Would you ignore work policy or state law to defend yourself?

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OK, something that happened on my lunch break last week has had me thinking. I posted much of the background on another thread so I'll cut and paste the background:

I recently encountered a neo-Nazi near work. I noticed the Nazi tatoos on his forearms (along with forearms the size of tree trunks) and he noticed my yarmulke on my head. I was thankful that all he hurled at me was the word "k*ke" about a dozen times (prefaced with a profanity meaning the act of procreation, and the phrase meaning procreation with one's mother) and Nazi salutes. Unfortunately, he got a good look at my car (he was craning his neck to see where I went when I left) and saw my work badge so he knows where I work and what I drive. It is possible this guy may be back and I'm in a near total victims disarmament zone living in MD (MD doesn't allow CCW so no guns) and since I was at lunch coming from work, and where I may encounter the guy again will be around work, my work policies do the rest of the job (no weapons of any kind- including pepper spray and pocket knives).

This situation brought to mind how vulnerable we are coming out of work (and I do suspect this guy will be back). Unfortunately, most non-weapons that can be used as weapons effectively will be pretty suspicious for someone to be carrying around at an office job (screw drivers, various chemical sprays, baseball bats, etc.). About the only thing you could actually carry around without drawing suspicion is a cane (I may consider it). The other things, one would find a knife and pepper spray (or a gun for that matter) easier to conceal, and if you just carried it around they'd draw a lot of unwanted attention.
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Now, I know it would be irresponsible to carry a handgun in MD with no possibility of getting a CCW, so I'm not really asking that specific question. However, how far would you go to carry banned weapons in the face of a very possible danger or at least threat (the guy only hinted to me that I personally was going to have any problems or that he might be around again).

Would you carry a perfectly legal knife and/or pepper spray to a job that bans it? After two unemployment periods in the last 4 years (long story) I can't really afford being caught and fired. However, if the guy does come back and decides to do more than yell threats and insults at me I can't afford to be unprepared.

Hypothetically, if this threat was more specific (had he more specifically threatened me) would you consider breaking the law? In MD it is theoretically possible to get a CCW, however it takes a threat where witnesses are willing to stand up for you (everyone tried real hard to mind their own business, though there were around half a dozen to a dozen people there) and the threat documented by police. It also has to be a very specific death threat (he didn't specifically say he was going to kill me, and most threatening behavior and words were a bit more general/implied/etc.- i.e. he wasn't stupid). Heck, even with a direct and specific death threat, witnesses who aren't just minding their business but stand up for you, and a police report (none of which I have) there is nothing automatic about MD's CCW law- if I had all that the state police might grant a permit. So, hypothetically, if things were more clear cut, but say I was denied a permit, would you carry? Note, I would never consider carrying without a permit long term (with a very specific threat I might for a day or two, but we aren't even talking that situation).

Last, I don't need any "just quit, why work where they won't allow you the tools to defend yourself" advise. I can't just quit until I get another job (not if I don't want to have to declare bankruptcy). Also, it is not 100% for certain this guy would be back (if I did know he would come back armed to get me, I'd certainly be armed and/or quit on the spot and declare bankruptcy). Anyway, I am on the lookout for a new job.
 
OH, as for what I'm actually doing about this:

-I am carrying a knife, and at least sometimes pepper spray, to work even though if caught I would be fired. The knife is one that looks more like a "regular" pocket knife and less tactical, and it isn't a one handed opener, so hopefully I can get off easier if caught. Since my work is state government it is possible it is against the law, though it is worded in the employee handbook more like it is policy. If it is against the law (I need to find out) I may as well carry a gun as it would be a similar offense anyway. If that is the case I don't know what I'll do- maybe I'll just keep the knife and pepper spray in the car when at work and if the guy, or some other BG, confronts me coming out of work hope I can get there in time (I certainly couldn't rely on our geriatric security guards for help).

-I am watching my back a bit more carefully, and I don't go to this gas station convenience store anymore (I'm rethinking that second part- why let the guy win and have any control over my life).

