Wow. Huge discussion here!
First of all... I have a life long history of letting people walk all over me. I was always the guy in my group of friends that people called "Loser" and "Stupid" and "fat ass" and stuff like that. Well... now that I've gotten older I've gotten past the fact that those words were spoken. I realize that people are selfish and egotistical and need whipping boy to make themselves feel better. Problem is that I have a hard time getting out of this rut.
My wife has sided with some of these friends on many occasions and goes to a disrespectful level. Now it's part of my life. I'm trying to change that but it's a long road to re-program your friends. Friends it's a little easier to do. But my wife.... well... here's how it goes.
"Joel. That's stupid! You're being stupid"
"Honey... I don't appreciate you being disrespectful towards me"
"Well I'm allowed my own opinion. You're disrespecting me by no allowing me my own opinion".
Uphill battle. It'll take a few more years to get past it, but I'm rejecting everyone's suggestion of divorce. Sure we got married young and maybe it was a mistake, but I made a commitment and I have a kid. Gotta stick it out and try. God knows it's been hell for a few years.... it's getting better... I think.
Second, to the guy that said I'm doing a lousy job of not drawing attention..... I'm sorry to disappoint you. I have the gun 100% openly displayed. If someone notices.... so what? If the comment... SO WHAT? It's totally legal and I really don't care. I'm not carrying it to impress anyone, and I'm certainly not making sure that anyone sees it. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, then good for me!
I have become a more self confident person in the last 2 years. Through major problems with my wife, my weight, and my confidence.... I needed a change.
I have started taking care of my life. I eat healthier, get much more exercise. Spend good quality time with my son. Spend MORE time helping other people in my community, even if it means sacrificing things I WANT TO DO. I also am more interested in my legal rights and the world around me. I want to always know as much as I can. I am learning to demand respect from those around me, just as they demand of me. And I am aware of the fact that there is very real evil in this world. I may never encounter it in it's truest form first hand, but if I do I refuse to willingly become a victim. I choose the option of life for myself, and anyone around me that didn't choose it for themselves.
Thanks for the good words guys. And don't waste your time fighting with the 3 guys in this thread that just want an argument. Not worth it. People that carry on like that need a reminder that: "It is better for people to think you're a fool and to keep your mouth shut, than to open it and remove all doubt".
Much love THR. Good to nestle my way into this community. This board actually has helped me learn a lot of things. I appreciate all of you.... even the jerks.
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I'll tell people what ever I please. I disagree that they necessarily know their intentions better than I do. I see people kidding themselves all the time.
Man.. .you'd be good in politics! Assuming you know people better than they know themselves..... good for you. Just.... good for you!
And OC'ers who claim that they do not want to be noticed are right up near the top of the list.
Say you do it because you like to.
Say you do it because you believe it is a deterrent.
Say you do it because it's more comfortable.
Say you do it because you can draw faster.
Say you do it to make a political statement, or to raise people's consciousness.
Just don't try to kid yourself or to kid me into thinking that you don't want to be noticed. Because in today's society, that is utter nonsense.
Never claimed I didn't want to be noticed. I claimed I was not going to try and draw attention to myself. If I'm noticed or not isn't in my control. Only my reaction can be controlled. And the word "controlled" should well define my reaction. Then again.... you know me better than I know myself..... so.... maybe I don't even know what I really believe?