Dating and guns...

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Okay, campers, I'm gonna try it again... And since I don't have a great life outside work (won't date anyone from work), don't dig the bar/singles scene, etc., I'm figuring that the online thing is the best bet...

Now, I don't want to pull up to pick someone up, have 'em notice the NRA sticker on the car, and go nutso on me. Nor do I want to meet someone who can't otherwise deal with this facet of me. It's the way I am...

Now, I've tried this before, with a modest amount of success (met Tammy that way), but that's irrevocably over (after a coupla years). Thing is, a short time ago, someone answered an online ad, and I think that they were SERIOUS in that they wanted someone with a gun around, due to ex troubles... NOT my scene, you know?

So, anywho, could I ask y'all critique on this? I've posted an ad on Match.com, under the name bogiestl. Am I being too into the gun thing on it? Or how would you do it?
 
No, you handled it pretty well. And you cleaned up. Seriously, how many times a decade do you get caught in a suit? :D

I'm about to get more blunt about my needs since I too stoop to online dating as a result of giving every waking hour to Uncle Sam.

Wanted: Good woman. Progressive reloading skills a plus. Send a color pic of the reloader. Exxtra points if you can hand me a Dillon catolog with both you and the reloader in it.

I'm not asking fer too much am I?
 
I don't know how guys would react to me. A woman into martial arts, canto-pop, martial art films and Beretta guns? I've met a few that can handle the martial art aspect but firearms...I dread what they'll think of me.:rolleyes:
 
It is scary Mike, kinda like a Jerry Garcia silences the critics moment. (Think "Touch of Gray")He won't sur-vive...
 
And this is why I thank god I'm married to a woman that can put up with my gun weirdness.

We even have a system; every firearm I buy, she gets an equivalent monetary amount in shoes.

And it works out pretty well- she brings home a pair of black shoes and I say “Don’t you already have a pair like that?†And she says “Well yes, but these are flats/pumps/whatever…â€

I bring home another 1911 and she says “Don’t you already have a 1911?†And I say “Yes…but this is a Kimber/Colt/whatever…â€

It works for us.
 
Hey, I never knew Jerry Garcia was a Benchrester! Got some ice cream?



I don't think the BR pic is "scary" but its not a good pic, IMHO. Try again with the new grooming practices. ;)
 
bogie, good luck!

dating, marriage, guns...
IMNSHO the later is by far the least expensive,




"...next time I find a woman, gonna just hand her the keys to the house...gonna get it anyway, cut out the lawyers..." -paraphrased,Lewis Grizzard
 
Mastrogiacomo, the guys that cannot handle the gun thing. Would you say that is because you are in Boston, or is that something you find elsewhere?
 
Best mentioned casually and early.

Lets see I like Scrabble, french films, Dennis Miller, Scuba, Target shooting, long walks in the rain, laughter and dogs.. what about you?

It's a shame to have your would be paramour freak when she sees your gun safe. De-mystify it.

You shoot guns?

Yeah.

Don't you think that's odd?

Nope I think GOLF is odd.. you see the way those guys dress?
 
I think the fact that women are interested in firearms is a great thing! Both my wife and my girl friend have CCW's!
...wait a minute...:what:
 
The gun issue with guys here isn't a Boston thing -- I think. I doubt an Italian guy would be troubled by a girlfriend that knows how to use a Beretta...;) I think it's more of a shock -- maybe they see it as unlady-like and wonder whether to take me out to dinner or rock climbing? One guy commented my arms were big -- they're natually built looking which runs in the family, and has nothing to do with weight lifting. Chinese martial arts don't push hard weight training and I do more time on the treadmill than anything else. I actually get more stares from other women when they hear I have guns. "How can you do that. I'm mean with a gun you have to point and everything." Thank God I'm not gay...I can the guys better.:D
 
