Henry Bowman
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Generally, I think that "I own 40 acres out in the country, a backhoe, and I know how to use it" is more intimidating.
But I agree with:
But I agree with:
Using Your Collection to Intimidate Daughter's Boyfriends
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Moondoggie
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I read a joke in Reader's Digest several years ago....
Two fathers were discussing the trevails of their daughter's boyfriends. One said that he was sick and tired of waiting up until all hours of the night for his daughter to be brought home by the guy she dated.
The other father explained that this was never a problem for him. He simply told the boyfriend what time curfew was and collected a $20 deposit, which was automatically forfeited if the daughter arrived back at home so much as 1 minute late. He said that he'd never got to keep a deposit yet.
It would have certainly motivated me to be punctual.
Two fathers were discussing the trevails of their daughter's boyfriends. One said that he was sick and tired of waiting up until all hours of the night for his daughter to be brought home by the guy she dated.
The other father explained that this was never a problem for him. He simply told the boyfriend what time curfew was and collected a $20 deposit, which was automatically forfeited if the daughter arrived back at home so much as 1 minute late. He said that he'd never got to keep a deposit yet.
It would have certainly motivated me to be punctual.
History Prof
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I've managed to get a few kids to stop dressing like that just by telling them where the style emerged. The first people to dress that way did so to tell the other prisoners that they were "willing partners" and didn't have to be jail raped.
"Keep dressing like that, and some big ol' dude with prison tats all over his body is gonna come up to you with big ol' smile on his face, put his arm around you and say 'hey there, purty baby!'"
On Topic: Anyone ever see the video of the kid wearing those kind of pants, pulled about 15-20 guns out of his pants and laid them on the table? Was some kind of PSA about why schools shouldn't allow that style of pants, or something.
My father in law tried something similiar (in a joking way) the first time I came by the house when I had just started dating his daughter. He pulled my aside and started showing me his long guns, compound bows, cross bows, etc. It didn't turn out to good for him when I got excited and struck up a conversation about them.
That was over 11 years ago and we (my wife and I) shoot with him about once a week now and he has given me 1 rifle, 2 carbines and a shotgun in the last year.
That was over 11 years ago and we (my wife and I) shoot with him about once a week now and he has given me 1 rifle, 2 carbines and a shotgun in the last year.
geekWithA.45
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Our parenting goal for our girls is to help them be happy, balanced and formidable, in all senses of the word.
My daughters won't be dating anyone until she shows us that her will is her own, and that she can enforce it.
My daughters won't be dating anyone until she shows us that her will is her own, and that she can enforce it.
Whitewolf 508
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Been there
My daughter's ex boyfriend knew that I carried on a regular basis as he saw me come home from work at the police department and take off my jacket. The night that I found out that he had been abusive to her I did not really have to say a whole lot to him and he left without being stupid enough to ever come back or call.
Her current boyfriend shoots with me on a regular basis. He freaks out because the "fire ant" as we call her regularly outshoots us both with whatever you put in her hand. The only exception is the 12 gauge - it is hard for her to handle at 5 foot 1 and 95 pounds..
She used to shoot with me at the PD range and also outshot most of the officers. One day she even tied the instructor when shooting for score. She was 12 at the time and made a lot of people realize they needed to get to the range more often.
My daughter's ex boyfriend knew that I carried on a regular basis as he saw me come home from work at the police department and take off my jacket. The night that I found out that he had been abusive to her I did not really have to say a whole lot to him and he left without being stupid enough to ever come back or call.
Her current boyfriend shoots with me on a regular basis. He freaks out because the "fire ant" as we call her regularly outshoots us both with whatever you put in her hand. The only exception is the 12 gauge - it is hard for her to handle at 5 foot 1 and 95 pounds..
She used to shoot with me at the PD range and also outshot most of the officers. One day she even tied the instructor when shooting for score. She was 12 at the time and made a lot of people realize they needed to get to the range more often.
Father Knows Best
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Y'all need to lighten up. Of course we all know that. We're just funnin' here.
Seismic Sam
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My doomsday strategy
In case an unpleasant teenage boy ever showed up at my doorstep looking for one of my daughters, my method to get rid of him was devious and perverse to the extreme, but I never got to use it. (Nuts!) The way I had it planned, if some lowlife showed up at my door, I'd wait until my daughter had gone back upstairs to "finish up her makeup", and then I was going to make a pass at the kid MYSELF. (Well THAY there...)
As it turned out my older daughter is extremely picky about her men, and since Brad Pitt and Matt Damon are both taken, she'd rather do without for now.
In case an unpleasant teenage boy ever showed up at my doorstep looking for one of my daughters, my method to get rid of him was devious and perverse to the extreme, but I never got to use it. (Nuts!) The way I had it planned, if some lowlife showed up at my door, I'd wait until my daughter had gone back upstairs to "finish up her makeup", and then I was going to make a pass at the kid MYSELF. (Well THAY there...)
