my mother passed away

[lobo9er]

i dunno if i can offer much i wasnt blessed with words just want to let you know i'm praying for you too. try to get out of the house get some fresh air
you can make it through this

 

[conw]

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Your mom was very pretty. What a strong face. Hope you're doing OK.

 

[TexasRedneck]

My friend, please don't take this wrong....but it's time for you to "man up". Your Momma didn't raise a whiney boy - she raised a man, and now it's time for you to show the world the man she raised.

My Mom was diagnosed w/cancer in mid-February, and she chose to check herself out of the hospital a few days later. We lost her in March - lost my Dad 5 years ago, so all that's left is us kids....thing is, we were a "blended family" faced with settling an estate.

Guess what? We're all hanging in there, because that's the way THEY RAISED US. It's been hard at times - especially going through the personal effects - but through it all we know Mom & Dad are in a better place.

I bawled my eyes out at the cemetery, because it was the last time I'd be that physically close to her again on this earth. But I have 4 sisters watching me, and counting on ME to be the strong one - even at times when I just want to sit in the corner and cry. But Mom & Dad didn't raise us that way - I'm now the "man" of the family, and it's my job to keep things together. I'd love to take the easy way and drop into the bottle - but it would dishonor her name and memory.

Oh.....and Mom? Legally, she's my stepmother - but when someone says "Mom", SHE is who comes to my mind, because she took on the challenge when my biomom decided 3 kids were too much trouble and moved halfway across the country.

If you'd like to PM or call me, just let me know - be happy to talk w/you - but please don't expect me to accept you sliding into that bottle, because it's the absolutely WORST way to mark your Mom's life!!! The drugs won't help, either - this is part of life, and you're going to have to learn to compartmentalize it, and deal with it a bit at a time - but all the chemicals in the world won't help you with it in my experience.

 

[yongxingfreesty]

sorry for your loss bud, keep your head up. you will be alright.

RIP

 

[BHPshooter]

I haven't logged in for a while, so I just saw this.

I am so sorry for your loss. I don't deal really well with death, but I can't imagine losing my mother. That would be hard on anyone.

I am not as religious as I probably should be, but nevertheless, there are things I firmly believe and things I immutably know.

I KNOW scientifically that energy is neither created nor destroyed, it just changes forms.

I firmly believe that there is a God, and that he knows us individually and loves us. I believe your mother is in a better place where there is no pain. If you want to dig into this deeper, please PM me.

It's okay to be sad, but you and I both know that she wouldn't want you to spend the rest of your life in the bottle -- she would want much better for you. Honor her wishes. Get help if you need it.

Wes

 

[JImbothefiveth]

Hey,
I think you might need some counseling.

When I was a kid and my grandma died, which wasn't as bad as what you're going through, I got some anxiety problems because of it. Seriously, get help, it should make it much easier. The grief will go away with time, so please, don't apply a permanent solution to a temporary problem! That's not what she would want.

why doesnt she come around me so that i know shes ok?

None of us know. Maybe it doesn't work that way?

Maybe she can't where do people go when they die? do they go to heaven right away & get judged?

I believe so. Don't worry though, that would mean she'd get to Heaven sooner.

And Heaven is an awesome place indeed, here's what the bible says

And I heard a loud voice from the throne, saying, "Behold, the tabernacle of God is among men, and He will dwell among them, and they shall be His people, and God Himself will be among them

and He will wipe away every tear from their eyes; and there will no longer be any death; there will no longer be any mourning, or crying, or pain; the first things have passed away."

And He who sits on the throne said, "Behold, I am making all things new " And He said, "Write, for these words are faithful and true."

Then He said to me, "It is done I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end I will give to the one who thirsts from the spring of the water of life without cost.

So don't worry about her.

Don't turn in to an alchoholic either, that won't make it better.

 

[Maverick223]

I KNOW scientifically that energy is neither created nor destroyed, it just changes forms.

Hate to call you out, and please don't be offended, but you are incorrect, the engineer in me peeks out from time to time...nuclear fission and fusion is the destruction of matter, and the creation of energy...it involves relatively small quantities but the matter vanishes, is gone, no longer exists in any form...it is converted into pure massless energy.

 

[johnchamp]

just keeping you posted i been sober for 2 days know & praying & asking god for his forgiveness. the hurting is still there and by me going on the computer i can talk about it with everyone here. i see one of our members try to post my mothers picture here but didnt work can someone re do it please thank you john. by the grace of god and with friends here i can pull through.

 

[CoRoMo]

I'm glad to see you posting again John, and with good news of your efforts in recovery. Your mother would be proud.

 

[Geno]

JC:

God never let any of us experience more than we could endure. There are some folks around here who are here only because of God's good grace. I fall into that group. You will need to discuss this more than just here on computer. This is a huge issue, and we al need insights on such big issues.

Onward now. Your Mother was absolutely a beautiful woman. I am sure her personality and kindness matched her appearance. There's something classy and elegant about the old photography, isn't there? My mother's pictures are beautiful.