-Since it did happen near my car I am considering again keeping something more defensively useful (but still not a gun, need to obey the law) in the car. Maybe a baseball bat, a fixed blade knife (I'm not sure if that would be legal to keep in the car in MD), or a small camp or backpack axe. I do have a 4 D cell Maglite that I might take out of the kitchen and put under my driver's seat. I may simply take the lug wrench out from the cavity for the spare tire and make it more accessable by putting it in the trunk.

So any realistic advice to add to what I'm doing? Any comments on what I'm considering? Am I being stupid or naive by not ignoring state law and carrying a gun? (I won't do it without a much more specific and serious threat, but if that is your opinion, let me know).

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PS- Mods, it just occurred to me that I probably should have put this in the strategies and tactics section instead of general gun discussion. Sorry about that.
 
A long time ago, I saw my first dead man -- not a prettfied corpse in a coffin, but a man killed in combat, his body bloating and gas escaping from various holes in his anatomy.

I said to myself, "I don't want that to happen to me."

And from that point on, I took precautions to be sure it didn't.

Now in your case, I would first of all have filed a police complaint. This guy is probably a member of the Aryan Brotherhood, a white prison gang, and may be out on parole. His harassment of you would be a violation of his parole, and he could be sent back.

Filing a police complaint would be an official record that you were threatened and had a reasonable fear of attack -- something that would stand you in good stead if you have to defend yourself.

You say, "I am carrying a knife, and at least sometimes pepper spray, to work even though if caught I would be fired." My response is, "In for a lamb, in for a sheep." Carry a gun. Don't talk about it, keep it hidden, but carry it.
 
depending on what job it is, id take risks. if its just a job until you get a better one, carry a pocket .22 or .25 auto. THIS IS ILLEGAL AND IRRESPONSIBLE, but its your safety at stake. If this is your career, carry OC or a knife. be safe, travel with friends...yell yiddish at him....ok scratch that :D
 
(I'm not sure if that would be legal to keep in the car in MD), or a small camp or backpack axe.

Noone's going to complain about an entrenching tool in your car. I don't think I'd have one at my desk though.
 
My previous place of employment was a "retirement community" of sorts. It's an upscale type place, with a 55 and over requirement for living there. Condos there run in the $600,000+ range, and most residents are lawyers, doctors, judges, etc. There are over 10,000 residents, and the entire place is gated, with one way in and out.
I've worked security of one type or another in CA for about 8 years. Every company I worked for had a "no weapons" policy, however management always made it clear when asked that the nature of employment dictated a small folder of some type was neccessary for utility purposes.
So, when I started work, I received the usual packet of papers and my employee manual. I was told my training officer would go through them with me.
My training officer then tells me I can forget about the employee manual, because everything is contained within the larger operations manual. Ok, no problem. I took the 500 page operations manual home that first morning (I worked graveyard shift) and read it cover to cover. No mention of a weapons policy of any type. I started carrying my 4 inch folder.
Well, I was seen using my folder, and somebody freaked out and told the chief, instead of asking me about it.
The chief calls me in, points to the policy in the employee manual, and chews off a large chunk of my posterior, and overrides my objections with,"you should have known better." ? He then tells me not to carry my knife, but I can carry a leatherman.?
Weeks pass. I still have my large streamlight, and I'm a big guy, over 300 lbs. More than enough protection on my job site.
A resident sights a mountain lion in the hills behind the community. Soon, cougar kills are showing up all over the valley. I'm dreading the moment the cat realizes that old folks are slower than deer. A standard poodle is taken from a backyard. The dept of Fish and Game declares the cougar to be a possible danger (no, really?). The graveyard shift is given instructions to walk each complex on foot, in order to deter a rash of auto burglaries.
I started carrying my .44 with me.
Concealed is concealed, eaten by a mountain lion is eaten by a mountain lion.
My duty to family overrides my duty to my employer.
 
Sorry the guy shook you up like that. I don't advocate breaking the law, even if it is unfair. I would sooner quit my job and declare bankruptcy than comit a felony that will haunt me for the rest of my life. So don't do it and ignore people who tell you to.

