How do you guys convince your spouses to be okay with you getting a handgun?

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He: "Honey... I want you to wear my jeans when we go out tonight"

She: "Oh silly, I can't wear your pants!"

He: "And don't you ever forget it"
 
He: "Honey... I want you to wear my jeans when we go out tonight"

She: "Oh silly, I can't wear your pants!"

He: "And don't you ever forget it"
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She: [hands him her jeans]" Honey try these on!"

He: [mystified] " I can't get in those jeans."

She: [laughing] "And you aren't getting in those jeans until your attitude changes, buddy."

More seriously, I faced this situation, and convinced my wife by practicing extreme gun safety around the house. I bought the gun safe before I bought a gun.

  1. When a gun is not under my direct control, it is locked in the safe (or if it's a rifle, its bolt is in the safe). No mistakes, no exceptions.
  2. Likewise for ammo. If it is no under my direct control, it's locked up. I keep it padlocked in toolboxes.

After a couple years, my gun have become just another eccentricity to her. I have heard her comment to her anti friends about how safe I am with guns around the house.

YMMV. Or better yet: WKYMAMM ("Who knows? Your marriage ain't my marriage.")

Mike
 
Parting shot

Did you not see the OP's post a few before yours where he mentions that is how they communicate during the work day?
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Yeah, what's your point? They work 24hrs per day? It's an important discussion, but not an urgent one - there's a difference.

I'll shut up after this, but let me make one more comment without pulling any punches :evil: this is just an opinion:

Many are focusing on the budget. If it's a money thing, then hammer it out - guns aren't really the issue at that point. :cool:

What I'm suggesting is that if one's significant other is genuinely afraid for her (+kids?) safety with a (loaded) gun in the house, and a guy completely trivializes her feelings and fears, or steamrolls her with "I wear the pants" bravado, then that guy is a jerk-off and a bad husband, and deserves to be armed to the teeth, alone in his one-bedroom apartment! :barf:

Just my opinion... Having said that, I totally appreciate misogynistic humor - keep that up, just don't mean it! :neener:

Those that talk about openly discussing it, education, etc. - EXACTLY the right advice. :D
 
And in case anyone was wondering... it was meant 101% humor.


Sorry... I gotta go.... some 'dainties' need washing!
 
Text her all you want. Don't let the old farts here decide how you and your wife chose to communicate with each other.
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LOL :D I'm officially an Old Fart! I don't want to tell anyone what to do... I was just surprised because that would never fly with my wife...

She: [hands him her jeans]" Honey try these on!"

He: [mystified] " I can't get in those jeans."

She: [laughing] "And you aren't getting in those jeans until your attitude changes, buddy."
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Now thats Funny!
(as long as its not happening to me)
 
:pSorry downrange I dont think I can help, never had that problem. My wife loves guns and has several of her own including a deer rifle which she picked out along with the scope. If I see one I want she always says go get it. I LOVE THAT WOMAN !!
 
Hey, you are the MAN in the house, right? It's just like sex, I can have sex whenever she wants to.......

Just kidding......My wife approves of guns, hell, we do live in Texas........

I am one of the lucky ones....

Jim
 
My wife's brother and father were gunowners, mainly Fudd's but both are coming around to my way of thinking:D

She was raised around guns for hunting game. She knew I was raised around guns for defense. I'm hunting more and her bro and Dad are keeping HD handguns JIC.

She had a real problem for awhile with me keeping a HD piece in a dresser drawer until she found out her brother keeps a Bersa .380 in his and her father has a Smith Model 10 loaded in his. It's a non isssue now.
 
Motorcyle or gun

LOLOL

I went to my wife (25yrs) and asked could I get a bike or a gun. She said she would rather me get the gun. HAHAHAHAHA
Mark
 
How do you guys convince your spouses to be okay with you getting a handgun?
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You don't..lol. If it's my money I'll buy what I want when I want it. I deal with anyone else's opinion later:) Try it, she won't leave you.. I swear!

But seriously, when I come home with a new toy my girlfriend always has something to say about it. I then remind her that the jewelry she's wearing is worth a couple guns. I also like to bring up occasions and other expensive habits of hers so she feels guilty. It usually all goes my way. She stays quiet, and I enjoy my new pistola!
 
me: "Honey, we need a hobby to do together in the wintertime when we can't do our separate outdoor hobbies."
she: "I agree. What did you have in mind."
me: "How about indoor target shooting?"
she: "Great idea, and it will make my daddy very happy."
...
she: "Daddy, we've decided to start shooting together as a new hobby."
HE: "Hmmm, maybe I can help out with that."

He helped: Colt .45 acp, S&W .22lr semi; two Hi-Standard .22lr semi; S&W .357 K-frame.

And she kicks my tail with the S&W .22!
 
