceding was to try (not that it will) to keep someone from quoting the last line in regular size font above and incorrectly labeling it "fear" or telling me how they do whatever; I don't care what you do.
Fear is me not getting in the ocean because there are sharks in it; me not going places where I can't carry is a preference. I'd go to Wal-Mart disarmed repeatedly before I'd get in the ocean, it has sharks in it, that is fear.
 
Divorced Wife1, widowered Wife2, not dating.

Yes, everywhere not posted.

I've never actually used my signature line, since in general nobody knows I'm armed, but I'm ready for it if asked:

"You're safer with me with a gun than you are with me without a gun."

:grin:

Terry, 230RN
 
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Carrying a gun is simply not an option for a lot of people.

For my entire career of 30 years, I commuted daily into Washington, D.C. -- which at the time was basically a gun-free zone. And I worked at the IRS headquarters building on Constitution Avenue, which was certainly a gun-free zone (except for Special Agents and the FPS guards).

Somehow I did not feel at all deprived, not to be able to carry a gun. The guns stayed at home.
 
I'm always armed and my wife and kids know it. Because of a threat towards government employees last summer my employer now allows all county employees to carry concealed at work and I do. If I must go to a school event, inside the school, or a post office my gun is lock into a steel safe in my truck that is steel cabled to my seat frame.
 
So the question is as the title says is being armed your default setting? Is it normal for you to be armed? or is it abnormal for you to he armed. Is it enough out of the ordinary for your wife or significant other to ask because they don't know whether or not your armed in public?[/QUOTE]

Yes, unless its in a place that prohibits being armed. Post office, Grandkids school functions, ect. Then I lock it in the truck console. I'm a little uncomfortable leaving it in the truck but what do you do? I have the serial number in the notes section in my phone just in case its stolen.
 
For me it's like preparing for rain ... Do you like getting wet?

I don't normally pack an umbrella or rain gear as I head out the door. But if it looks like it's going to rain or raining, I put on rain gear. ;)

It's better to be prepared and not rain than take a chance and get rained on. :p

GEM said:
Well, we were going off to hike in the scary woods, and my wife asked I if had 'enough' gun. Does that count? Lions and tigers and bears, OH MY!
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I had 8 bear encounters while hiking through the mountains and while none of my 9mm/40S&W/45ACP pistols would have done much to thick skinned bears, loud pop may have done something.

I considered 10mm Glock 20SF but the black bears at my retirement area are conditioned by hunters so they usually run at the sight of any human. And they tell me by the time we see a mountain lion, it's usually too late regardless what we carry. :eek:
 
Not everywhere. There are places I go where the chances of needing a gun are so low that it's not worth the hassle or discomfort. My mindset is that even without a firearm I'm not disarmed, I'm not a victim. More often than not I do carry a gun but I don't have a panic attack if I'm not carrying for whatever reason.
 
earlthegoat2 said:
I carry frequently but not always. My wife and I don’t speak in riddles. She just asks me, “Do you have your gun on you.” or “Are you carrying?”
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You never know who's overhearing your conversation, I don't fault a couple for speaking in code.

My wife and I both have an emergency word. If we're anywhere in public and one says to the other "I want to go smoke a cigarette" we stop whatever we're doing and no debate, we leave.
 
KeithK said:
Yes , only time i'm not is heading to the Naval base 3 miles away, for commissary run.
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Everyone tells me I should shop at the commissary on Fort Carson I'm just not sure the prices are low enough to drive essentially to the other end of the county.
 
My default is not carrying. I do have my CCW and do carry on occasion but normally I do not. The wife does not ask, she usually knows without asking.
 
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