I would recommend pepper spray, specifically 10% pepper foam, it doesn't get caught in the wind, it's easy to aim and you won't get any on yourself. They make these in small cans that can fit in loose pockets.

http://www.tbotech.com/pepperfoam.htm

if not that than ASP Products makes a kubaton/mace keyring which is not illegal in any state I can think of.

2.) you can do the flashlight thing with the 4 D'Cell but do not DO NOT hit anyone in the head or groin as most states will consider this deadly conduct. If you use this, use it in tandem with the mace. You won't believe how effective it can be.

3.) I do not recommend a tire iron. tire irons kill and break bones, if he has a knife, then go for it but empty handed assault? no.

4.) You could check your local laws and policies to find out if one of these are available....

http://www.productwizard.com/airtaser.html

Every time I see one of these used I am astounded at how effective they are. In many cases, these are MORE effective than guns because they attack the CNS.

5.) Get a camera...if you see the scumbag again, take his picture in a populated area to put a face with the complaint. Many times these type of individuals make themselves a nuisance to society in general and have a street rep with the cops....therefore making it easier to get restraining orders etc. If you do take his picture be ready to run for it.

Any equipment you decide to use, practice with first. Including mace. Go outdoors, away from everyone else and shoot a burst of mace to see the rage, power/velocity, stream size etc. This means you'll have to buy 2 of them (they're cheap). As for tasers, get some training, many companies offer videos on these. As for batons, flashlights, etc. I don't recommend using them, but if you do, strike the arms, legs, etc. with all the force you can muster. Don't hold back because you know if he gets it from you, he wont.

If all else fails you could try getting a restraining order on the guy if he approaches you again. If you have witnesses/photos/detailed notes and he has a record, this should be a peice of cake.

Lastly ask the cops in your area for advice....and don't take "call 911" as an answer.
 
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I'm a big guy, over 300 lbs.
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You don't NEED a gun -- anything big enough to hurt you is extinct! :p

Chaim, have you complained to your employer about being harassed and asked THEM to ensure your safety? Surely the State of Maryland has a duty to protect state employees from hate crimes and harassment.
 
If you file a complaint you will have to give your name and address.Do you want him to know that?A folding knife with a thumbstud or assisted opening is always on my person and has been since I was a teenager.Even if it is a *tactical knife* it is just in your pocket to open packages.Wink wink nod nod.I don't use the clip on these knives as it seems to assist in popping the knife out of the pocket at odd times.I carry it next to my wallet where it doesn't move around.I like a thin knife.Make sure there are no sharp edges on it.Sharp edges will eat a hole in your pocket.Cold Steel Voyager works for me.But there are a lot of nice designs out there.Check out the next gunshow in your area.Lots of knife dealers set up at Virginia/Maryland gun shows.
There is a gun show in Chantilly Virginia on April 22,23,24.Its in the Dulles Expo Center on RT28.Easy to find.
Heres the web addy for the promoter
http://www.cegunshows.com

If you pull it on him,you'd better be mentally prepared to use it.
I've no idea of the legalities in your state.I'm not a lawyer.
This advice is worth what you paid for it.
 
You could get rid of the outward trappings of religon. Big neon signs declaring
I am a red neck, hippy, homosexual, jew, buddist, christian or what ever will get you attention.....
 
Sorry the guy shook you up like that.

Well, at the time I just laughed it off. I thought he was an idiot and was actually embarrassed for him (he was in his late 20s or early 30s, not some teenager, doing this stuff in a very public place). It was only later when mentioning it to others that I realized I should have taken the threat more seriously (I did take it seriously enough to have my keys out and held in a way to use as a stabbing weapon if needed). Anti-semetic attacks are on the rise even here in the US, and his implication that he would be back and his being so obvious about watching where I went can't be totally ignored.



As for some of the suggestions-

-I did go back a couple days later when I started to take this more seriously as a potential long-term threat, and none of the employees who were there were willing to admit to seeing anything (I don't know how they can miss someone screaming ethnic slurs, not-so-veiled threats, and clicking his heels doing a Nazi salute while yelling "Seig Heil"). I doubt if I'll ever track down any of the customers. At the time, while I didn't take it seriously as a long-term threat, and saw him as just some idiot, I did take it seriously enough to get out of there as fast as possible (I'm not a small guy, as anyone here who's met me can attest, but he is bigger, and none of it was fat, and I was unarmed). Calling the police and complaining won't likely accomplish much given it was last Tuesday, I have no witnesses to bring forward, and I don't know the guy's name (I can only give a rough description).