As it turned out my older daughter is extremely picky about her men, and since Brad Pitt and Matt Damon are both taken, she'd rather do without for now. Cliff47
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When my niece started dating, her Dad did not have to resort to meeting the young man at the door with shotgun and cleaning rod in hand. The family Brittany Spaniel (who was VERY attached to the young lady in question), DID meet the fellow. That dog did not snarl, bark, growl or make any other sound until my niece made the introductions (only then did the dog remove his nose from the lad's crotch), and a scratch behind the ears was given. That was one protective pup.
GunnySkox
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Y'all should save y'selves a lot of worry and just let me date your daughters. Uh, providing that the majority of them are over seventeen. Man, this joke would've worked better while I was still in highschool, and not a moron in college, but check out my resume:
I'm currently wearing Khakis which are of the appropriate size AND a belt, a blue Oxford shirt (albeit untucked; a relic from my high school uniform), clean socks, and a khaki Hokies hat.
I don't drink, I don't smoke, and I don't do drugs. The backseat of my car is probably the least comfortable place on earth. I've only been driving a little more than a year, so whilst driving said car, I won't have the capability of doing any kind of stopping-short or any other sneakiness such as that. I'm averse to being touched or touching others, so the best a date might get'd be a hug.
I'm polite, I'm courteous, and better yet, I'm terrified of women.
I'm the perfect date, as far as her dad is concerned!
~GnSx
I'm currently wearing Khakis which are of the appropriate size AND a belt, a blue Oxford shirt (albeit untucked; a relic from my high school uniform), clean socks, and a khaki Hokies hat.
I don't drink, I don't smoke, and I don't do drugs. The backseat of my car is probably the least comfortable place on earth. I've only been driving a little more than a year, so whilst driving said car, I won't have the capability of doing any kind of stopping-short or any other sneakiness such as that. I'm averse to being touched or touching others, so the best a date might get'd be a hug.
I'm polite, I'm courteous, and better yet, I'm terrified of women.
I'm the perfect date, as far as her dad is concerned!
~GnSx
Lone_Gunman
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I disagree with that, and think anyone who believes that has forgotten what its like to be 16.
Most 16 year old boys are not dating because they are looking for friends or wives. They need to know that YOU know what they are trying to do. You need to tell your daughter that you know what he wants to do because you were 16 once too. I don't care if the little SOB is a born again Christian, when he'a alone with your daughter, he is gonna try something.
Blackfork
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Boys and Guns
I'm divorced since my daughter was in second grade. I have a pretty secure living situation, but when you walk in the main room there are guns going to the range, shooting stool, deer skulls with the horns on the wall, signed targets and trophies, rifle team photos, it's obvious that I am familiar with firearms, hunting, shooting, all the stuff boys love.
When my daughter got in trouble, which was often enough if you have a teenager these days, she didn't get un-grounded until she had shot a highpower match with me. I shoot a match two or three times a month. Her first question would be: "Can I bring Denver, or Matt, or David, or whoever she was seeing." I'd get two kids on the firing line instead of one and coach them through the match. Sometimes I shot to show them how it was done, other times just coached.
My impression was that the boys had never spent much time around men doing...guy stuff. They LOVED it. Couldn't get enough. They couldn't believe they could shoot 200, 300, and 600 yards and hit the paper, much less the black bulls-eye target. Plus, when they shot standing I'd put them in a jacket and stand close enough to put my hand on their shoulder or pinch their trigger finger now and then and talk them through the course of fire. They had NEVER, ( it seemed) had anyone pay determined and intense attention and talk them through a skill they were interested in. Most of them wanted to move in at my place start reloading, hunting and shoot every weekend.
Daughter is in her 20s now. I still bump into these big hulky young men around town who have to remind me that we shot a highpower match five or six years ago. For some of them it's the only time they ever shot a firearm then...or now.
You can't do better for a kid- IMHO, your's or someone elses, than to pay attention and teach them something you know.
I'm divorced since my daughter was in second grade. I have a pretty secure living situation, but when you walk in the main room there are guns going to the range, shooting stool, deer skulls with the horns on the wall, signed targets and trophies, rifle team photos, it's obvious that I am familiar with firearms, hunting, shooting, all the stuff boys love.
When my daughter got in trouble, which was often enough if you have a teenager these days, she didn't get un-grounded until she had shot a highpower match with me. I shoot a match two or three times a month. Her first question would be: "Can I bring Denver, or Matt, or David, or whoever she was seeing." I'd get two kids on the firing line instead of one and coach them through the match. Sometimes I shot to show them how it was done, other times just coached.
My impression was that the boys had never spent much time around men doing...guy stuff. They LOVED it. Couldn't get enough. They couldn't believe they could shoot 200, 300, and 600 yards and hit the paper, much less the black bulls-eye target. Plus, when they shot standing I'd put them in a jacket and stand close enough to put my hand on their shoulder or pinch their trigger finger now and then and talk them through the course of fire. They had NEVER, ( it seemed) had anyone pay determined and intense attention and talk them through a skill they were interested in. Most of them wanted to move in at my place start reloading, hunting and shoot every weekend.
