How do you convince your significant other that you need a certain gun?

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Seriously again

My response was serious, appropriate, and professional. It was based on professional training in the field of counseling, observation of many marriages in addition to my own 42 year marriage to the same woman.

Argueing over what to spend money on causes more marital strife than how much money there is to spend. Having an understanding of and respect for allowing freedom of choice for both parties to enjoy some fruit of their labor is critical to a lasting and happy marriage. The sooner that understanding occurs, preferably before the vows are exchanged, the better the chances for the marriage to survive.
 
Well, since no one else here has said it...

Congratulations MagnumDweeb and crystalrose on your pending nuptials. We wish you the best.

Back to topic. I would be ecstatic if my wife walked up to me and said that she really wants a Kimber, or any firearm for that matter. She shoots mine, but doesn't want any for herself.

That being said, y'all are going to have to talk out the money matters. That won't change once you are married.

I echo the words of JerryM:
Stay within your means. Wait until you have the money after you are married. Then when you both agree that you can afford it, buy it.
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As much as I love guns, it is not worth compromising the financial stability of my marriage. Good luck!! Thanks.
-Gig 'em-
 
do you two re-load??

i ask cause he has a 45 and you want a 45 and if you re-loaded 45acp for $14/100 ( adjusted for the cost of equipment @ $500 for a dillion sq-deal) you can save so much in ammo costs that you can buy your KImber in less than a year with the savings.
 
I too would be ESTATIC also to purchase a weapon for my wife (If she could ever decide),depending on price tag though, I know the Kimber's are nice but i would certainily try and steer her towards something a little more "reasonable"
We are a family of 5 , on a budget like most folks, being your still in BF/GF status and no-bling on your finger yet i would suggest purchasing the weapon yourself IF you can afford it of course,, shelling out the greenbacks for a Kimber-brand will certainily make you appreciate it even more than a "gift".
And welcome to "The high road"
 
Crystal If he has two handguns why not suggest he uses one of them for a down payment or sell it and use the money to buy a used Kimber.
If you work you can start saving and suggest yo him you will come up with some of the money
I have come up across used Kimbers at good prices.
 
Well, congrats you two, seems like the issue's about solved anyway. Just be thankful man, me and the Mrs. Rimfire have been married for almost four years, together for nearly eight, and last year was the first time she had any interest in having her own gun, so you two are off to a good start. :D
 
If money isn't in a big enough surplus (and what young couple starting out has money in surplus) to purchase a gun just to find out if you like how it shoots, perhaps an outing to a range with a good rental selection will let you find out what fits you best and is the most fun to shoot.

I'm an advocate of researching all the information available and then trying on the item before buying. If the gun fits you properly then it will be a lot more accurate for you right away and a lot more comfortable to shoot in a caliber you enjoy. If that happens to be a 1911 single stack or 1911 double, a Glock or a CZ or something else, that's ok. It is what fits you and is most comfortable and accurate for you to shoot that's important. I've trained many women to shoot and when they shoot different handguns from the different families they always settle on what points most naturally and is therefore most comfortable. They're frighteningly accurate and remarkably quick with a gun that fits.

Then you can decide on which family of handguns to start with so you can start out with a good entry model and work your way up to full blown "barbecue guns" in fancy leather when you can afford it. Spending all your money and not having any left over for ammo, range time and courses isn't all that fun.
 
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Hum, I wonder if BudsGuns has a wedding registry?

Seriously, just go shoot, Iron out what exactly you want, then exchange guns. If you have to wait, so be it. If it's something like this, I'd got the extra lengths and get a true custom, unless she really wants the production gun.
 
In relationships communication is king, but managing money is critical. Do both.

Congrats, and I hope the budget allows a nice Kimber soon. Patience is an excellent attribute that can pay huge dividends. AC
 
Let me begin by explaining myself a bit better, so as to not come off and the money hungry woman that some might think that I am.... We first began our gun journey shortly after we started dating, as he is a NRA Certified Pistol Instructor... He gave me a safety book to read up on, as well as he let me handle several of the guns that he shoots on a regular basis. Then we started spending times just looking at pictures of guns... after much looking through those, he found that I have very expensive taste
because I really liked the Colt Python. Then after much searching I found that I loved Sig 238 with the rainbow titanium color. Then we went to the gun show. I found that the Sig I did not like because it was too small. I found that after holding revolvers I really didn't like the way that any of them felt in my hand. I found that I really only liked the way semi-automatics felt in my hand.... I guess I like to feel like I'm holding onto to something in when it comes down to guns... So I just picked up all kinds of guns and told my boyfriend that the Kimber felt amazing, of course it said "it better for $1,000.00. When we went shooting he decided that I should shoot his Ruger P345 and I found that it wasn't that bad at all... I also shot two of his 9mm and found that his stainless steel one I did not like at all, but I did like shooting his Bersa Ultra compact 9mm. Also I loved his Glock as well.


My case and point was this... He's got 4 different guns he might carry on any given day, and so far my favorite out of those is the Glock, so for now I should just get that one (he plans on one day getting me my own gun). I think that instead of getting me something in the 600.00-800.00 that perhaps he should wait a while and get me that Kimber I want and let me carry the Glock for now. I'm not being impractical like... get me one now... I am acutally in sales and feel like I need to get the features and benefits for the Kimber, and since I'm not a seasoned shooter I'd need to ask the forum for those. I do not have a problem waiting I just have a problem convincing him that we should wait to buy a Kimber instead of getting something less expensive sooner.....

