I have not read any post other than the title.....ANSWER.... I don't ask it is my hobby and sport, I would hope she wouldn't drag me down to the furnture store and ask me to help pick out some pattern/style of lamp or picture, or scrapbook items for the home. I am from the old school and Our bills are getting paid and I am just as responsible as she is and if I want it I get it..... I have my reasoning behind me as well.
How do you convince your significant other that you need a certain gun?
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Being unmarried has its advantages......wait I'm moving in with the girlfriend on Saturday
It's going to be interesting since she will see what I order online and the safe has no other place to go other then our bedroom. Of course this means I can keep bugging her to go to the NRA range with me.
As for new guns I'll just sneak them in when she's at yoga
It's going to be interesting since she will see what I order online and the safe has no other place to go other then our bedroom. Of course this means I can keep bugging her to go to the NRA range with me.
As for new guns I'll just sneak them in when she's at yoga
9delta7
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Why not just buy one yourself?
Bought one this a.m.. Brings my pistol collection to 10. It's addictive, have got to stop, but probably won't. Still have things on "Bucket List" to do.
Bought one this a.m.. Brings my pistol collection to 10. It's addictive, have got to stop, but probably won't. Still have things on "Bucket List" to do.
wow
I CAN NOT BELIEVE WHAT I AM READING HERE: A BABE WHATS A KIMBER AND HER BF IS BALKING....all i can say is:
Darl'n, I am pushing 65 and over 300lbs on a bench press...if you have a Jeep and now want a Kimber!!!
Just say YES... will you marry me...?
About me:
Grade skool, high skool, Kolleged & degreed !
Practicing Catholic.
4 Grand kids
A wife w/no jeep but she won't mind.
Lot's of ammo, lot's of guns
Dog named: Katie...11lbs of fluff and teeth, must sleep on my pillow.
I can reload any caliber and can keep you in the powder, not the shower
I've been over most of Europe, Part of Asia and in 50 per cent of the 50 states and I love Alaska.
I have access to cabin near the Kenai River and access to private land during the Salmon Run.
I can teach you how to jump outta plane's or helicopters...
How to go 'clamming' at Ninilchik, bay in Alaska and can cook you up some of the best clam's ... better-N-anything you will find in any eat'n place in the known world...
All in all I am a great catch....
So dump this current gurly-boy, pack that Jeep and head my way....
We'll get married and as a wedding gift you'll have your Kimber.....
One last thing...if you have any extra pain killers or extra Metamusil bring'em...
I CAN NOT BELIEVE WHAT I AM READING HERE: A BABE WHATS A KIMBER AND HER BF IS BALKING....all i can say is:
Darl'n, I am pushing 65 and over 300lbs on a bench press...if you have a Jeep and now want a Kimber!!!
Just say YES... will you marry me...?
About me:
Grade skool, high skool, Kolleged & degreed !
Practicing Catholic.
4 Grand kids
A wife w/no jeep but she won't mind.
Lot's of ammo, lot's of guns
Dog named: Katie...11lbs of fluff and teeth, must sleep on my pillow.
I can reload any caliber and can keep you in the powder, not the shower
I've been over most of Europe, Part of Asia and in 50 per cent of the 50 states and I love Alaska.
I have access to cabin near the Kenai River and access to private land during the Salmon Run.
I can teach you how to jump outta plane's or helicopters...
How to go 'clamming' at Ninilchik, bay in Alaska and can cook you up some of the best clam's ... better-N-anything you will find in any eat'n place in the known world...
All in all I am a great catch....
So dump this current gurly-boy, pack that Jeep and head my way....
We'll get married and as a wedding gift you'll have your Kimber.....
One last thing...if you have any extra pain killers or extra Metamusil bring'em...
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3KillerBs
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When we decide that the family budget can cover a new gun and we agree on whose turn it is to get a new gun we establish a price point, do our research, and make a very deliberate decision that we're both comfortable with.
The same holds for pretty much any purchase over the "pocket change" level that is drawn from household funds rather than our allotted, individual, personal spending money whether guns, computers, computer games, hobby items, discretionary clothing items, special outings either couple dates or family activities, ... .
Financial stress is a prime source of conflict in a marriage and either pressuring a spouse to spend money they're not comfortable spending or spending significant sums without having first agreed on it then "begging forgiveness" is a guarantee of marital stress.
Thoughtful deliberation, consideration for each others points of view, and loving respect are key.
That said, if you're not married yet what you spend your own money on is your own business -- though money you've promised towards agreed-upon wedding expenses and the like should be considered already spent even if its still in your bank account.
The same holds for pretty much any purchase over the "pocket change" level that is drawn from household funds rather than our allotted, individual, personal spending money whether guns, computers, computer games, hobby items, discretionary clothing items, special outings either couple dates or family activities, ... .