God bless ya, bud.

Geno

 

[johnchamp]

yes i found that picture with the rest of my mothers things. that was the last year of high school 1955 in cheshire, ct cheshire high school she lost her mother in 1954 of luekemia i thought this picture was the one she wanted me to pick.

 

[GodGuns&Guitars]

STAY SOBER!!! Like I said before, I have cancer and was given 18 months but that is no reason to go and get drunk. I had a cat scan yesterday along with a blood test and will get the results next Wednesday. I pray all goes well and that soon I can return to Colorado and go on an elk hunt come November. I will pray for you and your needs. I do NOT plan on giving up and not fighting the evil that exists inside of me. With luck, I will live beyond what the doctor's have given me like some other people I have met. Now get out there and enjoy life as there is a whole lot of living ahead of you.

 

[johnchamp]

i will pray for you too! we need you here and i hope that all goes well john god bless you you are in my prayers.

 

[Larry Ashcraft]

John, I'm proud of you. And THR, I'm proud of you too!

 

[Maverick223]

My prayers with you GG&G as well as John.

 

[JImbothefiveth]

Great John! Like many of the other posters, you're free to PM me anytime you want.

 

[rodensouth]

John, I am so happy to see your latest posts! I am praying for you and gg&g.

THR members who have reached out in such a big way .....WOW! Bless you.

 

[Tacbandit]

JC,
Hang in there man. You've taken a big step toward the healing process.
Keep it up!!! Lots of folks are in your corner, and a lot of us are praying for you. Lean on God in this hard time, and always... God Bless ,
Tacbandit & family

 

[JImbothefiveth]

Good luck with the cancer GGG

 

[mrhtml16]

jchampagne,

i lost my dad five years ago to a heart attack right in our driveway. watching him go right before my eyes is something i'll never forget. it still hurts to this day remembering all the times i shared with him. and like everyone, i have my regrets too. but i believe God has a reason for everything, even if we don't understand it at the time. i can only hope i'll be half the man my dad was, i believe that's what keeps me going in the right direction. don't let your mom down, kick that nasty drinking habit out the door man! We all got your back! My prayers go out to you and GG&G. My mom faced a bout with breast cancer and won right before dad passed, keep the faith!

 

[bang_bang]

I didn't really know what to say earlier...but glad you're headed in the right direction. I couldn't imagine loosing my mother....

I'm young, but I've lost several good friends and some family members in the past few years. Yeah, you have to mourn, but you have to celebrate your memories you had with them also. Death isn't all about the end...it's about honoring the ones you loved and cared for.

GGG- cancer is a tough enemy. I lost an aunt around Thanksgiving last year to cancer....her second round of what they thought had gone into remission. Simply, it was her time...she had fought with all she had until the cancer ate away at her strength. She was prepared, God took her under his guidance that day. My uncle and cousin were prepared also....ate Thanksgiving dinner with friends and family the next day.

I'm not saying loosing someone is easy, it never is. It's just that it's all on the way you approach it. It's not the end of the world, and definitely not what they would want. Your mother would want you to celebrate her...

Never give up.

 

[PSYCHOBILLY]

Sorry to hear. I just lost my Dad on July 2nd of this year. So I know what your going through. Heart attack out of the blue.The booze doesnt help. Trust me I binged for a few days. It helps me to remember the good and funny times. Thoughts and Prayers out from AZ.

 

[GodGuns&Guitars]

Cancer

For those who have offered prayers and thoughts, thank you. I'm not going to give up without a HARD fight. I've met several people that have fought the same type of cancer that I have and they were diagnosed with it back in 2000, so I take what the doctors say with a grain of salt. I was just trying to let others know, that no matter how bad you think things are, there is/are those of us that suffer much worse things.

I lost my Father back in the early 90's from prostate cancer. That was particularly hard as he had been my soul hunting and fishing partner most of our lives together. My Mother I lost in the early 2000's to alziemers. That was a particular slow death and it finally just drained her to where she finally just threw in the towel, and gave up. I believe she was tired, and she wanted to go ahead and be with her partener of over 50 years.

I by no means wish to steal this thread as I believe John needs our help more than I do. I have a good faith in God, and pray each and every day.

 

[bang_bang]

GGG- I think your illness, your story with the same struggles and your experiences is a reminder that there is actually a warm being sitting behind the computer, typing these words. We all are here for the same interests, thus bringing some of us closer over years and years of shared knowledge about our hobbies. We are not here just for fun, but for support to those that need it.

The difference between the right word and the nearly right word is the difference between lightning and lightning bug.- Hunter S. Thompson

Sometimes people are left speechless over situations and feeling helpless on how to handle them. Also remember that bad things happen to good people...but good things only happen to good people.

Take care guys...if anyone needs to talk, there is plenty of people that linger these forums that will take the time to listen.

 

[Maverick223]

I by no means wish to steal this thread as I believe John needs our help more than I do. I have a good faith in God, and pray each and every day.

I believe that both of you are on the right track...and God is with you both helping with your trials, keep strong.