Daughter is in her 20s now. I still bump into these big hulky young men around town who have to remind me that we shot a highpower match five or six years ago. For some of them it's the only time they ever shot a firearm then...or now.
You can't do better for a kid- IMHO, your's or someone elses, than to pay attention and teach them something you know.
I'll be facing that in a few short years. For now, I'll say that if I felt I needed to do that, she wouldn't be going in the first place. But the deer head hanging on the wall might be useful...." I actually liked that deer boy...I'm not sure about you though".
Lone_Gunman said:
For the most part you're absolutely right, but as someone who is five years removed from 16, I can tell you that I wasn't like that at that age, and I would bet that a handfull of boys weren't, either.
Some of us were actually mature at 16. Some of us. Ok, very very few.
cambeul41
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In the mid to late ‘50s
My girlfriend’s father kept his shotgun next to the front door. Perhaps that was not uncommon in rural America . . . but this was in Tokyo!
My girlfriend’s father kept his shotgun next to the front door. Perhaps that was not uncommon in rural America . . . but this was in Tokyo!
Strings
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The absolute WORST I ever saw was my neice: "rebellious" taste in men, and skills to deal with most situations as they would arise (at 12, she beat a would-be 16 year-old rapist into a bloody stump). Problem with her was she didn't understand the concept of date-rape drugs, or someone hitting her from behind...
She's 18 now, SEEMS to have corrected her taste in partners, but I'm still a bit worried about her blind spots...
She's 18 now, SEEMS to have corrected her taste in partners, but I'm still a bit worried about her blind spots...
WayneConrad
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This is definately a case where kindness works much better than intimidation.
Shower your angel's date with kindness. Say kind things about him when he's present. Say kind things about him to your angel when he's not present. Express your hope that he's the one she will stay with forever.
Parental endorsement has a way of making a fellow seem much less desirable to your angel.
Shower your angel's date with kindness. Say kind things about him when he's present. Say kind things about him to your angel when he's not present. Express your hope that he's the one she will stay with forever.
Parental endorsement has a way of making a fellow seem much less desirable to your angel.
loki.fish
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Blackfork: You've pretty much hit the nail on the head there. In todays society, most parents don't spend much time with their kids. I wouldn't be suprised if people started doing that how much better society would become. Parents don't fill a kids' time anymore, just TV and video games. People gotta learn how to grow up sometimes, and Hollywood seems to only show the bad. I'm by no means saying that TV and video games are the fault of violence, I'm just saying it's the lack of attention parents pay to their kids.
arthurcw
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I dunno about that???? I think most 16 year old boys would find that EXTREMELY sexy. I least I would have.
When my daughter was 15, she announced she liked a certain guy and he liked her, too. I said, "That's it - I'm buying a shotgun," and went out the door.
When I came home, I brought in a new Benelli Nova. This crossed-up the wife to the point where I actually got to keep it!
When I came home, I brought in a new Benelli Nova. This crossed-up the wife to the point where I actually got to keep it!
PennsyPlinker
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I want to say this as nicely as possible, but this is a crock. I have three daughters, one living out on her own now, one in college, and one still at home. They were all raised "properly" with open communication about premarital sex, etc, blah blah, blah. The same goes for the first few boys who appeared to take them out. Anyone who thinks that they do not need to be reminded, and in the case of high spirited boys, threatened, does not know of what they speak. Sorry, that is the way it is. Hormones will overrule rational thought almost every time.
The first time my older two daughters actually went out unsupervised, I took the two boys who arrived (brothers, and friends of the family) aside when they arrived. The girls already knew what was coming. It was very short and simple, and there was no waving of guns, knives, or clubs around.
"There is to be no reckless driving with my daughters in the car. If you have an accident, you had better die, because if you don't, I will kill you."
"My daughters are to be treated like ladies regardless of how they behave. If you have a problem with their behavior, come to me and I will take care of it. If you fail to treat them like ladies, I will kill you."
"Do you have any questions?"
While these boys were somewhat reckless, they behaved like perfect gentlemen on that date and on many others to follow. The one boy dated my middle daughter for well over a year before she broke it off. She is away at college, and he actually lives with us now while he attends another college. I found out later his own father threatened to "cut that thing off if it came out where it did not belong". There was no doubt in either of their minds that I would follow through if they did something to harm my daughters.
Anyone who wants to whine about how inappropriate this may have been can pass on the post and keep on going. I'm not interested in how you might think I did a poor job. I didn't.
Geronimo45
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Primal urges can be intimidated, and often are. That's the major point of the police, criminal codes.
LkWinnipesaukee
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Being a 16 year old guy, I would probably lose interest in the girl and chill with the father and his guns all night.
Then I'd marry the girl and get to chill with him even more
Then I'd marry the girl
and get to chill with him even moreRosstradamus
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All you guys denying the truth of this statement are just exactly that: in denial.
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