Using Your Collection to Intimidate Daughter's Boyfriends

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malice

too true i worked at a college and was hunted. i do a lil talk once or twice a year at a couple high schools on why getting high is a bad idea. i regularly have girls give me their numbers. i am almost 50 married with a daighter and my lil speech feature my talking about how my change of lifestyle affords me the chance to try to be a good husband and father.
some girls today are as bad as i was at that age, scary

wife number ones dad was 6'5 240 ponds of dc cop hated me. and it didn't stop my 100 pounds of hormones a bit
 
I still remember 35 years ago tapping stones on my girlfriends window when she warned me to stop. Good thing, I hear her old man's Oxford's clomping down the sidewalk after me. (Good reason, too, but at least she was on the pill)

I run into a local restauraunt parking lot where two cops wave me over and ask why I'm running for my life. I told them and one took my side and one took his. They let me go.

I was like a dog in heat. I was unintimidated by a nuclear weapon, let alone a shotgun or pistol, or her crazy old man. If I had it to do over again, I wouldn't change a thing. Best sex of my life.

Kowboy
 
You guys don't really need to worry about the boyfriends. Worry about your daughter, if you need to worry about anything.

You can come down on the boy like the Hammer of Thor. Your daughter-if she chooses to do so-can make him forget you-and your guns, bayonets, straight razors, skinning knives,etc.-exist or have any relevance in his universe.

She might decide to make him decide that death is worth it.

Barring rape, it's the female who says yes or no and she can make the male-especially the teenage or twentysomething male- surmount any amount or degree of intimidation.

You're barking up the wrong tree.
 
My best run in with a dad was with a former Special Forces Colonel. I was 18, full of P&V. He had done three tours in SE Asia. I knew it, he knew I knew it, etc.

"So, boy, what are your intentions with my daughter?"

"About the same as hers are for me, sir. Do you trust her?"

He made the best beer.... >:):evil:
 
Years ago when my compadre's oldest daughter began to date, he called me before the date with concerns he was feeling. Long story short, Dad and I are sitting on the porch enjoying the late afternoon having a few cold ones.

Jr. drives up to pick up daughter, comes to porch greets dad and I with firm handshake and solid eye contact, cocky~charismatic confident way about him.

Anyway dad gets up to get daughter, Jr. and I are now alone , our conversation is light, and pleasant. I reach into the Ice chest for a beer, I offer him one "sure Mr." and reaches for it. I tell him to leave date over.

This is the "A type" kid that is very dangerous to your high school aged daughters virtue.

FWIW...

Peace
Steel Talon:cool:
 
My Little Girl

Tomorrow morning (Saturday), my daughter, her best girlfriend and her new boyfriend and I are all going to the outdoor range -- with parental consent.

The boy is impressed that he will be allowed to use my daughter's rifle and likes the idea of joining my Scout Venture Crew (coed unit ages 14-18) that engages in high-adventure activities (i.e. rappelling, kayaking, treks, archery, plus shotgun rifle & handgun shooting under proper instruction and range supervision). Most of the boys in my Venture Crew are patriotic and squared-away 14 and 15-year old Eagle Scouts who are the kind of boys I'm proud to have my daughter associate with.

I found that when a girl my daughter's age encounters squared-away boys like my Eagle Scouts who are also good athletes, well-groomed, well-mannered young men with self-confidence and a history of accomplishment they don't see them as nerds -- they see them for what they are: winners who have a much higher likelihood of success and happiness as men. Very refreishing to be around these kinds of boys. I'm proud of them and proud of her.
 
I'm a long way's from having to deal with this issue, (at least I hope so anyway) But I've been on the receiving end of it. I dated one girl who's dad was just crazy, he was ex military and worked on base (some civilian job). When I met the guy he was in his tighty whitey's and his beer gut was abusing a threadbare wife-beater. He actually had a cocked and locked 1911 tucked into the elastic waistband. I didn't get any kind of lecture or anything, and I figured the guy was just trying to put a scare into me.

A few weeks later I was in my car at the end of his driveway waiting for his daughter to sneak out when a bright flash/boom and a sound like gravel on a tin roof let me know that someone with a shotgun and birdshot or rocksalt had just taken an interest in me.

I swear that my beat up old buick grew wings. And I did not continue to 'date' his daughter.