Financial stress is a prime source of conflict in a marriage and either pressuring a spouse to spend money they're not comfortable spending or spending significant sums without having first agreed on it then "begging forgiveness" is a guarantee of marital stress.
Thoughtful deliberation, consideration for each others points of view, and loving respect are key.
That said, if you're not married yet what you spend your own money on is your own business -- though money you've promised towards agreed-upon wedding expenses and the like should be considered already spent even if its still in your bank account.
J-Bar
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This is really an interesting thread. Its like guns are the Rorshach Test for a relationship!
My wife and I tried the "our money" thing when we were first married. We argued. She works now, has her own account, and I work and have my account. She buys clothes, I buy guns, and we have negotiated the food and household accounts. Life is good. There is no formula that fits everyone...if you love each other you find a way to work things out to your own satisfaction, not the "experts".
It's hard for me to figure out the guy's realtionship with his girlfriend. I understand caution before entering marriage...that's a good thing. But good things also come from commitment. If a person is SURE this is the person hey want to spend their life with, then make the commitment and make it legal. Waiting until you "have enough money" or "have a particular job" to get married is a poor excuse.
The lady in question sounds a tad manipulative, on the other hand. How many times does a guy have to prove his love? "If you really loved me you would buy me a Kimber." That kind of blackmail gets old in a hurry.
Frankly, I don't think these two should marry. He should pursue his career, and she should buy her own Kimber and go manipulate someone else. The fact that they asked our opinion rather than focusing on helping each other says a lot.
My wife and I tried the "our money" thing when we were first married. We argued. She works now, has her own account, and I work and have my account. She buys clothes, I buy guns, and we have negotiated the food and household accounts. Life is good. There is no formula that fits everyone...if you love each other you find a way to work things out to your own satisfaction, not the "experts".
It's hard for me to figure out the guy's realtionship with his girlfriend. I understand caution before entering marriage...that's a good thing. But good things also come from commitment. If a person is SURE this is the person hey want to spend their life with, then make the commitment and make it legal. Waiting until you "have enough money" or "have a particular job" to get married is a poor excuse.
The lady in question sounds a tad manipulative, on the other hand. How many times does a guy have to prove his love? "If you really loved me you would buy me a Kimber." That kind of blackmail gets old in a hurry.
Frankly, I don't think these two should marry. He should pursue his career, and she should buy her own Kimber and go manipulate someone else. The fact that they asked our opinion rather than focusing on helping each other says a lot.
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Here is the thing everyone.... This post was meant to be cute. I love my boyfriend and whether or not he buys me a Kimber I will still love him. At the time I did know know that much about guns and was trying to give him specs on the gun that would make it sound like a good buy. Right now I am happy with his ruger and even though I still want a Kimber because they are beautiful and feel nice in my hand I'm happy with what I have.
MagnumDweeb
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FYI CrystalRose is my girlfriend. She got really excited about 1911s, the Kimber CDP 5" in particular. I got her started shooting .45 ACP out my Ruger P345 and she does a great job with it (only having really shot it two times she's outshot some of the guys at the range). She understands that it should be her purse gun, and that the Kimber CDP 5" will be her engagement present(given that her engagement that she wants is less than $600) that will be a range gun only. I only really want her to shot .45 ACP because of a variety of reasons. She shoots my Taurus PT99 quite well but I'd rather her get good at .45 ACP. She dislikes revolvers with a passion and prefers service sized semi-autos(the reverse of most women as I understand it ).
She meant to be cute and fun as I had told her how most women dislike shooting in general. And how women who shoot are quite coveted among men. So she saw a Kimber CDP 5", and wanted one harmlessly, and wanted to play about getting other highroaders to convince to buy one. I save my money, and she respects that. My career is taking off and soon we'll be able to be all the guns we want more or less as the years go by. My next gun will be a Rock Island 1911 .45 5". Mostly for me, but if she likes it and can handle it then I'll give serious consideration to buying her a Kimber CDP 5". Tommorrow we go to the range and see if we can get her to try a S&W E series 1911.
She meant to be cute and fun as I had told her how most women dislike shooting in general. And how women who shoot are quite coveted among men. So she saw a Kimber CDP 5", and wanted one harmlessly, and wanted to play about getting other highroaders to convince to buy one. I save my money, and she respects that. My career is taking off and soon we'll be able to be all the guns we want more or less as the years go by. My next gun will be a Rock Island 1911 .45 5". Mostly for me, but if she likes it and can handle it then I'll give serious consideration to buying her a Kimber CDP 5". Tommorrow we go to the range and see if we can get her to try a S&W E series 1911.
DM~
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Work EVERY kind of problem like that out NOW, they NEVER get better after you say "i do"!!
I never could understand why mostly guys, or sometimes gals attach them selves to a person, knowing there will be some kind of problem like that on down the road? You just set yourself up for relationship failure.
Save up your OWN money, and buy what you want...
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