Packing on First Few Dates

Should you pack on first few dates with a girl?

  • Pack-Heat

    Votes: 302 85.8%

  • Leave it in the car

    Votes: 21 6.0%

  • Leave it at home

    Votes: 29 8.2%
  • Total voters
    352
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I have had exactly one date since I got my carry license, I chose to carry and it did not turn out well. We went to a movie and then were going back to my place to "watch a movie" and she saw it before we got into the house...she pretty much disappeared. No big loss, although she was kind of a big girl.:uhoh:
 
Byrd

hmm it is funny trying to explain a pistol on the night stan
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Funny story. I had a date freak out a bit when she reached in my night stand drawer looking for one kind of protection and found a different type, a USP45. She freaked a bit, and I explained that I wasn't a gangbanger and that it was legal, and showed her my permit... then she said can I see it? I un loaded it, handed it to her and the irst word out of her mouth was "Hot, will you take me shooting?"
 
I think one THR member had a bad experience with carrying on a date, he had to stash the gun in his glovebox so they could go on a walk in the park. His date didnt take kindly to also seeing a box of condoms in there and referred to it as a "rape kit". Suffice to say, the walk was not as fun as he thought it would be.
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My buddy told me I should bring protection.... you know... just in case. :D
 
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Calliope...

We have a saying in these parts - Hangin' with a fat girl is like ridin' a Honda. It's kinda fun as long as your Bros don't see ya.

Biker
 
Back when I was dating I had one strict rule. I'm me. If you don't like me then I'd rather find out sooner and not waste my time. I always hoped the girl would do me the same courtesy (though many didn't with everything from going along with something they didn't enjoy to various body fakery).

In short, if you normally carry then carry. Don't MAKE an issue of it but be ready to address the issue if it should come up.

The reply that still cracks me up was one someone else here posted a while back. He was wearing a smartcarry (crotch carry) and things got a little intimate and she "found" it.

Her - what the hell is that.
Him - Ummm, medical device.

I still laugh every time I think about that one. :D
 
I went on a group date a couple of years ago and we ended up at a bowling alley. They served alcohol, so carrying was off limits. At one point, while I was in the middle of my turn, a couple of guys came up to my date and started trying to pick her up. She managed to get them to leave before I made it over there, and the first thing she said to me was, "I can't wait until I get my concealed hangun license." Admittedly, that wasn't the appropriate situation to use one, but for a second or two I just stood there in shock. That's the last thing I was expecting to hear.


There are some women out there that would actually prefer you to carry.
 
You are kidding, right? Are you an anti?? You act like carrying is a bad thing or something that is strange to do.
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It is neither a good thing nor a bad thing - merely strange. And it is, relatively speaking 'strange to do.' In every state, those carrying (concealed or otherwise) are a significant minority - so yes, on those terms it is strange and it isn't something a woman (or man) would expect automatically.

The way you said, "She has the right to know that she's spending time with someone who is armed and react accordingly. It's no one's place to make that decision for her" makes it sound like she had to decide to have sex or not with you because you have Herpes or some other terrible disease.

I'm very confused about your statement and it's disturbing at the least.
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Why? She might be an anti- and she has every right to feel that way and choose her friends and dates accordingly. If guns make her uncomfortable, that should be respected.

Just as you might not want to date someone opposed to firearms, she might not want to go on a date with someone carrying. It's that simple.

Frankly, all the 'hide it' responses are terrible relationship advice and more likely to lead to issues when and if she finds out.
 
if a girl who doesn't know me very well finds out I have a gun with me on our date, she might freak out and think I'm psycho.
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In my experience, even seriously anti dates were only curious.
 
My opinion on this is simple and here is why. years ago a family aquaintance and his wife were out for a stroll. They got jumped and the woman was raped, both survived. They ended up getting a divorce because the guy couldnt get over that he couldnt protect her, and the girl could not get over it as well. Id rather lose the date, or be prepared for the worst and be able to defend than to have to live with what I couldnt do for the rest of my life. Case closed for me.
 
I don't think this is as simple as "if she doesn't like my gun, I don't want her". My wife says she wouldn't have been comfortable early in our relationship if she knew I carried at the time, even if it were legal. In her experience, bad guys carried, good guys didn't. Now she'll ask when I go out "Do you have all your stuff? Phone, keys, gun?", has her own CHL, and (sometimes) carries an XD40.
 
I downsize my usual carry gun to a pocket gun for dates with women that may be unaware that I carry. My KelTec is small enough that it goes unnoticed. Though I have heard, "wow, your pants are really heavy" a time or two, nobody's ever known what it was unless I told them.
 
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wooderson,
I would try and explain how wrong most of what you said is but it's obvious you have bought into the anti way of thinking. Either you have always felt this way or they have gotten to you. Either way, I've found over the years nothing I say will change your way of thinking so why bother. Even though you may not think so, you are leaning to the dark side. Why are you even on this forum?
 
ummm... ArchAngelCD? Those are pretty harsh words...

There ARE a lot of people out there who equate non-police carrying of weapons to bad guys. That isn't an anti view: it's reality, especially for those who aren't exposed to it. Heck... my wife and mom-in-law were neutral/a touch anti when I met them, they had no idea anybody might be able to carry. Now my wife helps us fight for CCW, and I've taught mom-in-law to shoot...

And wooderson is right: if someone has anti beliefs that are really strong, they DO deserve the right to decide if they want to be around a gun person. Where is the problem with that? To put it in a different perspective, wouldn't a Christian want to know the religion of the person they were thinking about asking out?
 
I don't think this is as simple as "if she doesn't like my gun, I don't want her". My wife says she wouldn't have been comfortable early in our relationship if she knew I carried at the time, even if it were legal. In her experience, bad guys carried, good guys didn't. Now she'll ask when I go out "Do you have all your stuff? Phone, keys, gun?", has her own CHL, and (sometimes) carries an XD40.
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+1
 
I always pack heat...even when I don't have a gun on me...
...just kidding. Never know what pieces of society's wonders end up next to you in the car.
 
I also believe that she has the right to know that she's spending time with someone who is armed and react accordingly
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I would disagree and say that she has no "right" to know whats in your pants (be it your gun, whats in your wallet, your favorite style of undies, or other) unless you choose to share it with her. I don't see much point in hiding it, but I don't think you should be under any obligation to offer it upfront.
 
How old are you? How is this any of your mom's business?

I do agree that a smaller gun than the Ruger might be a good choice if you want it to remain discrete on the date though.
 
Spooney,

Got a problem with big girls? It takes a big body to hold all this fabulousness!



Calli
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No problem with them in general just the last two I have been around in particular. I do agree with the Honda comment in the thread;)
 
I would try and explain how wrong most of what you said is but it's obvious you have bought into the anti way of thinking. Either you have always felt this way or they have gotten to you. Either way, I've found over the years nothing I say will change your way of thinking so why bother. Even though you may not think so, you are leaning to the dark side. Why are you even on this forum?
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Well, I paid cash for a CPO P226R today, so I guess I can't be too anti, eh?

Don't have a clue what I said that could be interpreted as anti-.
 
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