Packing on First Few Dates

Should you pack on first few dates with a girl?

  • Pack-Heat

    Votes: 302 85.8%

  • Leave it in the car

    Votes: 21 6.0%

  • Leave it at home

    Votes: 29 8.2%
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On my first date with my girlfriend there was a shooting about a block away from us in Seattle. We hid behind a cement structure and I pulled out my gun (out of sight of everyone) and called the police. My girlfriend has never questioned my motive for carrying a gun. I recently bought her a house gun/target gun, and she's getting to be a better shot than me!

I guess that's about the best introduction to weapons you could hope to have with a new girl, hope you guys have as easy of a time justifying it.

BTW, never saw the shooter and I don't know if they were caught.
 
First off, you are carrying concealed and there is no need for her to know that you are carrying other than when it is "needed". In such a scenario she might be glad, freak out, or maybe she will have already pulled out her gun.....

Regardless, don't try to impress her that you are trying to protect her or accidentally show your piece. If physical contact is going to occur then skip the firearm until you both get to know each other more (from a mental viewpoint).
 
If you're carrying on a date, make sure you drive. I learned from experience.

It was more like the fifth or sixth date, and she knew I carried, but made fun of me for feeling the need to carry a gun. We arranged to have lunch, and since she was already driving she picked me up at my office. We went to a local deli I had picked up food from but never sat inside. There was abolutely no warning about the fact that their sit-down restaurant served bottled beer until I had opened the menu.

Not wanting to be in violation of the law, I immediately got up to put my gun in the car safe, suddenly remembering that I was not driving.

It was pretty awkward, having to ask her for her car keys so I could put my gun away. She handed me the keys, but mocked me for a bit afterward.
 
It's easy for us gun nut strangers you've only met online to say 'well, if she can't handle it, drop her like an empty mag', but you have to do what you think is best, regardless of the poll results. I know that isn't much of an answer, but tis my two dorrar.
 
Pack. Shut up.

When she discovers it, say "Don't worry, I'm licensed for it."

("License" is a stronger word than "Permit.")

You will then discover whether the realationship is worth pursuing.

Who knows? She may be "licensed," too.
 
Whatever happened to "concealed means concealed"?
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What Pax said, and do it discreetly for goodness sake. A Ruger P is WAY too bulky to CC on a 1st date. Unless you have some excellent concealment gear, you're going to have a hard time hiding it.
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I agree with these, a KelTec/Seecamp/etc would be good here. You cant blame a girl for being freaked out by a man she doesnt really know well having a gun on them while being alone with her at times. Theres an awful lot of wackos about.

Plus the reason you do have a CCW is for a bad circumstance that you cant forsee. It would kinda suck for this time to be on your first date with a chick you like.
 
Tell her up front. When you're making plans (about a meet) or when you go to pick her up, let her know that you're licensed to carry and plan to do so.

If she has a problem with that, you can then decide whether the date is worth it or not.

I guarantee that any inclination toward freaking out is generated as much by the surprise ("why didn't he mention that") as the presence of a firearm.
 
If this girl turns out to be worthwhile, she'll eventually have to know.

Don't make a point of bringing it up, don't mention it. Let her find it. When she does, don't make a big deal about it, treat it no differently than the fact you're wearing pants.

If you're comfortable with it, and she finds it on her own (presumably by undressing or touching you), she should be into you enough to also be comfortable with it.

If not, she wasn't worth it anyway.

Now, none of this applies if you're just out looking for a new piece of A. If thats the case, leave it in the car, don't bring up guns at all, and make sure she drinks a lot more than you. :evil:

Of course, I have to brag about the current girlfriend and I's first date. She showed up with a pistol case under her arm and asked me to help her fix her ruger. The night's plans were changed and we spent it cleaning guns. :D
 
Aside from self-interest, I also believe that she has the right to know that she's spending time with someone who is armed and react accordingly. It's no one's place to make that decision for her.
 
