ShooterMcGavin
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- Jan 11, 2007
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First, let me state that I am very secretive about my choice to carry!! I am not looking for ways to tell everyone that I carry, nor anyone who is not a very close friend. If you think your gun can and should be concealed from every other person in your life, then we simply disagree.
I believe that there are some people in my life who I need to have the gun-talk with, before they just spot it on me - roommate, potential girlfriend, maybe someone else who visits my house regularly or spontaneously. I open carry when I am in my house, so it's ridiculous to think I am going to conceal my gun from my roommate. It's my house - I want to be comfortable.
Here's the (or "a") scenario... I started dating a girl (1 date so far), who is kinda liberal. She does not know I carry. We have talked about guns, briefly, and she is not comfortable with them. Oddly, she did express an attraction to swords. She didn't say she "hates" guns or anything, but she does not see a need. She does see the importance of self-defense and she does carry pepper spray. I see the potential to change her thinking about guns, but I do not want scare her when I first bring up the fact that I carry. How do you gently broach the topic that you carry, to someone who is not very comfortable or familiar with guns??
Do you start by supposing a plausible need for defense or a past circumstance that warranted a gun, and then go into "you should know that I carry a gun for such a situation"? I'm thinking that's the way to do it, especially if you cite a past threat/tragedy. It says that "I carry a gun and there is a good reason". If I invite her out to the range for a date (in order to tell her), she will realize that I own and carry a gun, and she might find that method to be evasive. I don't like that. Do you just come out, after an awkward silence, and say "I carry a gun!"? Do you have another method, beside brandishing?
I believe that there are some people in my life who I need to have the gun-talk with, before they just spot it on me - roommate, potential girlfriend, maybe someone else who visits my house regularly or spontaneously. I open carry when I am in my house, so it's ridiculous to think I am going to conceal my gun from my roommate. It's my house - I want to be comfortable.
Here's the (or "a") scenario... I started dating a girl (1 date so far), who is kinda liberal. She does not know I carry. We have talked about guns, briefly, and she is not comfortable with them. Oddly, she did express an attraction to swords. She didn't say she "hates" guns or anything, but she does not see a need. She does see the importance of self-defense and she does carry pepper spray. I see the potential to change her thinking about guns, but I do not want scare her when I first bring up the fact that I carry. How do you gently broach the topic that you carry, to someone who is not very comfortable or familiar with guns??
Do you start by supposing a plausible need for defense or a past circumstance that warranted a gun, and then go into "you should know that I carry a gun for such a situation"? I'm thinking that's the way to do it, especially if you cite a past threat/tragedy. It says that "I carry a gun and there is a good reason". If I invite her out to the range for a date (in order to tell her), she will realize that I own and carry a gun, and she might find that method to be evasive. I don't like that. Do you just come out, after an awkward silence, and say "I carry a gun!"? Do you have another method, beside brandishing?