I meant to say I can handle the guys better...:eek: But you know Croyance, you may be right yet. Boston isn't exactly a gun friendly state. I've been pushing for a Class A for a while and now a Class A restricted; no reply from the station. Maybe the Chief of police doesn't think guns are lady-like either...:scrutiny:
 
well Bogie I can speak from experiance on this on , I met my ex-fiance from being on match.com, but beware , there are soccor mommie types that will critize you for being on there with a gun , I mentioned I target shoot in my ad ( which has been withdrawled for over a year ) and I actually got hate mail (which you turn over to the admin.) but then again this is chicago . if your honest and up front about every thing it works out better than the" I like walks on the beach and look at the stars types of lies" .. (sorry for the line el tej but had to steal it ) and when you meet the person don't flood them with gun stats .. j/k leave the nra stickers on the bogiemobile if they cannot handle it then they are not the one , otherwise they will try to make you give up something you enjoy and make you misserable , I met a lady just recently and on the first date I told he about my target shooting hobbie and she wasn't scared off , I asked her if it bothers her knowing that I target shoot or own firearms ( use this word instead of guns a litle gun Pc works in certain cases ) she said no and asked me what I shoot . she actually thought it was kind of interesting , also if they seem interested ask them if they would like to learn or try it sometime, (shooting sicko's ) you might be suprised most women don't know what a handgn or rifle feels like or how much they weigh ( except our lovelys here which are all taken) :( :banghead: just beeing up front and patient you might get what you are looking for oh BTW Match is the most liberal board out there , try several others like Emode , and freind finders . good luck
 
generally if she goes to the range with you on your first date then things are good, it's even better if she brings her own guns. :D

there's enough women out there that one should never have to compromise. I got lucky, my wife wasn't really into guns until after we'd been together for a while, she grew up with guns in the house but was never much of a shooter, I proposed to her not too long after she bought me a rifle for my birthday :) there was more where that came from too, she put up half the money for my AK and for our favorite pistol and bought me a range membership for valentines day. if you hang in there you can find one like that too.
 
bogie
Like you and Navy joe, I've done the online dating thing due to the small tight circles that I orbit in due to vocation and lifestyle. If guns and gun related issues are a part of who you are and how you look at the world, then you need to put it in your personal ad. Look at it this way, you personal ad performs the same function for dating as a résumé does for a job interview. Your résumé's sole function is to get you a personal interview. Your personal ad's sole function is to get you a date. You don't send your résumé to a company you don't want to work for and you don't want to date someone who doesn't share your core beliefs. Best of luck.


Mastrogiacomo
There are a lot of guys in this world who look for an attractive wall flower as dating material. Insecure, simpering, girliemen. There are other men who view a woman who studies martial arts and carries a gun as someone who is confident, secure, and responsible. If a guy has problems with that, he's probably not the kind of fellow who is worth your time.
 
gee mastro...

too bad i hadn't met you before the present SO,

we could have had our first date at the s&w range...

oh well, maybe she'll throw me out some day...

:evil:

i don't have a problem with girls that know martial arts and have guns...or even ones with big arms

as long as they're not beating up on and/or shooting me,,,

and their arms aren't quite as big as mine...

:D
 
Not to worry, my arms aren't THAT big...:D I think the guy that said that to me was a lanky, skinny type. I just look fit and always have been active with riding my bike and Chinese martial arts. It doesn't make me look any different from another woman running on the treadmill in the gym.

No guy at the moment, except my Berettas "Giuliano" and "Triddu.":p
 
Check out...

http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?=&threadid=13715

I have taken many girls shooting before on dates. Read the whole thread, it is about two different girls.

I read your Match.com listing. I would simply leave it as "I am a target shooter." Don't give away too much information, you need to have something else to talk about when you meet someone. Leave a little mystery. If the person is seriously anti, they will pass up the listing then.

-SquirrelNuts
 
One of the reasons I left the People's Republic of California to return to the United States last year was that I couldn't seem to meet women who weren't a.) grossly overweight; b.) horrendously self-centered; c.) whacko leftist extremists, or d.) all the above.

My social life may not be entirely satisfying here, but it's a vast improvement.

I've dated two women who were involved in the martial arts, and had the pleasure of introducing one to shooting.
 
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