Well, If I can offer an additional comment:

Just talk to her. People in general tend to be manipulative. Why? Because we like to get our way. That's human nature, nothing more or less.

Take your wife out. Do NOT text her--the fine art of conversation has been lost over the years. Besides, it's much easier to say no to a phone or a Blackberry.

Tell her EXACTLY how you feel. Not in a confrontational or abrasive manner. Be firm and resolute--but remember that this is the woman you love, the one who has borne your children and the one you want to remain with for the rest of your life.

Tell her that you ARE going to buy yourself a gun. Or two. Or three. Or however many strikes your fancy. Tell her that your guns WILL be coming home, SOON--as soon as you can get a GUN SAFE to put them in. Make that your VERY next purchase--to emphasize that you are investing in safe and secure storage.

Tell her that you love her, have NO plans to go ANYWHERE, and that she's stuck with you because you love her forever. And, bring up the fact that letting inanimate objects come in the way of marriage is not the best thing to do.

Ask her point blank--what is it that she is scared of? Not the guns in general, the SPECIFIC part about gun ownership that she is scared of. Be polite, be kind, be gentle when addressing the objections--but be FIRM. Do NOT back down, not even an inch. And make sure she understands that you will NOT back down.

Here's hoping that you will be able to get this thing resolved.

Yours,

Powderman

(married 28 years to my best friend this December!)
 
Have her sit in on a safety class with you. Also point out various self defense articles, and highlight local crimes that could possibly be thwarted by firearm ownership (home invasions, muggings etc).

She needs to know you won't shoot her or one of the kids by accident (negligence?). Take her to the range, but not necessarily shoot.

Above all, appeal to her emotional side. Facts won't work.
 
Maybe rent a gun and go to the range together. People seem to forget how evil and dangerous guns are when they finally go out and have a blast with them

No pun intended... OK it was.
 
I have 3 kids (5,10,15) and my wife hates guns, I bought AR because that was "OK" as long it wasnt a handgun.:eek:

I bought a good guns safe to keep my AR in since I have kids, after a while she saw that I was safe and responsible with my firearm, it wasnt any longer a threat.

I convinced her to let take a CCW class to safeguard the family in Dec. since then, I bought 5 handguns in 4 months. She even going to buy me a .40cal. on my 40th birthday in a couple months. :D

All in all, a little honey goes a longer way.
 
My wife strictly refused to have a gun in the house. I took a CCW course, I grew up with guns. I bought a gunvault. She still refused. I went to the gunstore and bought a 9mm, then a .38, than another 9mm, then a .22. I keep them in the safe under my desk. She threatened to get rid of them, i told her i would call the police. Now, she just pretends they don't exist. i don't take them out around her, or talk to her about them. i go to the range weekly, she goes tanning. works for me. Bottom line, i wear the pants. My families safety is MY responsibilty and i don't need HER permission to protect them.
You just have to decide how important a gun is to you.
 
It's always been a financial issue with us, and she has no hobbies except getting new stuff for the house (counter tops, flooring, new bathroom, etc). Then I get to install it all.

She has a point when see says it will help when we sell, but some if this stuff I wouldn't touch.

She's just too thrifty most of the time, so I just ask for forgiveness, and buy when it's not going to hurt the bank.

As long as the bills are being paid all she does is roll her eyes.

I work for a living too!!!!!
 
Safety issues can definitely be a factor. Was with my folks, on my first handgun... so I rattled off the safety features of the 1911 versus the shotgun that we already had, and it worked. Drop-safe (for practical purposes), has a manual safety, has a grip safety. Drive home the 'drop-safe' business. After a lifetime of getting gun information from movies, they expect every dropped gun (especially handguns) to go off, like in a Three Stooges episode. Edjimakate 'em, and do so while respecting their intelligence.
 
My wife always gets what she wants, and she has always been involved with my gun purchases. as long as shes happy then im happy
 
So many scenarios/answers to your question.

In my case, all it took was a threat of bodily harm by some crazy employee/contractor. My wife convinced herself. I bought a .38 snubby.

It was smooth sailing after that, until she discovered I had more guns than all members of my family can use:) By then it was too late:D

Scare tactics are the most effective, depending on your neighborhood. Actually you can build a case using the old saying "it's better to have a gun and not need it, than to need a gun and not have it", just like property, medical or life insurance. Wait, life insurance doesn't belong... with life, it is not a question of "if" but "when".

Best of luck to you.
 
Tell her YOU are scared of her having that expensive diamond ring that could get lost or get her mugged. Then suggest that you'll do without the gun if she'll do without the ring.

:evil:
 
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She said if you buy a gun she'll kick me out.



Me buying gun, her finding out getting pissed, me saying tough ****e, get used to it.

9-mos later, her getting CCW.
 
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