Double Naught Spy
Sus Venator
This morning around 1 am I got a call from an old girlfiend who's living in Bartlesville, Oklahoma. She is screaming and crying that someone is trying to break in her house. She says two men are behind it and one is at each of her doors trying to kick them in. Before this, she was walking through the house shutting off lights on her way to bed. She makes it to the kitchen to see a man coming in her kitchen door. She screams causing him to momentarily hault, and therefor giving her time to slam the door shut in his face and lock it. He yells through the door that she mind as well open it because he was getting in anyway. She calls my sister, and is told to go to her room, push couch in front of door, and call police. She gets a hold of Bartlesville PD and they tell her someone will be out shorty. She lives three blocks from the PD. It took them a hour to finally get there. My little sister's boyfriend was the closest so he went over there and when he pulled up the two thugs bolted. PD told her she had nothing to worry about, but this morning she found a note on her car that said, "We'll be back for you sweetheart." She called the PD again and they came and got the note.
I found out today she didn't leave the backdoor unlocked, but it was a faulty lock. I replaced it and did a full lockdown on the place to make sure it was as secure as possible.
What are your thoughts and opinions of the whole thing including the 1 hour respond time in Bartlesville less than a halfdozen blocks from the station?
What do you feel about your ex girlfriend having such an inability to know what to do in a crisis? She called her sister. Why? What was her sister going to do. Her sister provided advice which was good, but locking, barricading, and calling the police are no brainers for which she should not have needed instruction. If she was that bad off that the sister needed to provide instruction, then why the hell didn't the sister have her arm herself with anything useful (knife, hammer, bat, etc, since she doesn't have a gun, apparently)? She is an adult, not a child. This is basic common sense in modern society, even in Bartlesville, OK. Actually, I have been there. I am not sure why she doesn't already have a gun and a mentality to deal with such matters. She isn't from there, is she?
She called the cops and said people were breaking in her home and they hung up on her after saying someone would be by? That sounds hokey. Have her get a lawyer and get a copy of the 911 call. FYI, that aspect is a 911 dispatcher problem, if true, not a "police" problem in a true sense.
So she called you? Do you live close by? If you don't live close by, why call you? For the crisis she was having, she sure seemed to have a lot of time to play on the phone. She called her sister. She called the Police. She called you...and the guys were STILL trying to break in? Did she also do the barricading as suggested? Did she have the sense to get a weapon in the process of doing all those things, or did she just spend time jawing on the phone? Those are some really slow, not too bright burglars if they didn't get in by then.
I see several folks say you should buy her a gun and take her to the range. Screw it. Let her buy her own gun and take herself to the range. She is a big girl. Why would you buy your ex-girlfriend a gun if you didn't buy her one when she was your active squeeze? How much will you invest in a relationship that is over?
Nothing is wrong with a gun, but until her head IS on straight, she won't use it or even know what to do with it if there is a crisis. The events, as described, already demonstrate this. She needs crisis management skills. A gun won't do her any good if she doesn't use it. How many weapons did she have in her home already that she didn't use or gather up for us? McKown at Tacoma Mall had a gun and opted not to draw it before confronting a shooter who then promptly shot McKown several times. Having a gun isn't an answer to anything if she won't use it. It is an option, but unused options are meaningless when they are the options that should have been used.