Using Your Collection to Intimidate Daughter's Boyfriends

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Daddy's Little GIrl

Never used a gun, but I did use one of my big ol' Collies not long ago.
Stepdaughter turned 13 last January. Good-lookin' young fella...about 14...comes callin' on Saturday, and they go out in the yard for a game of frisbee. Lookin' through the window, I notice that he's gettin' just a tiny bit too touchy for a game of frisbee...so I opened the door and let the one out who has taken it on himself to lay in front of her bedroom door at night. None other than our boomerang who came back last August after almost 5 years in the mountains with a family...Elvis J. Dawg. Big boy...about 85 pounds/28 inches at the shoulder...and still not back up to fightin' weight after the "care" that his adoptive family gave him.

When the boy would walk toward her, ol' EJ would head him off and stand betwixt'em...starin' straight at him. No threat...No growl...No show of teeth. Just the unmistakable mesage that a Collie sends in situations like this: "Keep a bit more distance, sir...and your hands belong at your sides or in your pockets. Thank you! Proceed! I'll fetch the frisbee if you'd like."

He got the message after about the thrid try. It was hilarious.:D
 
Forgive me if someone already suggested this, but why not just take the kid shooting? Mutually beneficial. You can accomplish your original objective of making him aware of your gun ownership, and might introduce someone to shooting, win-win situation.
 
My sister dated a loser once.

Not intentionally, one time he came to our house late at night and there was all 350 pounds of my father at the kitchen table in his underwear cleaning the Mossberg. With his false teeth removed.

He was gone after that.
 
Wouldn't have worked with me.
It would have just made me want to spend more time with her...
And her dad. :D
 
"My sister dated a loser once.

Not intentionally, one time he came to our house late at night and there was all 350 pounds of my father at the kitchen table in his underwear cleaning the Mossberg. With his false teeth removed.

He was gone after that."
That kid was probably scarred for life...
 
A buddy of mine showed his daughter's boyfriend his gun collection.
Kids talk.
Six weeks later his house gets broken into and all his guns stolen.

He eventually recovered his guns, and his daughter got a whole new
set of friends, but what a PITA.

Walter
 
How would these men vote?

If their experience with guns began with being threatened with death, would they be pro-RKBA later?
 
Well not an intentional act but one day I happened to be cleaning my Mossberg shotgun when my daughter came in with a perspect boyfriend . He nervously eyed my shotgun and ask if that is what I was going to use on him if he misbehaved with my duaghter . I responded 'No , I'm not that old fashoined ' , he sighed with relief where upon I said , 'I'm more up to date that that and I'll use this .' simultaneously pulling my WSAR-10 AK clone from behind the chair where I was sitting . He never came back .. a few weeks late I heard he was prominent drug user/dealer in her high school and had been expelled .
 
this thread is by far the best yet. i think if i had a daughter id probably do something like all of you have suggested. to be perfectly honest, i have no idea how i would react beyond making it clear that 1. she comes back on time and 2. any mistreatment will result in serious bodily harm. i guess when he walks in and my shotgun is in the corner, my pistol on the counter and a whetstone in my hand sharpening my cold steel ODA the point will be clear.
 
Haha, a lot of funny and insightful posts in this thread! I'm 21 myself, but I still remember what it's like to be a teen. I don't know how to react myself. If I have a daughter, some part of me wishes I could play barrier badass dad and do the whole .45/shovel/45 acres thing and scare off any dirtbags or thoughts of doing anything unseemly with her. But on the other hand, I've been the teen boy meeting the father trying to lay down his intimidation and ground rules, and it always comes across as pretty corny and made him look like a dork. I'd stand there and try to look serious and be thinking, "come on, this is lame, we both know you're not going to do anything". No matter what, I think basically any guy, after 5 mins alone with the girl away from the house alone in the car a cute half naked girl giggling and rubbing up on you, your animal instincts pretty much overwhelm all conscious thought and he's quickly forgotten. And your body pretty much tells you it's back to the mission at hand.

I guess it comes down to how the girl was raised. If she acts like a slut, she's going to be treated like one and there's nothing a father can do about it. If she acts like a lady, you pretty much realize you're wasting your time if you're looking for a quick lay within minutes of meeting her and move on to easier things. Especially here in college, away from my parents, we revert to what we are. Every weekend night, at parties and clubs there are plenty of girls that love getting drunk and throwing themselves at guys, and we're happy to take them. A lot of them are seemingly nice girls that you'd never imagine was so wild if you'd met them elsewhere. Their dads can't have any influence at that point. I think you've just got to try to raise them well enough that they can decide whats good for themselves. Or just not have daughters. God, I hope I don't have daughters.
 
My uncle has actually used this one on his daughter's boyfriends, at least one of them anyhow. Sat down at the kitchen table with the guy across from him, pulled out the colt commander, placed it on the table and said something allong the lines of "your too young to be a dad, and im too young to be a grandad. do we have an understanding?" as far as i know the guy stuck arround for awhile.

