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Anyone else have this problem? I've racked up a fair amount of experience with guns and think it's soon going to be time to get the CCW. During all this time my wife has kind of, what's the word, ah, tolerated my "gun obsession." I've taught her (reluctantly on her part) to use my Rem. 870 in case where I was hurt, gone etc. She still says she doesn't feel comfortable with guns in general (not just the 870) because she thinks she's not "ready" (she's easily shot a 1000 rounds in all types of guns) and still feels uneasy around guns.

I'm at the point where I realize that she will definitely never like guns like I do. But I'm content that she at least knows how to use one if (God forbid) she ever needs to.

Anyone else have wife experiences like this?
 
My wife enjoys going to the range and she has taken her NRA Basic Pistol class. She will have her CCW next month and she plans on carrying regularly.

At 5'0" and 105lbs. she can shoot with the best of them.
 
My wife has never been anti, but didnt really ever have much interest in guns. I took her to a ladies only handgun class early this year and she really enjoyed it.

This might be an avenue for you to consider. It will get her some formal training, where she will be ONLY with other women. This may help her grow to be more comfortable and more importantly, proficient.
 
Tried to teach mine to shoot shotgun and pistol. I think they are maybe too loud for her, but regardless, don't think she believes she would ever have an instance where she needed one. Thinking is kinda like, well, you make the money, I spend it; i.e. you solve the problems, I don't, I'm along for the ride!
 
Too loud? Sheesh.

Earplugs. Earmuffs. Earplugs and earmuffs. Unless you're one of those macho folks who think that they'll never go deaf...

Too much stereotyping around "the little woman." Women need boomsticks.
 
Has she always shot larger defense calibers? If so, maybe you could get a .22 pistol or rifle to let her plink with instead of rattling her brain every range trip with a 12 gauge (see if she closes her eyes and winces when she pulls the trigger!). That can be a turn off to people that don't enjoy shoulder or wrist abuse. Let her work up to the bigger calibers at her own pace. She can practice accuracy at the range with a .22, but if the moment comes where a BG is kicking in the door she'll go for the 870.
 
I'm not stereotyping..just talking about my wife specifically. I agree that women need boomsticks. Yup, I've had her shoot the .22 before (rifle and target pistol), and a 9mm Beretta. She likes the less kick but still uneasy with shooting it. Her attitude is probably similar to that of herrwolf's wife: that is, she doesn't think a situation may arise where she may need to need to know how to use it (despite all my efforts to convince her otherwise).
 
I got my wife into it the wrong way. We bought a Walther P99 in .40 S&W on impulse. She enjoyed shooting, but wasn't really getting any better. So I got her a HKP2000 in 9mm (she's a lefty) and she's still not improving. So finally I got her a Walther P22 and she enjoys shooting a lot more and is able to get groups. I fact, she's really addicted to golf and working pretty hard on her game and doesn't feel inclined to work as hard on shooting. Wait till I take her trap shooting...:D
 
I consider myself to be extremely fortunate to not have the wife problem being discussed here. My lovely and talented wife is as dedicated to the shooting sports, particularly long distance precision shooting, as I am. We regularly attend a wide variety training together and she frequently outperforms many of the other men in attendance ... but not me, of course :)

She has great skill with her semi-auto, .40 S&W, pistols, although she strongly prefers her revolvers. I shot some video footage, with an IR camera, of her executing a house clearing drill in the dark with her HK P2000 and Surefire which is fun to watch over and over. Similarly, she rocks with carbines (I've got a pic of her sporting an enormous grin immediately after a mag dump with a full-auto M4ergry as my computer background) but she loves her Rem 700 LTR .308 above all else and that LTR loves her right back.

Did I mention she is lovely too?
 
Wife is content with her snubbie and doesn't want to go any further. I'm happy with that because some guys would probably love to be with someone that would atleast carry.
 
Mine hated them at first (at first being before she held one). As soon as she'd fired off that first round she got a big grin on her face and has loved them ever since. She keeps a 12 bore shotgun next to her side of the bed.
 
My ex-wife wouldn't touch a gun...Which was really weird, as she grew up (on a farm) surrounded by them. At her parents house, as soon as you walked through the door there at least 2-3 guns setting there. Ammo was in the first drawer you came to in the kithcen (also just inside front door). I tried to teach her to load my shotgun, and retreat (with the kids once we had them) to our bedroom....Let them have whatever they want, but if someone opens the door, blast away. She wouldn't have any part of it.
 
My Girlfriend has her Permit for Connecticut, her Florida is on the way, she can outshoot me some of the time, but never carries though. When I applied for my Florida, she told me she wanted hers too! :eek: There went $107...
 