I think I would have been more respectfull of both him and his daughter if he had spoken to me straight up (no sneaking her out in the middle of the night etc.) Instead of trying to let the gun do the talking.

I did get the picture in a hurry that one time tho. (Shut the barn door after the horses had gotten out, but it did convey a clear message)

If I have a daughter... I think I'll try to paint a vivid and graphic picture using my words, make solid eye contact, and if a physical reinforcement is needed, I may have to slowly slice a brautwurst with a large sharp knife while we have the talk.
 
Thanks, Steel. I wasn't sure how that would come out. My taste of his beer was a LOOOOONG time after I began with his daughter.

I had to pass the Mom test first. She was Thai, and cooked the same. The first family dinner felt like a contest- "Let's See What the Farang Will Eat." I think I passed, but it was Fear Factor painful":)
 
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"I think the most important thing a father can do to a young man dating his daughter is to give him some respect. Remember "Give respect, get respect"."

The last young man I gave respect to sexually assaulted my daughter, so pardon me if I, for one, wont follow this advice. I prefer to put the fear of God in every boy that wants to date MY little girl!

Respect is something you earn, you dont just give it in order to receive it.
 
Honestly, what wet-behind-the-ears work in progress of an adolescent boy could possibly be good enough for any father's darling daughter? ;)

I'm reminded of something from the Blue Collar Comedy Tour (paraphrasing from memory)

"...and then I'll pull him in tight so only he and I can hear and say 'See that little girl over there? She's my only daughter, and she's my life. So if you were thinking of hugging or kissing or whatever just remember these words. I got no problem going back to prison."
 
No one in my neighborhood even knows I have guns except the AH across the street.
Suppose your daughter breaks up with the guy and he decides to tell the world you have "machine guns" to get even. You don't need that magic. I only showed my daughter's fiance my firearms after they were engaged and he had sprung for a major diamond and set a date.
 
Guns, no. Little too strong of a message.

Sharpening an axe at the kitchen table would be more my style.:D
 
My daughter is 12. The boy thing is just begining. The "Speech" will depend on the boy. Heck, I might even break out the old pictures from when I was an MP Officer in the Army. ("See that night stick mounted on the wall over there ??? The one that says "Scout26's Attitude Adjuster and Cooperation Inducer". It's the same one I'm using to bust heads in this picture of the bar fight I'm breaking up. If you go over and look closely, you can still see some of the dried blood on it.") :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:


Given that I live the middle class white bread suburbs of Chicago, I want to be skinning out freshly arrowed deer hanging from a tree in the back yard when my daughter's first date comes calling to see if he'll :barf: . He can help me finish butchering it while my daughter is getting ready and then it's all of us off to the range so that he can watch my daughter vaporize clays at trap and skeet. :what: :what: Then it'll be my turn to break a few clays. :neener: :what: ;) :D

He'll get to shoot also (if his parents allow), so I'll show him a couple of different types of shotguns. We'll spend some time on the rifle/pistol range also, the Win '94, in .32 Win Spec, is always a fun shoot (My daughter loves shooting it !!) along with the Marlin 60 and the obligatory 1911 in .45 ACP.
 
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oh yeah - don't have to be cleanin' guns...

Going on a camping trip in a few weeks... And the girlfriend has a daughter who has developed a mild crush on one of the other kids who is going... Who I've known since he was six... he's 13 going on about 35... Squared away little bugger, but hey, he's got the hormones going...

So, the talk with him is something like this...

"So, you ain't gonna be all that kissable if someone peels your lips off with a pair of vise grips, right? So no running off?"

And the talk with her is "Okay - he's promised to be the perfect gentleman. Don't make him break that promise."
 
Cocky 17 yo, too smart for my own good, and determined to get his daughter undressed as soon as possible.
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About 2 years ago, I was of this mindset. Then I had twin daughters. Though they're only a year and a half old now, I'm already getting irritated at the thought of some of the stupid things young men today do...