I've personally never had anything like this happen, but i do worry about waking up staring at a shotgun with an angry father behind it occasionally...:D
 
There is an awful lot of wisdom in Razorburn's post. As for this:
If you think you've got to threaten your daughter's date then you've already failed as a parent.
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It's partly true and partly not. In my (extremely) limited opinion, the important thing is good parenting long, long, long before dating becomes a topic. Even then, there might be times when a bit of fear is useful for a father.

Personally, I've never run into the situation from the victim's perspective. Although I did once run into a girl who was quick to tell me about how she competed in local GLOCK shooting matches (while a plus, she still definitely wasn't my type). Never did meet her father...can only wonder what that would have been like.
 
My father-in-law tried this on me when my wife and I were dating, and all I could think was, "Holy crap! I'd better not get caught!!"

Seriously, though, he did get me back into guns after I had been out of them for several years after a bad experience. I had and still have the utmost respect for him. He never said anything nasty to me, just displayed his guns and talked to me as if I were an adult.
 
"razorburn" i agree with what you said about girls getting treated how they act. personally i think the girls getting drunk and throwing themselves at guys is poor behavior and i would never want to be with a girl like that, not for 1 second. i do understand though about being the young man in front of the father. while ive never met my gf's father since he lives in a diffirent state her step-dad never intimidated me. he was smaller, lighter and had no fighting experiance whereas i am 6 foot, meatier (still slim) and have studied martial arts. i respected what SHE wanted and it worked out fine. i was 17 (almost 19 now) and pretty much did what i want. if she said no, that was the end of it and she is by far a very respectible young lady. even having moved to FL we are still together and im still eager to take her father shooting sometime because, as far as i know, he hasent done much. still gotta teach said gf to shoot as well. cheers - JB :)
 
I worked with a guy who showed his daughter's boyfriend some of his toys, which the boy promptly stole, safe and all with the help of 3 of his friends who lifted the safe out of his garage. They recovered the torch-cut safe, 2 ruined guns, and the rest were never found. All but a couple were heirlooms.

Stupid idea, on many levels.
 
Campers, the real way to freak out the budding lotharios...

Have a shotgun shell collection on the mantel...

They've all got names on 'em (sharpies are good for this).

They've been fired.

Except for one.

Boyfriend's name is on that one.

Have a shovel and a wheelbarrow propped by the garage. Fondle it when you ask when he's gonna bring her home...
 
A very timely topic for me as my eldest daughter is 13.

I have very seriously given thought lately to sitting her & her younger sister down and telling them that I've spent time in prison, thinking to tell them it was either for murder or manslaughter, and that I'd learned my lessons & repaid society, etc., etc. Of course, I'll have just enough details of a story ready for the inevitable questions, probably along the lines of "I was defending the honor of a young lady."

Then when the time comes, I can look the boy(s) straight in the eye and very quietly tell them "I got no problem going back to prison."

I think of the look on the kid's face when he sarcastically tells them that I tried some bs story about prison, and they let him know, believing wholeheartedly, that IT'S TRUE !!!!!!!!

Sam
 
hahaha, I owned more firearms in HS than my HS girlfriend's dad did, so he didn't try. Plus, I had about a foot and 80 pounds on him! All that being said, we got along like peas and carrots and I am still friendly with him to this day (18 years later!).

As an aside that may or may not be appropriate for the boards, he also put me in the single most uncomfortable position I have ever been in. I dated the same girl pretty much all four years of high school, so as you might expect, we had gotten well past the "friendly" stage. One day, I show up to take her to a movie, and she was in her room getting ready. Her dad and I are sitting there talking about football, and all of a sudden he just rolls out and says "So, I understand you and my daughter have been having sex." You would be amazed at the number of possible responses, both verbal and physical, that ran through my head as I sat and stared at him, but in the end, I decided that honesty was the best policy and so I said "Yes sir we are.". He then stabbed me.




Seriously though, he looked me square in the eye and said "are you being safe?" and I said "yes sir we are.". He said "well, I don't approve, but I can't stop it either" and then we transitioned right back into talking about the Broncos, or at least he did. I don't think I have ever, EVER been that uncomfortable since.
 
and all of a sudden he just rolls out and says "So, I understand you and my daughter have been having sex."
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"Just the basics so far. She has a lot left to learn, you know."

:D
 
I never needed a gun to intimidate a 16 year old boy.

That being said, with my oldest daughter, now 26, I have taken a couple of suitors shooting. One was clueless. He's gone. The other suitor brought his own guns and bought the ammo. She's planning on marrying him. Daddy approves.
 
If you haven't raised your children with enough self worth to conduct themselves properly on a date, trying to intimidate their dates with threats of violence is too little, too late. And, as someone above said, you will just look silly to the young man.

My girls are 28 and 32, both married to outstanding young men who I consider part of the family.

The only thing I have said to my daughters' dates before they left was:
"You take care of my little girl."
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