My new girlfriend HATES GUNS!

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First get the pistol out of that bag and on your hip. A shoulder bag is no place for a gun. 2nd get rid of her now. What if she gets mad and gets a PO against you .Good by guns!! Send her on her way or you will pay for your lust big time.
 
I'm chiming in here and agreeing with 3rdpig...

She may 'accept' the fact that you have guns now, but the *second* she gets any power over you (marriage, children, etc.) they're gonna be gone. I've seen this happen way too many times in the past.

I can see where she's headed by asking how many guns you have...next question she'll ask is why do you need so many guns. Then you agree and go sell a few of them...and from there it's a very slipper slope.

Get that Elephant out of the corner...if it's not something you can work out to mutual satisfaction why waste the time & money??

In any event, good luck with it!
 
Don't try to pursuade her, don't try to convert her, don't discuss it with her. She's an Anti, the capital A kind who actually believe in their stance rather than simply mouth the party line. She has thought and effort invested in her position and she won't be swayed, though she will sway you one way or the other.

Dump her. Do it politely. Do it now, and never get within spitting distance of her again.
 
Honesty is REQUIRED. Failing to tell her about your shoulder bag is a LIE, at least that is the way she will percieve it.

I think you should explain your love for firearms, and push her to go to the range with you, and watch you and others shoot. She does not have to participate, just spectate (her choice, be prepared if she asks to shoot). do you know any couples that both shoot? If so, invite them along. Any single women you know that shoot? mother, sister, cousins, acquaintenances? Show her the fun side of shooting, forget the ccw, and self defense for now.

Good luck
 
I certainly don't mean to agree with the resident woman-bashers, but I gotta do it this time.

She may be a great person, but the fact is, the two of you don't agree on some really basic aspects of life and eventually, its probably going to cause some serious problems. Are you willing to give up the right to protect not only yourself, but maybe some day your children? Are you going to feel safe if your kids are with someone who isn't only willing to carry a gun, but sounds like she'd have a problem defending herself at all, in any situation.

The knife thing is worrisome, too. It shows its not just a case of being unfamiliar with guns, or being mildly anti-gun, which can often be overcome, but she sounds like she had some pretty deep-seated psychological issues.

You need to seriously think about this. You may love her, and she may love you, but with such serious differences, if you can't overcome them, its best for you both to go your own way. Doing anything else won't be fair to either one of you.
 
Add me to the chorus of naysayers. I agree entirely with the train wreck analogy. I predict that she Will someday feel so threatened by you and your arsenal that she simply Has to get a Restraining Order and ....
 
I married an extreme anti, she had compelling reason for feeling the way she did.
I simply refused to discuss it. I am into guns I was before , during, and probably after our relationship ends.

After awhile sleeping in a house with over 30 guns and none of them attacking us she came around.

The first sign was when we found ourselves on the wrong side of town at 2am.
She semi discretely checked the glove box to see if my gun was in it's usual place, then started yelling at me when it wasn't.
When I told her it was between my legs she drew a noticeable sigh of relief.

There was no going back from there
She has her own now.


Didn't Sarah buy a gun for her son, and doesn't she have a CCW permit
 
Unless she is flexible (mentally-although physically would have its perks) with her ideals, AKA open mind, I see a serious crash and burn in your future. Just knowing the Bradys is the biggest, nastiest red flag I can comprehend. Good luck on your decision making and know your buddies at THR will be here for a shoulder to cry on :D .
 
P.J.

Been there, done that. Now I can't get my wife to leave me alone about the range. It will work itself out. Some folks just don't understand that a gun is a tool and think that they are inheriantly evil with no possible good uses...it will be fine. It will just take some time though.

Oh, it will help if you take her out to dinner more too.
 
Jeffrey...

Some of you are lucky enough to have real shootin' girlfriends... Mine's great in the sack, but I'm missing out in this respect. Not sure what's going to happen. What would you do?
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The thing you have to consider if just how compatible the two of you are. The following advice goes both ways (i.e., for men AND women).

The sex may be great, being together may be exciting, but do the two of you really agree on your basic philosophy of life? Do you share enough things in common and agree how a conjoined life should be...conducted (for lack of a better word)? Is there something which might cause a great divide such as your firearms? Too many people have gotten married thinking that the other person will change after marriage. And the overwhelming majority of them are WRONG.

You need to get out of bed and think with your primary weapon, your brain. And really think hard on this subject. You need to listen to the advice of those who have been there, done that, and gotten those scars. This relationship has all the makings of a huge bad situation...for you.

All I can say is good luck and please listen.
 
What about kitchen knives?

I get all kinds in the gunstore I work in. Many's the time I've asked a man if I could show him a gun, and gotten the response, "Oh no, My wife/girlfirend/fiancee would never allow that." I have two observations here:
1. I ask them if wife/gf/fiancee has a padlock on the drawer with the kitchen knives in it. No? Gee, arent' those deadly weapons, capable of killing any human in the house? Pretty lame to be antigun but lax enough not to lock up the sharp knives.

2. My partner occasionally uses a good line. He says, Some night, when she's sleeping, sneak into her purse and retreive your gonads. Then reattach them to your body!
 
