Hey Iowa, good to see a fellow "tall corn" stater here! Believe it or not any grip that your hand does not completely wrap around will eventually begin to feel comfortable with enough time behind it. That being said, there are some which are instantly more friendly to a large hand. I chose the Smith & Wesson M&P 40 as my SD/CCW for its reputation, ergonomics (as they pertained to the single trigger-style safety only) and finally size.
Being 6' 3" and North of 230lbs my hands tend to be bigger than most yet the medium grip of the M&P (it comes with three sizes) felt right at home to me while my father at 5' 9" was content with the small grip. I can shoot with the large but I prefer the additional squeeze I get with a slightly smaller grip. (Not a white knuckle death grip but Firm). .40cal is extremely popular at present or you could go with the 9mm, the pistol's size does not change.
I have no problem with the other manufacturers you've listed and plan on adding a 1911 to my collection from either Springfield or Kimber (its down to those two) depending on economic factors. If I had had another $150 with me the day I bought my M&P I would have gone home with a Sig and never known what a terriffic pistol S&W designed.
One last thing, After nearly 500 rounds now (7 weeks) zero problems, positive extraction with every type of ammo and with a few parts from Apex a crisp 4 lb. trigger pull (measured by my gunsmith from the center of the trigger).
