My carry weapon was outed tonight

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Actually bible study was already over. Most people were already gone except for me the two girls and two guys. They were cool about it and said they would not tell anyone. One of the girls Im sure will run her mouth to others but she was on my last nerve anyways.
 
It's her house, and her rules. If I knew friends would be uncomfortable with my having a concealed weapon in their house, I'd either leave it in the car, or have them over to my house, instead. I wouldn't wait for them to tell me not to have it in their house -- it's simply a courtesy thing for me.

While you're a guest in her house is not, IMHO, the appropriate time for a debate on the second amendment and your rights as a CHL holder.
 
The upside is that these people already knew you and what king of person you are before they found out you carry. Approach from that angle. Ask how does carrying an object change your behavior or mental state?

Ask them to participate in a thought experiment with you. Have them imagine they are the ones carrying. Imagine they have been through the process of getting the permit, gotten the training, etc. Then ask them if they feel any different and how. Ask them if they suddenly feel unstable or violent. When they tell you no, ask them what makes them think you're any different.
 
This topic also brings to mind a closely related one. There are non-weapons-permissive environments that you will encounter elsewhere: court houses, post offices and other places, depending on the state in which you live.
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The fact is I will not give up my right to protect myself because someone else "feels" uncomfortable with it(feels is the key word as it is based completely on irrational emotion).
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In the face of State or Federal law, it's important to have thought through how to proceed when you cannot carry a firearm at all. You already know that your brain is more important than your gun. You can use this event as motivation to add to your tool box and to apply further knowledge where it is appropriate.
 
Smith and Wesson M&P .40 cal. I carry it in waistband with a Galco Summer comfort holster. Usually works really well. No one noticed when I started carrying and this is the first time anyone has ever seen it. My family could not believe how well it concealed when i showed them.
 
Neat! I was always surprised at how well thfull size 9mm and .40 service autos can conceal.

On topic, it sounds like you're all set, just need to try and get her to a range to show her how fun it is.
 
Maybe. That is also a polite way of saying "I ***really*** don't want to have this conversation right now, so shut up." From her point of view, your gun was fixing to become the topic of the evening instead of whatever chapter y'all were studying. If you seemed to her to be ramping up for a full-out RKBA sermon, maybe she just wanted you to go pass the peanuts and get back on topic for the night.
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I think this is on the mark. The guns are great sermon isn't a good tactic given the circumstances.

The matter is unresolved. It would be best for the OP to take the initiative in resolving the matter of the host's uncomfortability. Instead of just letting it lurch onto the next confrontation.

I would suggest OP call or visit the host and apologize.

Something like, "I want to just say that I apologize for making you uncomfortable the other day. That wasn't my intention. I care about your sensibilities and rights very much."

Followed by something like. "Now let's finish up our discussion. It's best for us to know where each other stands. You go first, please. Tell me what you think and how you feel. I will respectfully listen."

Start with the apology and make it sincere. That would probably work best.

And let her have her say. Avoid interrupting her with the sermon bit.
 
I think the horse has been beat enough, but I'll say it again- its not about winning some debate and converting her viewpoint, first and foremost you are a guest and you abide by her rules. :scrutiny:
 
Invite her to go shooting.

Sometimes it turns fear into respect when it comes to guns.
Most folks are afraid of things they do not understand.
 
What have I said about that? There were no rules beforehand and I have made the decision that if any rules are laid out I will respect them by not attending her house.
 
It is bible study right. Go biblical on her.

"If a thief be found breaking up, and be smitten that he die, there shall no blood be shed for him," Exodus 22:2

"They chose new gods; then was war in the gates: was there a shield or spear seen among forty thousand in Israel?" Judges 5:8

"Blessed be the LORD my strength which teacheth my hands to war, and my fingers to fight," Psalms 144:1.

"Then said he unto them, But now, he that hath a purse, let him take it, and likewise his scrip: and he that hath no sword, let him sell his garment, and buy one." Luke 22:36

"A righteous man who falters before the wicked is like a murky spring and a polluted well." Proverbs 25:26

"But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever." For a man to provide shelter, food, clothing, money, and so forth is quite fine, but the man who refuses to defend his family and his community is a man in sin! 1 Timothy 5:8

"And for your lifeblood I will surely demand an accounting. I will demand an accounting from every animal. And from each man, too, I will demand an accounting for the life of his fellow man.

"Whoever sheds the blood of man, by man shall his blood be shed;for in the image of God has God made man". Gen 9:5-6
 
I guess my shirt came up while I was bent over
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That's something you can expect a shirt to do. Your weapon was not properly concealed. This is a problem I've seen (literally) with a lot of beltline holsters. Use deeper concealment or wear a longer shirt.
 
LOL My wifwe does this also
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EVERY woman does it...
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STOP. Please. Just STOP. This thread is not about women. This thread is not about what some of you think all women are like. PLEASE cut it out.

Think for a moment how some of these posts would read were we to excise the word "woman" and insert the word "black" or "Muslim" or even "man". There are women who read this board, and this is not a pleasant experience for us.

Thank you.

Springmom
 
I ran into a situation with my Mother-in-law saying she was 'not comfortable' with me carrying a gun in her house. It wasn't really the gun issue, though. It made her feel that I did not feel safe in her house and that sort of offended her. (after later discussions with my wife, I found that out) All I told her was there is no safer place for my gun than on my hip. I'm not comfortable leaving it in the truck. What if it was broken into? I could tell by her look that that reasoning she understood and agreed with. She just nodded in agreement saying, "OK."
 
1. Respect her wishes as a property owner.

2. Invite her to go shooting with you and your wife.

3. Be careful carrying at church because it may be illegal in your state and the girl may narc on you and cause you big legal problems.
 
I find it ironic that one who posts as "Arrogant Bastard" has the most thoughtful and considerate post.

It is your responsibility as a guest in someone else's home to find out how they feel about you carrying a gun in their house. Her "rights" take precedent over yours - it is her home. It is not your place to try to convince them of your RKBA, at this point. It is her house, honor her wishes as the host of the event.

It was a Bible study, so here's a question: How would have Jesus handled the situation?
 
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