On a cute....possibly comical to some side note.... I have found an engagement ring that I love which is less than 600.00 and I want a gun that costs about 1000.00, so all and all I think I might be more practical than most woman.... then again some might find this impractical...but again besides the engagement ring I am in no rush for my pistol.


As far as the model in general.... i don't know enough about guns to know that, but I do know that I like the tri-tone ones with brown grips.
 
Well, if you're looking for features and benefits of a specific gun, you've already got that one down pat. IMO, by far the most important feature of any handgun is how well it fits you. How it fits in your hand, how the trigger is positioned, how the sights come up, etc.
 
Sorry, no can do. The zombies could be at the door and my wife would be calling the police. Thus, I try never to convince, but only ask her trust.
 
Congratulations, Just a little decorating suggestion, but a reloading bench fits really nicely into a new living room, and fully loaded, it costs a lot less than say, a piano!
 
Congrats To The Two Of You!

I think The Kimber will Arrive when the time is right!

Most Important of All! Best Friends!

I Married My Best Friend....:)

PS: And thanks Crystal....My Wife loved both your and Magnum's Stories, kinda reminded us of our start and struggle 13 years ago.

And She Just Said...Hon! I Want A Kimber! :what::D
 
My wife doesn't shoot but she doesn't really begrudge me my hobby or generally question my purchases.
 
as a previous poster suggested I would look at other pistols as well as Kimber.

The PT1911 comes to mind.

And another thing...what is up with women and 1911's???

I had, HAD, a nice 1911...my wife shot it...now my wife has a nice 1911...

my best friend and best man at my wedding...his wife...1911's....

my sister...1911's...

I mean, technically I understand...slightly more narrow grip due to single-stack, 45 isn't exactly a super-high performance round, and a 1911 is, for the most part a good chunk of iron. Combine all these ingredients and you have an excellent pistol.

But hey...considering what I spent on my wife's wedding set...and what this gal is wanting to do in compromise...well...I think you both have your heads on straight...you both talk of compromise...meeting each other half way makes any road your on seem less difficult. Trust me on this...

Of course, there IS one other thing you can possibly do...

Purchase the parts and build your own 1911's...say start with a Caspian or other frame and just get the parts as you get the time to work on them. That way each pistol is specific to your needs...in the end, for the final work, get each slide or receiver engraved with a "to you" message.

Hope this helps!
And congrats to the both of you. :)

D
 
Most people (spouses, GFs and others) who aren't enthusiasts feel that "aren't you buying just one more of the same thing?" I've encountered that line of questioning, and I don't even have an SO!
That's when it's time to explain that each firearm has its own visuo-tactile experience. Guns handle and fire differently. A bolt action rifle is satisfying in one particular way, but a lever gun feels sufficiently different enough to justify having both.
There are all sorts of "completeness" reasons to add a gun... "All my guns are semiautos. We should have at least one revolver." "The calibers I currently own use expensive ammo. I want to add something that shoots cheaper ammo."
For a man justifying it to a woman, I think the conversation can be turned around a bit back toward them. "Hey, why do you need that particular piece of jewelry? You already have a few bracelets," etc.

Stepping up to a higher quality gun means spending more, but getting more. The additional marginal satisfaction of a pricier, more enjoyable gun can put the brakes on other purchases. There have been
some disappointing guns in my collection, they were "search guns" I acquired as I looked for something ideal. In my state, the pistol permit process is very strict... therefore there's really no way to
"try before you buy" unless someone next to you at the range is willing to let you use their gun... it does happen at my local range, but not always with something I've considered purchasing.

LarryA, hats off for knocking off the inappropriate posts.
 
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crystalrose,

My fiance 20 years ago suggested instead of our spending money on an engagement ring that instead we wait until we built our house and get a top of the line hot tub/spa that we'd get a lot more fun/utility out of. We still enjoy the spa and it's a lot harder to loose down the drain than a ring.

I imagine that you can get a lot more fun out of your choice than an engagement ring and I admire your practical decision to look towards the fun/practical choice of a handgun instead, which will also be difficult to loose down the drain. ;) Also, diamond values are awfully inflated through market manipulation.

I'd still recommend shooting a wide range of different handguns and if it turns out that the Glock is the most accurate/comfortable out of a 1911 or CZ or Sig or ... then that's probably the best choice. OTOH, if something from one of those other families points best (comfortable+naturally accurate) you sure can find some very attractive versions that rival a lot of diamond rings for value.
 
I tell her it's important to me.

Actually, I just ask her really nicely, while giving her a backrub:evil:

I've pretty much gotten my way with guns and my wife, mostly because when we first met I told her that I was a gun nut and asked if she was OK with that. She's not a gun nut, but she firmly believes that everyone has the right to keep and bear arms to defend themselves. She also has a few heirloom firearms that will NEVER be sold, but will continue to be passed down through the family. If we can afford it, we purchase a firearm. Then, when we need money we can sell it and 9 out of 10 times, make a profit.

Prior to her, I only dated women who were OK with guns. I am a certified gun nut and I couldn't continue to date a woman who didn't have even a passing thought about what the 2nd amendment means, much less "hates" guns or wouldn't be interested in shooting them.

I'm dead serious.
 
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