Friends' wives won't let them have guns....

[hayseed]

I've found that women, deep down, really don't want you to bend to their ultimatums. It's a test. They won't have the same respect for a man who bends to their every wish as they will for one who stands his ground. This is true in my life anyway.

 

[PX15]

Gun's in the house?

Well, I'm a semi-senile senior citizen, so maybe my opinion on an issue such as this might be generation-warped, but:

In regards to the husband in this relationship, I don't really know how to spell the phrase without offending "somebody", but the combination of being spanked by a feline is very close to my thoughts.

It has always seemed to me that such potential problems would have been faced and solved BEFORE a marriage.

Many times the potential husband, or wife, will find something about their prospective life mate that he or she just cannot accept. But, in order to let the relationship proceed on course the issue will be skirted thinking "we'll cross that bridge when we get to it". Bad thinking.

You'd better confront those potential problems BEFORE the marriage commitment as generally it's too late after the "I do's"......

I have no problem with a spouse who does not feel comfortable with firearms requesting some logical safety measures be taken. If there are children around it is smart and responsible to make sure that they can't get to them.

But, having said that, I also think teaching children respect for firearms and firearm safety is necessary too. Even if you don't allow guns in your home, the kids might be at a friends house who's parents will.

I have one Son, now 24, who has known about the danger and responsibility around firearms since he was VERY YOUNG. I took a great deal of time to teach him both firearm safety, and how to safely enjoy the pleasures of target shooting, and plinking. We are too soft-hearted kill anything, so we don't hunt, but that's MY preference. I have no issues with those who do hunt, provided they eat what they kill, and don't just kill for the "sport", as killing is never a sport in my mind.

I am blessed in that my wife is comfortable with firearms, and has a concealed weapons permit, and in fact has a pristine Colt Cobra as her favorite carry (or vehicle) firearm.

Chances are excellent that if my "wife to be" had been anti-gun our relationship would never have lasted for these past 38 years. In fact, we would probably never have gotten married in the first place.

I know it's probably just the opinion of an old fart, but I couldn't have much respect for a man that would let his wife tell him he couldn't keep a firearm in the house. I have too much respect for MYSELF to allow my wife to tell me such a thing. I don't mind her needing some guarantee of careful handling, and storage, but telling me I "CAN'T" do anything is edging to the "slippery slope" I don't intend to slide down.

Anyone coming to my house begging me to "store" (hide?) a firearm because his wife won't ALLOW it in his own home will be laughed off the porch...

I fault the husband for: Not solving this issue beforehand. Being kitty whipped now, and for lacking enough intestional fortitude to tell the little lady she isn't going to tell him such a thing in the first place. He can assure the safe handling of the firearm, but it WOULD be in the home whether she liked it or not.

Seems she doesn't respect his judgement now, and I'll bet you a dollar to a doughnut that lack of respect runs a whole lot deeper than just this one issue.

My suggestion is for the husband to try and find his spine, get off his knees, stand up to the little darling, and be a MAN..

She might find the change attractive.

JMOFO :banghead:

I KNOW this is going to offend somebody, so dissenting opinions are welcomed and cheerfuly ignored.

I can do that. I'm an old fart and entitled to my opinion, whether it's popular or not. It's just MY opinion......

Lordly I would hate to live in a house, and marriage, where my wife had no respect for me... It must suck.

JP

 

[BJPZOO]

It would be time to break their plate, bend their fork, and kick their butt out the door.

 

[scout26]

I just can't believe that this thread has gone 6 pages and no-one has mentioned:

www.a-human-right.com

 

[K-Romulus]

welcome to THR, SigSauerPrincess

Glad to hear your experiences.

(I, too, am a firearm-toting liberal . . . that is, when out of my current resident state of MD )

I am married to a woman who heard "the speech" on our third date, and accepted who I was. My prior LTR went south in no small part because of the firearms issue. Sneaking around with my "new" purchase (two years into that three-and-a-half-year relationship) and lying about going to the range was a real buzzkill.

