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Do you tell your spouse?

Discussion in 'General Gun Discussions' started by stillstanding, Oct 7, 2006.

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  1. stillstanding

    stillstanding Member

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    I was talking to a local gun dealer during a purchase and told him that because my wife doesn't like guns I don't tell her about my weapons purchases. He told me he has to do the same to keep peace in his home. I've been married 22 years and it's what works best for us. The few times she's been to my "armory" she 's not noticed how many or what kind of weapons there are. It's a part of my life I have to keep seperate. Anyone else have it that way?
     
  2. Ben Shepherd

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    Nope, my wife won't leave mine alone.:scrutiny: :D Even has her own safe.

    Your situation sucks, BUT:

    Sounds like there is a lot of respect and tolerance in your marriage. Good on 'ya.
     
  3. CountGlockula

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    I'm not a marriage counselor of any kind, but if you keep any secrets in your marriage...trust is destroyed. Just my opinion so please don't take it as gospel.

    I'm very lucky my wife is semi-supportive of my love for guns. It was a big step for her to EVEN et me purchase my Glock. She's very supportive for home protection, especially when I'm on travel for business...which is usually a week. She just wants me to be happy.:)

    My advice is to keep the communications open. Good luck buddy.
     
  4. nbkky71

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    As long as I use money from my bank account (and not our joint account) to purchase guns, my wife is cool about it. She really doesn't care what I buy.

    The only 'rule' about gun purchases in our house is that I have to put 50% of the purchase price into the savings account.
     
  5. CB900F

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    Fella's;

    My situation is pretty much like several of yours. My wife has no interest in firearms & doesn't care what I'm doing with them as long as it doesn't affect the household finances. We're running over 30 years of marriage with this arrangement.

    900F
     
  6. 10MMGary

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    Of course I tell my spouse. How else is she going to know what gun to buy me?:D Hell I even leave the gun rags open to the page with the ad for the newest gun I really must have;) . As long as I keep buying her gold and diamonds, she'll keep buying me guns:evil: , I'm sure of it. Besides I can't keep anything a secret anyway, so why bother?
     
  7. Ben Shepherd

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    I took it as a don't ask/ don't tell kinda thing?

    If it's an active "hide them from the wife"? Bad juju there buddy. When she finds out, hang on!!
     
  8. Banshee

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    my wife couldn't care less about guns that I buy. I usually show them to her, and her normal response is "oh that's nice"
     
  9. PlayboyPenguin

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    I usually show every purchase to my spouse. I find it is best to be honest. Except of course if asked how much I paid for it. In that case, a little white lie never hurts anyone. :)
     
  10. Zeke Menuar

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    My wife and I keep our money separate. As long as I pay my share of the bills, I can buy whatever I want, and I do.

    I do keep her informed of purchases and layaways.

    ZM
     
  11. ewb45acp

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    I'm in the same boat as Banshee. My wife just isn't interested. I used to play "show & tell" with a new gun purchase. Now I just don't bother.
     
  12. Clipper

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    My biggest problem is keeping her from hijacking my shootin' irons! She has as many as I do, and she's laid claim to my MKII (10" bull in stainless) whenever I get around to getting that new MKIII 45/22...
     
  13. SaxonPig

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    No secrets and she doesn't mind what I spend as long as we can afford it. She realizes that guns generally appreciate in value so the money isn't really gone, it's just in another form and can be turned back into cash, likely at a profit, at any time.

    She did sort of set a limit once. I was perusing the auction site for fully-automatic guns and I was looking at a $2800 STEN when she peeked over my shoulder. She asked if I was thinking about it and said "maybe." She pursed her lips and said "I think I would be mild perturbed if you spent nearly $3,000 on a gun."

    Mildly perturbed? Hell, I can handle that.
     
  14. aka108

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    No problems. We keep separate accounts. I don't care what she might buy and she doesn't care what I do. Works good. I seem to always imply that I probably won't be buying any more firearms, she's heard that at least 130 or so times. Just smiles and say OK.
     
  15. SoCalShooter

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    That's for me to know and not you!
    You guys are awesome. *takes notes* I am not married...dont know when I will be if ever but I will take this play from your playbooks. Thanks guys.
     
  16. Dave R

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    I always consult with my wife before any major purchase, including firearms. We both need to know the financial sitaution. She keeps me on budget. She always knows when I'm buying one.
     
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    I kinda gotta do he same thing. It's a don't ask, don't tell method I use. So long as all the bills are continually paid she gets her shopping done and I get mine done. All are happy. She wouldn't approved of the costs for my items any more than I would for what she buys. Currently our situation is as such that I can spend a bit than I used to so I'm trying to grab the pricier ones now leaving the more comon and therefore less costly items for another time or as gifts.
     
  18. Detachment Charlie

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    She:
    Is that new?:scrutiny:

    Me:
    What? This old thing? I just lost enough weight so my finger can wrap around the trigger again. It's been in the back of the closet for years. Do you think this holster makes me look fat?:neener:
     
  19. Glockfan.45

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    I always show her my new purchases. She doesnt really care either way. Once she was looking over my shoulder while I was glancing at Bushmasters website. She looked at the price and said "$1,300 is that what yours cost?" to which I reply no of course not the manufacturers price is always higher than the dealer. I bought mine on sale for $500.00 ;) Hell I got an even better deal on my Kimber only $300.00 :D .
     
  20. Ala Dan

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    My lovely wifey knows very little 'bout my personal firearms purchases~!;)
    And, I plan on keep'in it that way.:D
     
  21. Pilgrim

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    The ex-PMS was into dog shows, and the price of a show quality puppy was about the same as a good pistol. She bought a puppy, I got a gun.

    Pilgrim
     
  22. M2 Carbine

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    I taught my Wife to shoot before we got married (1965). She was always good at it but shooting was mever at the top of Her list of things to do. We had an allowance thing that worked out well. She bought much of my shooting equipment and a good number of my guns.

    Every time I came home from a gun shot I'd show Her what I bought.:)


    About 1971 I had been laid off and money was tight.
    I came home from town and told my Wife about a M1 Garand I saw. I had wanted one for years.
    She said, Go buy it.
    I said, No money is too thght and I don't know when I'll get a job.
    She said, Get back in the car and go get the rifle, we'll be OK.
     
  23. Glockfan.45

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    M2 Carbine your wife rocks. Have her mentor mine please :D .
     
  24. Sisco

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    I've been married 25 years without so much as an argument. We always discuss where the money goes and even though she doesn't share intrest my hobbies (guns and motorcycles) she has never objected unless money was tight and better used on things we need other than things we want.
     
  25. offthepaper

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    I used to tell my wife about any FA purchase.
    Now, I dont have to tell my ex-wife about anything. :neener:
     
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