Watson have you tried reactive targets? If she doesn't like the whole idea of guns it might not help but just shooting paper targets gets boring. Maybe bring out some soda bottles filled with water (if your range allows it) and let her bust those. It's fun to watch them burst for most people, makes it more of a game. Also, I hope you don't try to correct her shooting technique all the time. That'll kill the fun really fast. Just let her do her own thing on the range and only suggest something if it's grossly wrong (like "try not to put your cheek in front of the ejection port honey" lol)
 
Early in our marriage my wife would shoot with me. I made a point of showing her proper operation, safety and technique. Now she faithfully ignores all my gun hobby activities. This is both a good and a bad thing. Can't force someone to like something they're not interested in.
 
She doesn't share your interest or enjoyment but is willing to support you and become familiar with them. What more do you want?
 
Back in the late 70's my young (at the time) wife and I lived in a high crime area, I was often gone, she was very ready to learn to use a gun. I started her out with a .22, then to a .357 revolver loaded with .38s, then to .357 Mag ammo, then to a .45 ACP (Colt Series 70). This was over a two month period. She went with me weekly to an indoor range to practice and got to where she could often outshoot me with the .45. We often attracted an audience at the range because in 1978, you didn't often see women at a range, especially an attractive, slender 23 year old woman shooting a Colt .45 ACP. We later ended up in a quiet little city, not much crime, she lost interest in shooting. Lately I have been running pistol classes for women only in response to increased interest in concealed carry and my wife has rediscovered her enjoyment of shooting. She has confiscated a Taurus snub nose .45 Colt revolver and a Glock 17 in 9 mm from our collection and now refers to them as "hers". She also now wants me to buy a Glock 26 (a Baby Glock in 9 mm) for her (for when Wisconsin finally gets a CCW law) and a second Taurus snub nose revolver in .45 Colt (so she won't have to share the one we have with me at the range). Our sons (ages 14 and 12) are avid shooters and hunters and are absolutely amazed that Mom knows so much about guns and is able to reliably hit the target. Our 32nd anniversary is in 10 days, I got a Glock 26 for her along with some yellow, shiny jewelry. Don't tell her.:)
 
My wife does not figure in any home defense plans. My wife hates guns, doesn't know anything about them (except that she hates them), and probably accepts my owning them only because I had them long before I married her and she probably senses (although it has never come up) that if she were to deliver a "guns or me" ultimatum, she'd be on the curb in a heartbeat.
 
Army Trained

My wife spent 3 years in the U.S. Army, she knows how to lock n load my Colt AR and she can shoot it very well. She feels that's all she needs to know.
Drives me buggy, in 25 years I can't ever remember her shooting one of my handguns. Says it's just not her thing.
To her credit she has alway said to me "if gun are your thing, then so be it."

RH
 
My wife has little to no interest in shooting as a sport or hobby, but has her CCW. On the other hand, she's only carried once, and is still looking for the round tuit to find clothing and holsters that will work for her. We go to the range together about twice a month, and we're going to a police-sponsored training class next weekend.
 
wife hates em

damndest thing musta been 50 guns in house she grew up in 7 brothers and one sister all hunt sister teaches ccw course for christs sake. first time i brought a pistol home she went ballistic. she tolerated it turned out the long guns as snakecharmers.who can figure women. i have hope for my 5 year old daughter. she likes em but not the noise
 
To me, a woman that detests guns will never be a match. You can throw up the "macho" card all day, but I am a warrior and a warrior's weapons are his life. Shooting also happens to be my biggest hobby, but it is to the point of being a lifestyle for me. The idea that I would marry a woman who did not at least appreciate and understand my ownership of guns is just as crazy as the idea of a Harley mechanic and long-time biker marrying a girl who hates motorcycles.

My mom grew up around guns, but my dad never took her shooting much. I was the one who bought her and my sister pistols, and I have been the one to really teach them how to shoot. I could never accept a woman as a life partner who was not willing to at least learn.
 
Nope. My wife insisted on learning how to handle and fire them if they are in the house. Getting her involved in HD was a lot of "labor" though:D Since our son was born, she has a different view of the world, "Don't get between a grizzly and her cub" comes to mind.:D One suggestion watson, maybe she could go shoot with someone besides her husband. My wife didn't want to look "stupid" around me so I had one of my other shooting buddies give her shooting instruction. This helped her build her confidence about shooting by herself and that there are men out there that know less about firearms than she does;) Good luck.
 
I'm fortunate.

My wife of 27 yrs already had a Mod 10 S&W (Hates semi-auto's), a 12 ga, and a rifle when I met her.

She's an excellent shot, and has squeezed the trigger the first time on many a new purchase of "mine", looked at me with an evil grin and declared "MINE!"

When we caught 2 burglars in our garage at 4 AM, she was off to one side in the shadows backing me up with her 625. The 625 resides under her pillow. Her Taurus model 85 is right next to her usual spot on the couch.

Truly blessed I am.
 
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