clutch
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Mr Greeter needs counseling and/or another church. I hope you have a serpa type holster.
That would freak me out. You are a calm and restrained man.
That would freak me out. You are a calm and restrained man.
Thanks. That clears up a lot of uncertainty in my interpretation of your posts.The question I have in this is how, exactly, does one enforce a larger personal space with out escalating the situation? Do I start yelling at the guy as soon as he enters my bubble? Do I cause a scene in the middle of the foyer? Do I punch him in the face? How do I get this guy to respect my boundaries with out resorting to violence?
I don’t remember the exact wording I used first time he touched my gun but I verbalized very clearly and very specifically that touching my gun was not acceptable behavior and that I viewed it as a threat and for whatever reason he didn’t take me seriously which lead to the second incident.
The second time it happened I told him very clearly do not ever put your hands on me like that again and instead of respecting the boundary I set he got offended that I had raised my voice to him and told me that I needed to mellow out and realize that “this is a Ministry not the FBI” (his words) so I know there was some impact to what I said but I really don’t feel that I tripped the “hey this guy is serious about me staying out of his bubble” switch with this guy. I think that at this point he still thinks it’s amusing, hence the letter to the head of security.
I believe that if I physically keep my distance I will alleviate 90% of the problem and the next time I have to be in close proximity (he stands right outside the security office) to him I’m going to tell him very clearly “Do not approach me I want nothing to do with you.” But short of actually punching him in the nose (euphuism for becoming physically violent) how do I enforce my space?
Lost Sheep said:Point of clarity: I still am unclear from your posts reiterating your instruction "do not ever put your hands on me like that again" vs your post stating "touching my gun was not acceptable behavior". Is it at all remotely possible that he does not understand the gravity (emphasize "grave") of the situation?
Trunk Monkey said:The question I have in this is how, exactly, does one enforce a larger personal space with out escalating the situation? Do I start yelling at the guy as soon as he enters my bubble? Do I cause a scene in the middle of the foyer? Do I punch him in the face? How do I get this guy to respect my boundaries with out resorting to violence?
Trunk Monkey said:At this point I think he’s amused by the rise he got out of me and I really think he isn’t going to take it seriously unless there’s some consequence
idiot reached for my gun [emphasis added]
GBExpat said:Careful, don't let your testosterone get in the way of rational thought.
beatledog7 said:Does this describe the greeter's mental capacity, or your attitude toward anyone who doesn't respect gun safety, personal space, privacy, and personal security in the same ways as you?