Daughter anti-gun

[readyeddy]

You can't change a person's mind, but you can make it easier for them to change their mind when they're ready. This means to be approachable when she finally asks about getting a gun.

 

[nazshooter]

So is this really a gun issue or is she lax in other areas of personal security? Does she lock he door when she's home? Does she lock her car doors when she's driving? If not, then I'm with Ron.

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[relaxing]

I think it is a "gun issue" symbolically at least. Her husband and she are very religious and work for the Church and she has even become a vegetarian. She has evolved in to a kind of contrarian on what most folks seem to think is normal, and in general apparently seems to think having a gun shows a lack of faith. Perhaps thinks she's sort of above it all in some way..... or who the heck knows. As you can tell it's a mystery to me. I DO appreciate all of the info and insights and will slowly but surely try to work on the issue and use some of the many ideas I read here. Thanks!

 

[Tinpig]

I have an anti-gun daughter. She's an emergency room doctor in a big city, and spends a significant part of her working week dealing with gun-shot wounds hands-on.

Despite the fact that in most every instance it's the misuse of guns by criminals that causes this trauma, I have no interest in trying to change her mind on this one; we amicably agree to disagree. She's 38 years old, educated, intelligent, highly motivated, and has earned the right to her opinion not in theory, but in the real world.

Fortunately I have two gun-nut sons.

Tinpig

 

[JTHunter]

Relaxing said:

I think it is a "gun issue" symbolically at least. Her husband and she are very religious and work for the Church and she has even become a vegetarian. She has evolved in to a kind of contrarian on what most folks seem to think is normal, and in general apparently seems to think having a gun shows a lack of faith. Perhaps thinks she's sort of above it all in some way..... or who the heck knows. As you can tell it's a mystery to me. I DO appreciate all of the info and insights and will slowly but surely try to work on the issue and use some of the many ideas I read here. Thanks!

"Lack of faith"?? All the faith in the world won't save you if it is your time. Considering what humans did to Jesus, who had ALL the faith, does she want to end up the same way, crucified for her beliefs? And if she does/is, who's going to care for her children? Will they survive her?
She needs to look at this from a "worst case scenario" and plan accordingly, something she isn't doing now.

 

[michaelbsc]

I have an anti-gun daughter.
[...]
Fortunately I have two gun-nut sons.

Tinpig

I wouldn't call my sons nuts.

I wouldn't call my daughter nuts either, especially since my own daughter, though not rabidly anti-gun, is hardly opposed to strict gun control regulation. She thinks it will help "keep guns away from dem kriminals" somehow magically.

 

[Serenity]

The issue here is that you can't forcibly empower a person. So you have to manipulate her. Get her a gift certificate for her and a friend to attend a Refuse To Be a Victim class. (If it's paid for she will feel obligated to go. Get a certificate for a neary restaurant as well, so they can make it a girl's night out).

Make it clear that it is NOT a gun class. It is a home/auto/personal safety class. The instructor starts easy by talking about safety in the home (fire and CO detectors), home security and easy things you can do/buy to make yourself a little more safe without spending a lot of money (window locks, door jammers, wide lens peepholes). Then progresses to personal safety when out of the home; car safety (wear your seat belt!), ATM awareness, stuff like that. Then lastly get into stranger/danger stuff. (They touch on family/danger, as well, and the basic right that every person has to be safe in their home, so those of you who like to tune your wife up or talk to her right up close might want to rethink sending her to the class.)

In sum, it's a class that helps to form mindful awareness and provides definitions and a space to consider that life is terribly dangerous without caving in to some husband's or dad's "paranoia."

 

[zoom6zoom]

Reverse psychology. "Ah, just as well you don't like guns. You'd probably be a lousy shot anyway.."

 

[drsfmd]

She is an adult now and free to make her own decisions. You did all you could.

This.

Also, not all academics are anti-gun. I look at a pro-2a, pro RKBA, hunting obsessed academic in the mirror every morning when I'm shaving.

 

[MLM]

Going over this thread reminds me of my sister. We gave up trying to tell her anything long ago. Tell her something and she does the opposite. Fortunately, my wife is very much pro gun and shoots with me all the time.