-The work policy, which may be a law (as it is state employment), bans all weapons and even mentions pocket knives. Still, I am now carrying a knife everyday (just not a tactical looking knife, I leave those at home). Banning CCW of a handgun is a state law (though "only" a misdomeanor).

-I would need a far more specific threat to convince me to carry a gun as anything but a very short term response to a threat. Being illegal it is a pretty big risk for anything short of a strong likelihood of needing it. However, if things escalated, I may be convinced to do so (the better judged by 12 than carried by 6 thing), though I certainly would try to go through legal channels for a CCW as well (but needing to wait for a threat and then applying and waiting for approval leaves a lot of time for something to happen in the interim).

-Unfortunately, tasers aren't legal here (if they were legal they'd possibly be the best CCW alternative for MDers).

-I did report the incident to my supervisor, but this happened at a gas station across the street, not on my employer's premises, so unless the guy does actually show up at my work there is nothing they can do. Well, a security guard will escort me to my car if I'd wish, but as the average age of the security guards at work is past Social Security retirement age I doubt they'd be much help (actually, only half are 70 or older, one is a 50 something woman who is far from athletic, one is a 60 something man who is in OK shape but not particularly strong, and one is a 60 something man who is quite large).

-Foam pepper spray sounds like a good idea. It has been a little while since I've replaced my pepper spray so I may consider that. I do practice every time I replace my pepper spray.

-I do understand escalation of force/proportional force. I wouldn't bring out a tire iron, axe, or knife unless facing the same kind of threat that would bring out a gun if I was in a CCW state.

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Chaim,

Go to the local Home Depot/Lowes and get a couple of cans of Raid Yard Guard. Raid Yard Guard is used for killing bees/wasps/hornets from up to 20 feet away. You might look funny if you carried into your office, but it should be ok in your vehicle. To my knowledge it is not against the law or company policy to carry outdoor bug spray in your vehicle.

Also, carrying a cane to work might arose more suspicion than you think. These days with workmans comp, workplace injuries and sue happy employees, your co-workers might give you the fifth degree and ask you a buttload of questions about why you are carrying a cane.

As previously mentioned, get as much documentation as your can on the guy, police reports, photos, etc.

Just my .02,
LeonCarr
 
You could get rid of the outward trappings of religon. Big neon signs declaring
I am a red neck, hippy, homosexual, jew, buddist, christian or what ever will get you attention.....
That would work for most people, but being an Orthodox Jew (I'm quickly moving towards becoming fully Chassidic actually) we have kind of a "uniform" we wear. I have to wear a yarmulke, even though it is removable Ino man will scare me away from obeying what G-d Himself expect of me, plus it is no less part of who I am than black skin is for someone black- I doubt many black people would change to white skin even if it was an option and they have no religious obligations to be black. They beard is not going anywhere. At least I had left my hat at my desk at work. I do understand what you are saying, but I'm not your typical secular Jew, I am a religious Jew and what G-d says comes first.
 
Go to the local Home Depot/Lowes and get a couple of cans of Raid Yard Guard. Raid Yard Guard is used for killing bees/wasps/hornets from up to 20 feet away. You might look funny if you carried to work, but it should be ok in your car.
Probably have a similar effect as a strong stream of pepper spray. Not a bad idea. Hypothetically, this one paired with a cigarette lighter might be a good defense against a deadly threat (if he came at me with a weapon only, any less would certainly land me in jail, but it may have an advantage over other MD legal options as I wouldn't need to be at hand-to-hand ranges).

Also, carrying a cane to work might arose more suspicion that you think. These days with workmans comp, workplace injuries and sue happy employees, your co-workers might give you the fifth degree and ask you a buttload of questions about why you are carrying a cane.
I hadn't thought about that one. Maybe a more ornemental walking stick so I could blame it on fashion? But then, without the need they'd probably make me get rid of it under the weapons policy.
 
