DickP
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Hey all:
I recently saw a reality-clip show in which a man and woman are walking down a sidewalk. They approach two young toughs and, as the couple pass by, one of two thugs turns, slaps the woman across the face, hard, and immediately turns back to continue his conversation with Thug#2. The woman's companion immediately responds by beating the living hell out of both of the thugs (which I guess was supposed to be the humorous aspect of the clip).
Anyway, it got me to thinking:
How on earth would I respond in a similar situation, if I were the husband? I certainly shouldn’t draw a firearm - the assault is not continuing; Thug#1 has already turned away and is clearly willing to let me and my freshly bruised wife walk away. To draw a firearm in that situation strikes me as clear vigilantism. I mean, even if I "only" brandish the gun, I have to believe that I'm gonna be in a hell of a lot of trouble. If my brandishing escalates the situation and someone gets killed, I will be responsible.
So should I instead get on my cell phone and call the cops? Okay, so now I've got a dispatcher in one ear, asking me which cheek got slapped, and two jeering thugs in the other. Hopefully I can communicate my exact location to the dispatcher. In the 20 minutes (hopefully) that it will take the cops to arrive, what do my wife and I do? When the thugs wander off, laughing, and head down a dark alley, do I follow them? If so, does my wife accompany me? If not, where does she go? Do I just let them go? I don't see any other option available other than to just let them saunter off.
The scenario above got me to thinking about other scenarios in which an extreme and outrageous physical assault is immediately followed by clear disengagement by the attacker. At that point, I don't see how the assaulted party can respond at all. To do anything other than walk away – to do anything that reengages interaction - strikes me as a willful escalation.
Would anyone care to share any thoughts on this? The burdens and responsibilities of concealed carry seem awesome – it seems to require a Christ-like ability to turn the other cheek, no matter what outrages and indignities are poured on you and yours. Someone spits in your wife’s face? Tough. You gave up the luxury of being free to sock A-holes in the mouth with (relatively) limited liability when you sought out the right to carry.
Any personal stories of indignities endured would be welcome, though I realize that this is venturing into personal and painful territory... Specifically, I’d love to hear some stories of how people successfully dealt with outrageous offenses while carrying, what their decision making and coping strategies were, and how they’ve subsequently dealt with their anger over the situation…
Thanks!
I recently saw a reality-clip show in which a man and woman are walking down a sidewalk. They approach two young toughs and, as the couple pass by, one of two thugs turns, slaps the woman across the face, hard, and immediately turns back to continue his conversation with Thug#2. The woman's companion immediately responds by beating the living hell out of both of the thugs (which I guess was supposed to be the humorous aspect of the clip).
Anyway, it got me to thinking:
How on earth would I respond in a similar situation, if I were the husband? I certainly shouldn’t draw a firearm - the assault is not continuing; Thug#1 has already turned away and is clearly willing to let me and my freshly bruised wife walk away. To draw a firearm in that situation strikes me as clear vigilantism. I mean, even if I "only" brandish the gun, I have to believe that I'm gonna be in a hell of a lot of trouble. If my brandishing escalates the situation and someone gets killed, I will be responsible.
So should I instead get on my cell phone and call the cops? Okay, so now I've got a dispatcher in one ear, asking me which cheek got slapped, and two jeering thugs in the other. Hopefully I can communicate my exact location to the dispatcher. In the 20 minutes (hopefully) that it will take the cops to arrive, what do my wife and I do? When the thugs wander off, laughing, and head down a dark alley, do I follow them? If so, does my wife accompany me? If not, where does she go? Do I just let them go? I don't see any other option available other than to just let them saunter off.
The scenario above got me to thinking about other scenarios in which an extreme and outrageous physical assault is immediately followed by clear disengagement by the attacker. At that point, I don't see how the assaulted party can respond at all. To do anything other than walk away – to do anything that reengages interaction - strikes me as a willful escalation.
Would anyone care to share any thoughts on this? The burdens and responsibilities of concealed carry seem awesome – it seems to require a Christ-like ability to turn the other cheek, no matter what outrages and indignities are poured on you and yours. Someone spits in your wife’s face? Tough. You gave up the luxury of being free to sock A-holes in the mouth with (relatively) limited liability when you sought out the right to carry.
Any personal stories of indignities endured would be welcome, though I realize that this is venturing into personal and painful territory... Specifically, I’d love to hear some stories of how people successfully dealt with outrageous offenses while carrying, what their decision making and coping strategies were, and how they’ve subsequently dealt with their anger over the situation…
Thanks!