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I'm glad she's safe, doc.
Good on you for being there.
Good on you for being there.
I was wondering the same thing... Were you saying that she was afraid to file charges because the other woman was Mexican/Italian/etc...Posted by Guns and more:
Just what is "ethnic retaliation"? I don't speak PC.
Doc540 said:Put yourselves in her shoes: small, female, and no self defense training while circulating on a daily basis with big, mean, aggressive people who regularly threatened her both on and off campus.
Drawing a gun on an unarmed woman seems kind of, um, overdoing it. Embarassing, too.
1. do NOT incite a stranger while driving
"Come again? People threaten her regularly??"
Yep, confirmed by friends who are teachers and administrators at the school.
And the threats aren't just directed at her. That's just life these days in a high school with a diverse registration of 2500 people.
You "disrespect" someone, accidentally step on their pristine, $100 sneakers, or just bump into them in the hall and they WILL threaten to kick your little, white, azz. Right there in front of everyone or later that evening in the mall parking lot. Don't even matter.
And don't get confused. This is no "black" thing. It's a pseudo-gangstah thing regardless of your race.
...quietly and courageously supported whatever decisions I was making, like a partner should.
Had it become necessary, I knew I could rely on her to do exactly what I told her or needed her to do so we'd all be safe.
You "disrespect" someone, accidentally step on their pristine, $100 sneakers, or just bump into them in the hall and they WILL threaten to kick your little, white, butt. Right there in front of everyone or later that evening in the mall parking lot. Don't even matter.
Well, that definitely illustrates another dimension of the OP's handling of the incident: initiative to take total charge and failure to use a perfectly good resource."My question for you concerns your wife's attitude/role in this incident and relate it to my own situation. How and what was she doing during the initial phone call? Does she share your ability to remain rational and calm? What about during the car ride to the scene? Did she take the phone from you, or call her daughter back while you were driving?"
My wife is a smart, tough, common-sense, pioneer woman. So, I married her.
If you recall in my first post, I tried to keep the conversation calm and simple partly to keep her calm. After hanging up, I told her, "I couldn't completely understand her, but she's having some sort of problem, but hasn't been in an accident. I think she's ok, but we need to get to Starbucks and check on her."
I was too intent on driving quickly and safely for her to distract me with questions or the cell phone. She realized I was on a mission, and quietly and courageously supported whatever decisions I was making, like a partner should.
Had it become necessary, I knew I could rely on her to do exactly what I told her or needed her to do so we'd all be safe.
She's the same one who wanted to keep shooting at the range a few weeks ago after the Model 36 had her thumb bleeding!
She's a tough, smart cookie and one in a million.
doc540 said:And the threats aren't just directed at her. That's just life these days in a high school with a diverse registration of 2500 people.
If you don't mind ending up in confrontations with angry drivers then I suppose it's not "out of bounds". If your goal is to avoid confrontation then perhaps it's not a good idea.I have to take another road on that. She started what, exactly? Although I wouldn't use such hand gestures (just not my style), I don't think giving a reckless driver the finger is out of bounds. And I don't think that qualifies as "starting it".
Posted by doc540:
Absolutely, correct. I did, indeed, learn a lesson about that.
Of course, when seconds were counting I did, after all, arrive at the scene several minutes before the cops. And they were called before I was.
It's a sad day when we have to tapdance around the truth.Regarding the "ethnic retaliation", this accurately summed it up:
"Probably something along the lines of the perp's compatriots abusing the daughter at some later stage, such as at school. If the compatriots prodiminately fall within a particular ethnic group (as many real or "wannabe" gangs do), I can see "ethnic retaliation" as being a somewhat generalized way of saying the daughter (probably correctly) believes she could be injured, especially if she is of a different ethnic origin.