You could get rid of the outward trappings of religon. Big neon signs declaring I am a red neck, hippy, homosexual, jew, buddist, christian or what ever will get you attention.....

I most emphatically disagree. People who are afraid to exercise their civil rights don't still have them.

I'd file a police report. I'd carry a knife and learn how to make effective use of it in an emergency. I'd start looking for employment in the United States rather than remaining in the People's Republic of Maryland.
 
Chaim,

Unless you have been trained in the techniques and skills needed to use a knife properly, DON"T TRY IT.

I know all of the movies make it look so effective and easy, the movies lie.

I think the best advice you have received so far is to tell your supervisor that you were the victim of a hate crime in front of the building. Make the complaint in writing and hand deliver it. Ask for your supervisors help in dealing with this problem.

I would also look outside the building before exiting, you should already be doing this, everyone should. If he is outside exit A use exit B. Yeah, I know, why should you change your lifestyle because of some biggoted neo nazi?

BETTER SAFE THAN DEAD.

Now most of these fine people are cowards, so I wouldn't fear a one on one confrontation in the day time, well not very much anyway. I would be very cautious at night and if he has friends with him.

Remember, The Bill of Rights gives him the right to say anything he wants and to hold any belief system he chooses. As it does you.

It does not give him the right to threaten you. If you must use that exit when he is there, have a friend with you who will act as a witness.

Do not confront this neo nazi bigot. He wants you to react to him so that he can belittle you further. If you ignore him and don't let him get to you, you win.

If I was in your situation I would do all of the above.

I would also start carrying an umbrella, and not one of the colapsable kind either. This would be one of those with the solid shaft about the length of a cane. Oh, the tip would be pointed.

Can't get in trouble for having an umbrella. They make excellent defensive weapons that can be used with very little training. They make pretty good offensive weapons, but you won't be on the offensive here, will you?

Best of luck to you. Bullies are unpredictable so take everything I said with a grain of salt, you are the one on the scene, trust your instincts.

Good luck,

DM
 
Wow, that's a lot to think about. Situational awareness is going to tip you off about 8 times out of ten about getting into a bad situation. That, combined with thinking out how you can avoid getting caught alone and in the open, cuts that to 9.5 times out of ten. Keep your head up and on a swivel, have a back up plan when faced with a situation (running like he!! and screaming like a little girl is a good plan).

Nope I don’t think that it is a good or even an okay idea to break laws (even if they are stupid).

Good luck to you, and may you say safe and righteous
 
Some recommend carrying a noisemaker (police whistle). Some suggest things that emit gases (like mace or pepper). Some suggest very bright lights. Others projectile devices-throwing stars, etc. Hummm. Noise, gas, light, projectiles: Mine does all of that. It's called a GUN.

Sounds like you are in deep do-do if you are caught carrying anything. If that is the case, (if you are going to carry anything) you may as well carry something that will do some good!
 
It sounds to me like you can carry anything except a weapon? Look around you, the world is full of weapons.

Does it rain in Md? Get a nice sturdy umbrella:)

Do you work in an office? Treat yourself to a really nice, expensive pair of scissors for work. You could not leave them at work, or someone would steal them? Maybe they could be a gift from a very special lady, so you can tell your boss you HAVE to use them for a while to keep her from being mad?

Maybe you should get one of the oversize ink pens from a truck stop or tourist trap. It should make a good improvised stabbing weapon.

How many keys and trinkets on your key ring? They are on a neck strap right? Try hanging it down by your side, and bringing it up behind you for a full overhand swing (hint have spare keys). (A sharp eight ounce projectile, at the end of a sixteen inch strap, at the end of your thirty inch arm?)

Do you carry a nice big cup of hot coffee into work every morning? Even without the scalding hot liquid, the proper cup could be a good club. A thermos bottle?

The world is full of tools, your brain is your weapon.

I work as a mechanic on an army base. I have to go through a security gate every morning. When I get to work, if someone accosts me in the parking lot at 06;00 with it still dark, he will get my flashlight shined in his eyes, and I will be throwing full 24 oz plastic diet pepsi bottles at him, or if he is close enough five of them in a shoulder slung canvas cooler bag should make a good impact.