Just thinking about some of the idiots I see in the mall now dating either of my daughters when they reach that age makes me :mad: :scrutiny:

I've got some thinking to do in the next 30 years before I start letting them date... :p

-Teuf
 
I never would do the gun show thing for my daughters boyfriend for a variety of reasons. But there was one "young man" who on their first date pulled up in the driveway and tooted the horn, I explained to my daughter that he would need to come inside so I could meet him, but by this time he's not tooting the horn, he blowing the horn!(?). She goes outside to tell him this, but he feels no need to come inside. At this point I open the door and call my daughter back inside, which she does. he sits out there a few minutes and I hear the horn toot again. I tell the daughter if he not willing to meet with me , than she's not going anywhere with him. She goes back outside and convinces him he NEEDS to come inside. Reluctantly he enters the house and we engage in small talk, name , address, job, plans for the evening. At this point I lead him into the den and inquire if he enjoys sports, he states"well, not really". I begin to show him some of my boxing memorobilia and talk of some of the great fighters from the past/present. I put my hand firmly on his shoulder so that we're eye to eye and ask him "do you enjoy boxing, have you ever been in a boxing ring, CURFEW IS 11:00-OK ?
Never had a problem with him for the 2 months they dated.:D
 
father friendly thing got me dumped after the first "date".

I think I was 16 or so and this girl I was kinda sorta but not really all that interested in wanted to go out with me, so i abliged. Went over to pick her up, knocked on door and she answered and said "come in I'll be ready in a sec"

her dad walked in and asked me questions about stuff, name, plans, etc etc (I didn't have any) but I'd noticed a cartridge laying on the couch in the crack to my right, so I picked it up and started playing with it a bit. somewhere in there firearms got brought into conversation and I ended up eyeballing his collection. Mostly revolvers, couple of duck guns and a few deer rifles. Then we started talking about hunting and stuff (been about an hour and a half now since we were supposed to leave) and she was getting pissed. I spent another 30 minutes or so talking to her dad about going hunting sometime in the winter, and he asked me if I could PLEASE convince her to go with us.

We headed out, went to pick up some fast food at a sonic, ate, and went home. She dumped me the next day lol. Never did go hunting =/
 
This wasnt directed at me but i was there for it. After prom we went to this girls house to change for post-prom. this girl was the friend to my date and this girls whole family hunts and has guns there are deer mounts all over the house. I walked into the living room and there are shotgun shells and bullets everywhere and i asked should these be left out and the girl whose house it was said, "its just to scare my date". but i walk into a dark room where they said i could change and i turned on the light and there were guns everywhere on the bed and standing in the corners. i laughed and said these must be for him too.

but my dates dad didnt have to resort to guns he was a good 6' 7" and i am 5'11" and all he said was take care of my daughter and keep her safe, and i said yes sir. thats all that was needed to be said.
 
My daughter is 14 and not allowed to date yet but when the time comes I think the taxidermy and shooting trophies in the den will most likely get the point accross....
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Yea right. I found this out the hard way, if you dont allow your daughter to date after 12, she'll defonitaly be dating without your permission. My son comes home and tells me that half of his friends arent allowed to date, but do anyway. Hes in middle school.
 
Anyway dad gets up to get daughter, Jr. and I are now alone , our conversation is light, and pleasant. I reach into the Ice chest for a beer, I offer him one "sure Mr." and reaches for it. I tell him to leave date over.
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Brilliant I love it. I have two daughters who thankfully are not anywhere near dating age. However the thought of what I was once like, and what kids are like today scares the bejesus out of me. As far as showing off your guns, bad idea. Should his intentions be less than honorable, and something bad happens to "my little girl" then he will get a good look at them :fire: . Honestly there isnt much more you can do that is of much effect other than raise your kids right, and hope she makes the right decisions. Once they leave the house all the threats, and displays of bravado will be water under the bridge. Hormones do not fear shotguns.
 
Here's a fun one...
Daughter starts dating a "bad boy" to annoy daddy.
Pop shows bad boy menacing gun collection with an evil grin.
Bad boy looks scared and respectful, and says all the right "good boy" things to make Pop think it's all settled.

Bad boy actually secretly thinks "sweeeeet guns!".

Bad boy and daughter play at home while pop's away, and during a break in the clandestine naughtiness, bad boy decides to check out ol' pop's menacingly cool guns himself (and tells his bad boy buddies too).

Yay!
 
I Thank God daily that He gave me sons and no daughters. My boys have been raised to be respectful of parents as well as daughters and they have yet to have anyone clean a gun in their presence except for me and them doing it together after a day at the range. If it did occur I expect they would help Dad finish before the date began. My prayers are with all you guys with daughters.
 
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