ccw and wifey

[Rickstir]

I'm orett lucky in this area.

My beautiful wife, whose family did not have any guns when she was growing up, always asked me when we leave the farm if I am carrying. She is totally on board with it, although at this point she does not want to carry herself. She does keep a .22lr pistol close at hand around the farm.. Her family has come to accept the fact that I carry. They have never asked, but assume I do because of discussions with her.

 

[lanternlad1]

My wife is anti-handgun. Not anti-gun, just anti-handgun. (She loves shooting her .22 and my AK) After Katrina, I told her I was getting a handgun, and was going to carry it. She absolutely refused to "let me bring a handgun into HER house." You can imagine the fight THAT started. I don't remember most of it, but I remember the end of it:

Her (referring to her role as a wife): "You don't know how good you have it!"

Me: I DO know how good I have it! And I shouldn't have to go through this from you for wanting to PROTECT it!

And that was that.

I have my CHL, I carry, and she even has her own .38 now
She goes to the range with me, and has become a decent shot with her handgun. (tho she still doesn't like handguns) She is even trying to figure out how to teach our 7 year old niece how to shoot her .22. So do as you need to, stick to your guns )) and others will fall in line.

 

[pax]

Pete F ~

If the goal is to get her to Just Shut UP! about the issue, then you are correct.

If the goal is to get her on the same team you are on, to motivate her so that you are both pulling in the same direction, then you are not correct.

There are times when good leadership requires simply doing what you're going to do, and ignoring any objections. But there are also times when good leadership requires motivating your followers to want to do the things you want them to do.

pax

 

[Gus Dddysgrl]

Pretty much if pax says it then it's good to listen.

In my case I have the ccw and gave my hubby a handgun for a wedding gift. He is protected by me. I also know how to do more under the hood of our cars than he does. Just because he doesn't do all those things doesn't mean he's not the head of our house. Of course now that I'm pregnant, he is even more glad that I am taking responsibility to protect the baby and I.

He grew up a bit differently than I did. His life was a little more sheltered (in a way) than mine. He understands the need to be protected, but I have yet to get him to be proactive about it. I guess he knows I'll cover him while he reloads for me or maybe he's hoping I'll have an extra for him.

As far as convincing your wife....all relationships are different. Don't push too hard; you'll push her away. Also always make sure she knows you are the head of the house, and she's the neck that turns the head.

Good luck.

Gus