Just remember her circle of friends and family are most likely ANTI. One fight with you and she tells them you have GUNS and CARRY one will have you talking to the local LEOs. And you will most likely loose access to your collection. Either permently or until you have paid a lawyers car payments for a while.
 
First of all, I am not trying to insult you here.
I only offer my opinions because I love you man and I hate to see you throw your life away.

One thing you should remember that married guys know and single guys just won't believe:

Chicks are great in the sack until you are married.

Then they become as great as they feel inclined to be on a given day...or not.

Then they start to control you.

It's not an issue if you understand that it's a chick thing (not some evil thing) and just lay down the ground rules up front. If you go in blind you will be royally screwed and it won't be in the sack and it certainly won't be great.

Paradoxically, chicks like to have a guy who takes control.
You don't have to order her around and be rude but you must make her do what you want when you want to do it.

She will either do it or dump you. Both outcomes are good.
Either you have a compliant mate or you cut your losses and move right on.

There is no "soul-mate" that doesn't mesh perfectly with you immediately. If that doesn't happen then she is just another hot marriageable woman.
There are plenty of those.

Obviously this chick isn't your soul-mate so she must be bent to your will.

You should get over the wussy thing about not telling her stuff. She will just think you are a lying girl. Chicks hate liars and guys who act like girls.

You will tell her that this gun nonsense has to stop and she is to meet you at the range on x day at y time otherwise forget about the whole thing.

If she is one second late leave.

If she shows up but late you call her and give her one last chance but you won't wait again.

If she doesn't show up then find one of the billions of other hot chicks.

She is NOT WORTH YOUR TIME beyond giving her a chance to do the right thing. And franky, as others have said she is a ticking time bomb waiting to remove as much of your genitalia as she possibly can.

QED

G
 
As others have said, education is the key.

In this world, love means almost everything to us humans, and sometimes we make great sacrifices to have it. That in mind, try to educate her.

If you ever go on a semi-long drive with her, make a note of letting her see you throw a pare of jumper cables in the trunk, or making sure you're spare tire is inflated, blah blah. Kinda mention, "just makin' sure we're prepared. Wouldn't wanna get stranded out there." Or somethign similar. On a grounds that she is comfortable. Kinda instill that idea of always being prepared. Then, slowly, maybe she will come to understand that guns are simply tools.

Tough spot to be in brother. I feel ya. :(
 
I am married to a woman who does not like my having firearms...

I come from the perspective of one who owns and shoots firearms and is married to a woman who would like to see them all gone. Hell, her father committed suicide with a handgun and she found his body. She isn't a basketcase over it and she isn't an emotional wreck. She's a pretty damned solid human being.

But, here's the key... We know ourselves. We know our values. And, those values mesh. You see, we share the same philosophy of life and have common social values. We vote the same and stand together politically. I won't go any further into that.

Those shared values make it easier for her to tolerate my having and using firearms. She doesn't have to be my shooting buddy. There are things she does with friends that I don't want to do. And guess what? I don't walk on eggshells around the gun issue, but I also don't flaunt them in front of her either. I tell her I'm going to the range and she tells me that she hopes I have a good time. And she means it. But, I don't clean them in front of her. I keep a loaded pistol in the house along with a loaded shotgun. She kknows it and doesn't like it. But, I don't talk about it, wave it around, or play cowboy with it.

It's called compromise and tolerance and that's fine with me because she is more important to me than guns. I'm not of the school that my wife must be pro gun or have to shoot or carry or go gee whiz over them.

Perhaps you two need to better understand what you do have in common, where you differ, and how much tolerance of the differences can be made. You just might find out that core values aren't there and the differences mean that a life together isn't right for the two of you. Or, you just might grow closer over this.

For what it's worth...
 
I know others have suggested that you dump her now. I second that motion. Trust me, your relationship will NOT improve, nor will she ever cease her efforts to disarm you. Escape now, before you are financially obligated, or worse.
 
You have something you would have to give up if asked to do so and you complied. She doesn't have something she has to give up, you're not asking her to do away with something she enjoys and believes in, just accept what you do. That's easier for her and more apt to happen than the reverse. If you love her and she loves you, I think she has to accept you and the guns, not the other way around.

That being said, women tend to get what they want from a man after the relationship has gone for a while. Stand firm and be understanding, don't push this on her or you'll back her away further. Be smart, things tend to work out as time goes by, people become more use to things and more accepting the more they are around them. The fact that she's still with you suggests that she willing to try. Or, it suggests that she thinks she'll change you, LOL. Either way, follow the above advise. ;)
 
You are in for a world of discontent if you stay with that lady. Go look somewhere else now and avoid the pain and money that a continued relationship of that type with those type will bring.
 
hate to say it, but the chance of her getting converted is about .008%, and the only thing that will make her want to CCW is when a SHTF scenario happens... dump her, and find someone else. the Range is a grerat place to find chicks, and there's a 100% chance of them being pro-gun. =)

~TMM
 
Only date within your own species.

If things go sour with the new girlfriend, you're only one restraining order away from losing your guns, and one DV charge away from losing your gun rights for life, thanks to the Lautenberg Amendment. It doesn't even need to be a justified charge...all she has to do is call the cops, and say that you displayed a gun in a manner that was threatening to her.
 
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