My wife got a safety class when I moved in two years ago, but is going on her first range trip next week! We first need to decide whether a P239 or P226 is better for her . . .(Sigs, heh ) When I met her, she had only heard the "43 times" blather, but never heard a reasoned critique of those stats. But she was willing to listen and possibly re-evaluate her understanding of the issue - something I think the ultimatum-makers aren't willing to do.

Having a child also helps refine your perspective on family defense.

 

[fb]

I have no desire to associate with any one, male or female, who is blatantly stupid. And I wont have to get married to find that out.
I also have a SO and think she is the best of all things good in life. When we first met she had the anti gun thing down pat. After just a few encounters she at least began to listen to the other side of the issue. after a year she applyed for a ccw license, got it and now seems to enjoy shooting. I doubt if it is her favorite thing to do, but she dosent seem to hate and dispise it.
What this all means is, Hey man, you got to have something to work with in the first place!

 

[Luchtaine]

I wont even date an anti... I live in California I've yet to actually have a date.......... oh well I have high standards in other areas too.

Of course I am not saying I wont talk to antis I'm just not gonna date them unless they convert

 

[isa268]

i just went though this with my GF.

i just laid down the law, one day i said i'm carrying for MY protection, we had a fight broke up for about 2hrs, then she called i let it go to voice mail, called her back about 10mins later to her crying, say ok you can have the guns. i hope some day she comes around to seeing the guns as tools.

funny thing is she doesn't mind the rifles cause they are for hunting.

she's said she thinks i'll get killed if i ever have to use it to defend my life. (i'v tried to dismiss that as untrue as your are more likely to suvive when useing a gun to defend yourself but as others have said girls don't listen to boyfriends/husbands).

she's had a friend "shoot himself while cleaning his gun" never mind the fact that can't happen as the frist step in cleaning your guns is to get all ammo out of it.

 

[isa268]

oh yea and to add to my other post.

I had the rifles before dating her. I got the pistol without asking (we're only dating) for home protection and range work. she freaked. I get the carry permit so I can protect myself on the streets. without asking her(again we're only dating so I don't feel I have to ask for permission.)

I did go around for a while not carrying around her cause she asked, but finally I realized this is not going to work out if this relationship progresses farther I’m going to carry and she needs to know it.

Women are weird...we were going to a wedding for a co-worker in a bad part of town a while back and she mentioned "I thought about LETTING you take your gun cause its bad part of town" long pause "but I’m just joking hahaha" yea real funny hahaha

as to the original poster I think the married guys are SOL. try getting the women to shoot rifles, sometimes they like those cause "they are for hunting and target practice while hand guns are only for killing" :banghead:

the guy with the GF just needs to get his balls out of her purse and lay down the law, women like it when the man is accretive.

 

[CatsDieNow]

I think I now understand why I have never been able to get along well with other women.

Some women really are just freakin' nuts. Men too, the phenomonon isn't exclusive to one gender.

Controlling behavior by either party always leads to trouble. If you guys think that her irrational demand to rid yourselves of your guns is stupid, then you should re-think your "grow a pair" and "I'm the head of this household" type statements - which are equally silly.

Marriage is a partnership, succcesses and failures are shared equally by both.

Oh, and to the original poster: My vote is to stay out of their affairs unless both specifically ask you for help.

 

[Moondoggie]

My first wife was rabidly anti and we fought over it quite a bit. It didn't come up before we were married cuz I was living in the barracks and my guns were back home. Her Dad hunted & fished, so it never crossed my mind that she'd throw a hissy fit about my one pistol and one rifle. I think alot of her inertia was the desire to impose her will on me...mostly what led to our divorce 6 yrs later. That and the fact that it was an iceberg that sunk the Titanic.

My present wife of 25 yrs carried on her job (nuke plant security guard) when we first met and owned her own Mod 10 & a 12 ga, so it's never been a problem. As was posted on pg 1, there have been several gun purchases that she went out to shoot with me and after her first round she'd turn to me with a smile and say "Mine!" When we've jokingly talked about property settlement if we were to ever divorce we always get stuck on the guns....can't agree who gets what, so we'd better stay together!