My first date (and second) with my now wife was on Burbon Street in New Orleans. If you've ever been, you often have to park a ways from the strip, or in parking garages-- then cross a LOT of dark areas and alleys. You better believe I had my handgun!

And I definately agree with the posts that mentioned that if she is freaking out now, it probably won't get better later.

The downside to getting one that doesn't freak out is that my wife took my Glock and now carrys it with her.

Oh well... An excuse to get another handgun!


All the best!

John
 
I hope you're an older, conservative male. This has to be the absolute worst place to ask for dating advice if you're a normal young guy. It's almost entirely populated by the former. And for the record, no, I don't carry when I date or go somewhere expecting to meet girls. We also often drink, or go to clubs, where it's neither legal or practical to carry. Liberal girls are pretty much all I meet actually, being in college, so it'd probably scare them if I brought it up on the 1st date. If I like her, I bring it in slowly after we've built a bond, and that's worked very well. I don't mind though... I find conservative girls usually don't take care of themselves as well and so are less physically attractive, and aren't as fun.
 
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Aside from self-interest, I also believe that she has the right to know that she's spending time with someone who is armed and react accordingly. It's no one's place to make that decision for her.
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You are kidding, right? Are you an anti?? You act like carrying is a bad thing or something that is strange to do. The way you said, "She has the right to know that she's spending time with someone who is armed and react accordingly. It's no one's place to make that decision for her" makes it sound like she had to decide to have sex or not with you because you have Herpes or some other terrible disease.

I'm very confused about your statement and it's disturbing at the least.
 
When you take a new girl out on a date, you should not try and impress her just to get a piece. Unless that is your only goal, of course.

On the contrary, you should look at her with the utmost scrutiny, and expose her to adversity to see if you should get rid of her before you make any commitment to her. If she does not share your important values, be it firearms, concealed carry, religion, politics, hunting, fishing, sports, dump her! And of all those, firearms is probably the most important. Take her shooting and camping. If she does not fit in, dump her pronto! If she does not eat meat, shoot her. You can decide if I'm kidding!

Just might save yourself a divorce 10 years down the line..
 
Open honest communication is the best. I have been seeing the SO for 5 years now and I knew he carried, but he, knowing I am a bit skiddish about hand guns always kept it well out of sight. Well, almost. Lol

One night, my daughter had taken my mother out to Charlestown West Va for her birthday. They were coming in around 2am but I had already gone to bed. Next thing I know, my daughter is trying to open the door with her key. I had forgotten to tell the SO that I was expecting them in the middle of the night. When they rattled the door, he was at the door loaded yelling "who's there?" I jumped up realizing who it was and stopped him before she got in the door. His words to me were, "it's a good thing she answered in english."
 
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the only problem is if there is a little after date activity. The last thing u want is to be stripping off your clothes and have to explain what the big lump in your pants is...lol
 
this thread is hysterical

going back a decade or so ... i remember not packing on first dates ... simply for the fact that the dates usually involved responsibly enjoying some alcoholic beverages.
 
Don't make a point of bringing it up, don't mention it. Let her find it. When she does, don't make a big deal about it, treat it no differently than the fact you're wearing pants.
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Very good advice. Also, if she does freak out, show her your "liscence to carry" and make a James Bond joke- it'll lighten the mood.
 
Well Seancass, you gotta point. Somehow though, things always got 'straightened out'.:)

Biker
 
Not to sound stuck up or anything, but I have no shortages finding women who want to date "the gun guy" and would not date a over controlling overbearing libby woman who thought it was "un-couth" or not "politically correct" for me to carry regaurdless of if the reason I wanted to carry. I think there is something to the theory of the casteration of the American Male in that women are trying everyday in every way to "womenize" men and make us more like them....I aint buyin in and never will. If she doesn''t like my gun....she can find some passive idiot who will cry if she gets attacked.
 
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