Just for curiosity,, what do your fellow employees carry in and out of work every day?
 
Would a Taser be illegal in your situation? If allowable I think that's probably the most effective thing you can use to defend yourself short of a firearm.

Have you ever considered getting self defense instructions from a professional? I'm not kidding. I wish I had done that many, many years ago. Pay a professional to teach you self defense and you won't need to consider a weapon which could be illegal. If you can learn just enough to surprise the guy in a confrontation you can use the French offense (retreat, basically) to the nearest phone and call 911. At that point all you will have done is protect yourself, and no one can fault you for that.

If virtually everything is illegal then you've got to consider what's most important to you, your potential loss of job, possible prosecution, as compared to the real possibility of personal harm, perhaps death, at the hands of a bad guy?

I would NEVER recommend to anyone to break whatever laws they live under.

My little KelTec P32 resides in my back pocket in a DeSantis wallet holster. It is invisible to the naked eye, and being the coward that I am I would never pull the pistol under any conditions OTHER than threat of personal harm to my family or myself. I don't want to ever harm another person, UNLESS I have no choice in the defense of my own personal safety, or the safety of my family.

Thankfully, I live in a state where I can (and do) legally have the right of concealed carry.

I concur with the post that suggested you not wear anything indicating your religion if possible.

Everytime the thug had any negative contact with me I would let someone in law enforcement know of my concern.... Get it down in writing, every time. If the person actually does threaten or assault you then you have the facts on your side. (Not a tremendous comfort if you happen to be hospitalized at the time.) Does your state have a "hate crime" law?
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My two cents

Chaim:
Since you are religious, first talk to the rebbe. Then let the police know about the event. Then be very aware. And as Leon Carr indicated, tools are not interdicted, a stab saw (for cutting openings in sheet rock) would be very unwelcome in my abdomen I know. Also you might remind the arshlock that Hitler is dead and you all are still around.
Just a thought for all forum people, can advice/conversations be subpoenaed if TSHTF?
 
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You could get rid of the outward trappings of religon. Big neon signs declaring
I am a red neck, hippy, homosexual, jew, buddist, christian or what ever will get you attention.....
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No. When you have to hide your religion to avoid being harassed, you've been as badly injured as if you'd actually been beaten.
 
I'd start looking for employment in the United States rather than remaining in the People's Republic of Maryland.
Well, I'm looking locally because that is where it will be easiest to find a job, but I'm looking in a few other areas. I'm looking in an area that would be worse gunwise due to the great religious infrastructure there (the NYC suburbs- specifically either Passaic NJ or Monsey NY). I'm also looking in two areas with a decent religious infrastructure but great gun laws (Pittsburgh and Phily) and two with the minimum acceptable religious infrastructure but great gun laws (Richmond and Norfolk VA). (Religious infrastructure= Orthodox Jews need a regular minyan so we need a community of Orthodox Jews around, we need available kosher food, mikvahs, and some kind of learning in the community).


I would also start carrying an umbrella, and not one of the colapsable kind either. This would be one of those with the solid shaft about the length of a cane. Oh, the tip would be pointed.

Can't get in trouble for having an umbrella. They make excellent defensive weapons that can be used with very little training.

That is a great idea. I have one of those that would be perfect. It is a few years old and after a few years of habitually using the tip as a walking stick and hitting it against the pavement the tip would be pretty nasty to be poked with. It would do a decent job of putting some distance between a person and an attacker.

Situational awareness is going to tip you off...

It has helped my situational awareness, so this is probably really a blessing (we need occasional reminders, and those that don't hurt us are probably best). I have a tendency to hold doors for people when I sense someone behind me. When leaving the convenience store part of the gas station I realize someone was very close behind me so I hold the door for him, as he passed I see the tattoos and it all started. I wonder how with the obvious forearm tattoos and short sleeved shirt how I didn't notice this guy earlier while we were both in the store in which case I would have kept a greater distance. I thought I was always keeping aware, but I must have been in "green" when this happened.
 
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