how many guns are hidden from family?

[pax]

If you cannot be honest with the person you live with, you don't have a spouse. You have a roommate.

Of course, if you like her, you want to keep her around so you're going to do what you gotta do in order to keep her happy. That's understandable.

But it's not much of a marriage if you can't be honest with each other.

pax

You can't stay married in a situation where you are afraid to go to sleep in case your wife might cut your throat. -- Mike Tyson

 

[denfoote]

Hell, the only reason I'd hide a gun from my wife is that if she happened to like it, she might snag it!! My Glock 26 and Kel-Tek P32 have already fallen victim to this!!! Ain't wives wonderful!!!

 

[tetchaje1]

How's this then for those of you who feel like you can make judgments even though you are not in the same situation as other people here.

My wife hates guns. She barely tolerates them in the house with the caveat that she doesn't see them. It has taken 3 years of gentle persuasion to get to this point and I consider myself fortunate.

Eventually she finds out about everything. She knows that I have more guns than she knows about, but she also knows that I am unwilling to tell her the exact number because it isn't worth the fight. I do not use any money that is normally budgeted for our living expenses. I buy and sell guns regularly, so the inventory is always changing anyway. She knows that I do this. Her only comment is usually, "just make sure that you are doing it legally."

Personally, I don't think that it is anybody else's place to deal out judgment about what they think is a healthy marriage. My wife and I are happy and satisfied with our relationship. Just because what works for us isn't the way that you would do it doesn't mean it is wrong. I think some of you need to get out of the shrink's chair...

 

[Mastrogiacomo]

I agree. I've always felt what people don't know won't hurt them. In my case, as long as the guns are locked away and secure, why should I announce I have them? I didn't buy them for anyone but me. Some people may not feel comfortable with the idea of guns in the home, such as my parents. I still have a right to own what I've paid for. If I were in a relationship, I'd be honest with my boyfriend. After that, it's really none of his business what I'm spending my money on. As for married couples: if the bills are paid and the children are fed, clothed and taken care of -- nobody's business what you do with the extras.

 

[4v50 Gary]

Just don't count them. That way you can honestly reply that you don't know how many you've got. Mine are all stored in safes.

 

[trapshooter]

Hey, folks. I'm not being judgemental. In fact, the 'anti' relative (wife, parent, kids, whatever) argument is persuasive. Think of it as a 'lesser harm' situation. That is one instance where I would be lieing my posterior off, and not losing too much sleep over it, maybe.

Look, checking views on guns was not at the top of my list when I was in 'seek' mode, so I can understand that. It's not a good situation, but no reason to bail, certainly. If your wife can deal with it on an 'out-of-sight/mind' basis, then what the heck? (Believe me, though, unless she's brain-dead, she knows. She's just accomodating you in her own way).

 

[cookhj]

guns? what guns? oh, those......ummm.....i've had those for months!

 

[Coffee357]

Kinda like cratz2, I sometimes delay telling or embellish the
extent of the "great deal!" I got. I have a fund set aside just for
gun stuff with the wife's blessing but she gets upset about the
amount I spend (even though it doesn't come out of the general
fund). The money in the fund wouldn't go anywhere else, anyway,
she just doesn't really appreciate just how expensive this hobby
is. Also, like cratz2, I can't keep my mouth shut for long. Like my
new toys and gotta show off!

Coffee

 

[Standing Wolf]

It's just me and my cute little, fuzzy little imaginary kitty, and she's scared witless of scissors.