Geez, I would hate to be in a relationship with some of the people on here. If you care more about a gun than you do your spouse then something is wrong. I love to shoot and I like my guns. However if I had to choose between my relationship (14 years now) and my guns I would sell every one I owned tomorrow.
A nice sentiment, however, how can you value a relationship with someone who dosen't value, or is at least tolerant, of something that's important to you and a big part of who you are?
It dosen't even really matter what it is she wants you to give up, although few things are a constitutionaly enumerated right like firearms ownership is.
If your spouse
seriously wants to make you give up something you love, that person was a poor choice for a spouse, period.
At the risk of sounding a tad crass, Playboy, I suspect you only feel this way knowing you'll never have to make the choice... However, that's a very good thing, it means you have a good wife.
When we were engaged, my own wife played the same game, perhaps not as hard as some stories on the gun boards. My sixth sense told me it was more of a push-n-pull control gambit in our relationship, than it was about guns. It came up again right before we were married, then after we were married, and bought a house. Then it was that "I could keep them, but out of the hosue" when we learned we were having children. Each time I calmly put my foot down, and told her it wasn't negotiable. That ended it.
(Once, early on in the "game" she got pouty and taunted me in jest, saying she'd just have to get rid of my guns herself, and what-was-I-gonna-do-about-it etc. I shot back that I didn't want to be married to someone who was facing "Federal charges" for selling guns not "registered" to her. In her ignornace, she believed me, and the look on her face
was priceless. LOL...)
My wife is still highly disinterested in firearms, but she's tolerant of my collection and shooting. And the pittance of time and money I've dontated to the Wisconsin Concealed Carry Association. I've even gotten a firearm for my birthday every couple of years...
My own experiances tell me that in probably 90% of these "Help! My gf/fiancee/wife is an Anti, and is giving me ultimatums." type of threads, the underlying cause is realy just the testing of boundaries and the dominance games that are normal human nature, even in "good" relationships. 5% are people who've had bad experiances with firearms in thier past. And 5% hard-core anti's...
My simplest advice on significant others vs. your firearms? Get a safe, be responsible, and don't bend one inch on the issue of guns or RKBA. If it was meant to be, she'll relent, if it wasn't, she'll leave, and problem solved.
When sex-offender registry websites became all the rage, my wife's eyes were opened when she saw that we had one living only three doors down from us! (Fortunately he's only a third-degee offender, not with children, and it was over ten years ago. For all we know, it was a "date gone bad", and he got the book thrown at him..) nevertheless, it was a real eye-opener.
That night, she wanted to know the combination to my electronic quick-access pistol vault.